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Chapter IV – El Salvador & Honduras

As we enter El Salvador, we embark on a drive with good roads, a stark contrast to our experiences entering Guatemala and Mexico. Along our way to Santa Ana, we decide to make a stop at the magnificent Santa Teresa Hot Springs. To our delight, we are greeted with a sprawling oasis of about 20 thermal pools, all for a mere $10 per person. The site also boasts a few on-site restaurants, and for an additional $10, we can indulge in a mud bath, unwind in saunas scented with eucalyptus branches or walk on hot stones for memorable natural foot massage. The entire experience is both enjoyable and incredibly rejuvenating.

After a restful night in Santa Ana, we set out to spend a leisurely day at Coatepeque Lake. In Salvadorian dialect, “tepeque” is synonymous with “place of” in a similar way to “tenango” in Guatemala. Situated just 20 minutes away from Santa Ana, the lake offers perfect swimming conditions with its pleasant temperature. We treat ourselves to a boat tour for a mere $50 for the entire group, and in the afternoon, after a delicious lunch, we indulge in the exhilarating experience of jet skiing for only $30 for the three of us. Coatepeque Lake is truly a sight to behold, nestled within the crater of a volcano, with the picturesque Teopan Island adorning its tranquil waters. The surrounding area is dotted with stunning private properties, one of which is said to belong to a wealthy local family known for hosting secretive satanic rituals, as our guide informs us.

As we make our way back to our airbnb, a light indicator in the car alerts us to a weak battery. Throughout our journey, we had noticed the car struggling to start at times, but I had mistakenly attributed it to issues with the spark plugs, believing we could address them upon our return to Costa Rica. I failed to connect the dots when our friend Linda mentioned that the battery had died during a test drive before our arrival. Niek quickly located a place nearby to replace the battery. However, as we drive, the air conditioning fails, and the ABS system malfunctions, making it challenging to steer. Thankfully, we manage to reach the car battery shop parking spot before the battery dies completely. We feel incredibly fortunate and protected, as we couldn’t have gone another meter. The technicians at the shop prove to be incredibly helpful, swiftly replacing the battery within 30 minutes while we enjoy a cup of coffee and dessert, observing the repairs. The battery, an old one from 2019, turns out to be the source of our issues. However, as I start the car once again, I notice that the battery indicator remains illuminated, leading the technician to suspect an issue with the alternator as well. I make an appointment with a mechanic recommended by the technician to address the problem early the next morning. In an unexpected turn of events, this mechanical issue leads the mechanic to discover that we are also dangerously low on oil and anti-freeze after our long drive. For less than $400, all the issues are resolved. I highly recommend to anyone embarking on a similar long drive to make a mid-way stop for a thorough car check-up and even an oil change. I cannot imagine facing the same problems in Mexico’s stifling heat. We feel blessed that our mechanical troubles were swiftly resolved in El Salvador, having minimal impact on our trip schedule.

Our journey now takes us to the capital, San Salvador. En route, we make a stop to experience the thrilling Rainbow Slide, offering breathtaking views of the city. The slide is located at the picnic steak house, where we savor quality meals and I seize the opportunity to forge a bond with the friendly dogs eagerly awaiting their share of bones. Next on our itinerary is the San Salvador volcano, nestled within the Boqueron National Park. The drive proves to be well worth it, as a short 20-minute hike leads us to the summit, where we are treated to awe-inspiring vistas. The volcano’s crater is steep and unique, featuring a smaller crater within its larger expanse. We then make our way to the city center, paying a visit to the National Craft Market. It is an excellent place to purchase affordable souvenirs. It’s worth noting that El Salvador no longer has its own currency and instead utilizes the United States dollar. Bitcoin is also gaining acceptance in various places, including gas stations, where they have a local Salvadoran app to facilitate easy bitcoin payments. I find myself longing for other countries to adopt similar measures as a means to break free from the stronghold of central banks.

In summary, El Salvador exceeds our expectations and proves to be one of the delightful surprises of our trip. Despite being a relatively small country, about half the size of Costa Rica, it boasts good infrastructure, safety, and slightly lower prices. The locals are friendly, making it an ideal destination for a short vacation. Gone are the days of a menacing military dictatorship; the new president, Nayib Bukele, has played a pivotal role in driving positive changes. It serves as a testament to the significant impact strong political leadership can have on a nation. As the saying goes, we often get the political leaders we collectively deserve.

The following morning, we rise at 5 am to drop off Joselyn and Maripaz to the San Salvador airport, located 45 minutes from the capital. Opting to have them join us solely for this section of the trip proves to be a wise decision, as both Guatemala and El Salvador offer a safe and relaxing environment, whereas the drive through Mexico had been arduous. And, little did we know that the upcoming border crossings would present even greater challenges, making it one of the most demanding days of our journey comforting me in my initial choice.

After bidding farewell to Joselyn and Maripaz, we reach the Salvador/Honduras border within three hours. Exiting El Salvador proves to be the same straightforward process as entering it, but getting into Honduras presents more obstacles. We find ourselves in a long queue under the scorching heat, waiting for our passports to be stamped. Fortunately, the lines move relatively quickly. We arrive around 10 am, which seems to be the busiest time for border crossings. Honduras becomes the first country, after the USA, to take our digital fingerprints. The entry fee, payable in cash, amounts to $3 per person. This highlights the importance of having dollar bills on hand, as change is often scarce. Once our passports are stamped, a person dressed in what appears to be an official uniform approaches, offering assistance with the required paperwork for our vehicle. Within 20 minutes, everything is taken care of. I intended to express my gratitude by giving him an $8 tip, but to my surprise, he insists on receiving $65 instead. Checking the required fees, I realize he had essentially given himself a $20 tip. Although I wish he had been more transparent about it, I decide against arguing and peacefully comply with his request.

We have a mere two and a half hour drive remaining to traverse the narrow band of Honduras between El Salvador and Nicaragua, reaching the next border. Initially, I had planned to spend a day in Honduras, but upon realizing that there was little to do along our route, given the intense heat and lack of development, we decide to cross both borders on the same day. This decision is further motivated by the fact that Honduras has the highest crime rate in Central America.

As we draw closer to the border, about 12 kilometers away, we encounter a familiar sight reminiscent of the Mexico/Guatemala border—a long line of immobilized trucks. In response, we navigate the opposite lane, veering onto the emergency lane whenever oncoming traffic approaches, maneuvering as if we were English drivers on the wrong side of the road. At El Empalme, we notice that all traffic seems to be turning left onto N117 instead of following the line of immobilized trucks. Drawing on our experience from the Mexico/Guatemala border, I decide to follow the flow of traffic. However, I soon realize my mistake and understand that I must return to CA3. In an attempt to find a shortcut, I spot V445 on the map, yet this proves to be another error, as we are forced to traverse a treacherous 4-kilometer dirt road. Eventually, we manage to return to the line of trucks, arriving at the Honduras/Nicaragua border at 2:30 pm. There is an extensive queue for the exit stamp, so we opt to pay $10 to a helper who promises to save us 45 minutes by allowing us to bypass the line. The paperwork related to our vehicle proceeds smoothly as well. However, our worst border experience awaits us in Nicaragua. Trucks occupy every available space, resulting in complete chaos. At the first checkpoint, where we are required to present our passports and vehicle documents, a sandstorm suddenly engulfs the area, followed by heavy rain. Nicaragua is one of the few remaining countries in the world that still requires proof of Covid vaccination or a negative PCR test for entry. Adding to the chaos, Niek realizes that he cannot locate his vaccine pass and frantically rummages through all our luggage in a desperate search. Sensing an opportunity for easy money, a police officer approaches and directs us to the side of the car, demanding $20 to facilitate our passage, while instructing us to be discreet and avoid security cameras when handing over the cash. In need of change, Niek offers $50, but the officer insists he has none. Ultimately, Niek and I pool our smaller bills to provide the necessary $20, and we retrieve our $50 bill. Resuming our journey, we find our path blocked by trucks, forcing us to navigate this labyrinth by breaking every conceivable rule, including driving on pedestrian pavements. Eventually, we arrive at the customs office, drenched from the pouring rain. Our passports are checked, and we are required to fill out an entry form. Then, to my surprise, I am informed that I must locate a police officer to inspect our vehicle. I must travel to the other side of the building to eventually find one. He insists that we bring all our luggage to be inspected by a scanning machine. Having learned from our experience at the Mexico/Guatemala border, Niek and I have taken great care to wrap all our belongings, including goods from the US and gifts we acquired along the way, in clothes. Concerned about exorbitant import taxes, we conveniently decide to take only three pieces of luggage from the car, leaving the two larger ones behind. Unfortunately, after scanning the selected luggage, the female officer requests a thorough inspection of the car. Hoping that the heavy rain will dissuade her from conducting a meticulous search, I sense a moment of hesitation. However, she ultimately decides to brave the rain. I open the car door, conveniently forgetting to open the trunk, but she insists that I do so. Anxious that we will be caught with luggage we were specifically instructed to bring, I am surprised when she remains unperturbed and simply instructs me to bring the two larger suitcases inside the building for additional scanning. It appears that their focus is primarily on firearms and food, and our luggage passes the inspection without issue. We are spared the ordeal of unpacking the suitcases, as we were required to do at some other borders. Reassembling our belongings, we are relieved to finally proceed, or so we thought. As we reach the first checkpoint that we initially bypassed, we are forcefully informed that we did not receive the entry stamp from Nicaragua. Consequently, we are sent back to rectify the oversight, resulting in an additional 30 minutes and $24. Finally, around 5 pm, roughly 12 hours after waking up, we are permitted to enter Nicaragua. Although we are utterly exhausted, we know that we must continue our journey to Leon, the nearest city to the border. As dusk descends upon us, my companion and I prepare ourselves for the extra effort required to reach Leon in Nicaragua…

Niek’s ponderings

El Salvador welcomed us with its slightly hotter climate compared to Guatemala, owing to its lower altitude. We discovered that the souvenir markets offered similar items as in Guatemala, albeit at higher prices.

El Salvador, having adopted the U.S. dollar, no longer has its own currency. Countries that fall victim to the financial schemes of powerful entities often find themselves saved by those same entities. They create both the problem and the solution, a perfect recipe for dependency which is exactly where they want you to be.

While browsing one of the markets, I spotted a beautiful bag that caught my eye. Vaillant, eager to practice his Spanish, engaged in negotiations with the saleswoman. He insisted on purchasing it for no more than $50, making his intentions clear.

Overhearing the conversation, Joselyn interjected, revealing that she was selling the same bag for only $20. Vaillant burst into laughter, admitting his honest mistake. It made me ponder on how the rich stay rich, further impoverishing the poor.

Even without a million dollars, I felt a sense of wealth. The game of life is not evenly distributed. If you are born in a country like this, without the resources we possess in the USA or in Europe, it’s difficult to break free from the matrix.

Reprogramming oneself and becoming aware of the illusions perpetuated by society can be challenging. What lies behind the façade of the actors and stages of our system of domination ?

When you comprehend that our justice system is unjust, and those in power got there not by playing by the book, but by writing the book itself, you begin to navigate through life differently.

Interestingly, I recently received a comment from someone warning us about becoming smugglers. After paying a tax fine at the Guatemala border and realizing we had five more borders to cross, we jokingly embraced the role of smugglers.

Those who still believe in the matrix may argue that people who don’t adhere to the law are the reason for its failure. However, those who truly understand the system know that it was designed to benefit only a privileged few to the detriment of the masses.

Those who question and challenge the system are the pioneers of a better future. Throughout history, certain individuals had to go against mainstream, awakening people’s consciousness and creating a better world.

They knew the sacrifices they had to make and understood they would be despised by the many. Yet, they pressed on because they believed in doing what was right, becoming selfless in the process.

Being two white guys with a Texas license plate drew attention in these economically disadvantaged countries. On one hand, it granted us the privilege of faster border crossings, bypassing the long queues that locals had to endure.

One thing I’ve learned on this journey is that everything in this society has a price. With a few dollars, we could find someone at the borders who knew someone, helping us navigate through the chaotic infrastructure at record speed.

While driving through the chaotic traffic from one border to another, we gradually learned how to blend in with the locals. Just open your window, offer a warm smile, and wave, and they let you pass. If not, a few honks and a little acceleration would do the trick. It made me realize that I would need to adjust my driving style if I were to return to Belgium next year.

Of course, having a Texas license plate attracted the attention of numerous police officers at the road checkpoints, looking for opportunities to solicit bribes. My blond companion, well-versed in evading such situations, always knew how to navigate us out of those encounters.

“I want to learn that too,” I told Vaillant. “What do you mean?” he asked. I explained that I wanted to navigate through life the way he did, feeling fearless and abundant. “Well, you’re doing a great job,” he reassured me. “The only way to learn is through the experiences we’re having.”

I accepted his compliment but couldn’t help feeling disappointed in myself for losing my composure so quickly in stressful situations.

During our second border crossing, from Honduras to Nicaragua, I lost my vaccination card. While a massive storm approached, two security guards observed me anxiously searching my bags for that pesky card.

I had to pay $120 to get that pass in order to avoid the unsafe jab that never got through proper safety testing. I know what it feels like to have your rights taken away, having been restrained to a bed in a mental hospital not long ago so it felt important for me to decide what would get inside my body. Memories of that traumatic period resurfaced, increasing my stress levels.

Once again, my blond companion came to the rescue. A $20 bribe was all it took to get us across the border. Yes, even freedom comes at a price.

However, the goal isn’t to accumulate wealth for the sake of it. The true goal is to understand how to make money and utilize it to help others. We don’t assist each other by succumbing to fear and surrendering our free will. True assistance comes from following what feels right from within.

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Version en Français: chapitre IV – El Salvador et Honduras

Alors que nous arrivons au Salvador, nous roulons sur une route dotée de bonnes infrastructures, un contraste frappant avec notre expérience à la frontière entre le Guatemala et le Mexique. En route vers Santa Ana, nous décidons de faire un arrêt aux magnifiques sources thermales de Santa Teresa. À notre grand plaisir, nous découvrons un oasis composé d’environ 20 piscines thermales, le tout pour seulement 10 dollars par personne. Le site propose également plusieurs restaurants sur place et moyennant 10 dollars supplémentaires, nous pouvons profiter d’un bain de boue, nous détendre dans des saunas parfumés aux branches d’eucalyptus ou marcher sur des pierres chaudes pour un mémorable massage naturel des pieds. L’expérience est à la fois agréable et incroyablement revitalisante.

Après une nuit reposante à Santa Ana, nous nous apprêtons à passer une journée paisible au lac Coatepeque. Dans le dialecte salvadorien, “tepeque” est synonyme de “lieu de” de la même manière que “tenango” au Guatemala. Situé à seulement 20 minutes de Santa Ana, le lac offre des conditions de baignade parfaites avec une température agréable. Nous nous offrons une visite en bateau pour seulement 50 dollars pour l’ensemble du groupe et, l’après-midi, après un délicieux déjeuner, nous nous adonnons à une expérience exaltante de jet-ski pour seulement 30 dollars pour nous trois. Le lac Coatepeque est véritablement un spectacle à voir, niché dans le cratère d’un volcan, avec l’île pittoresque de Teopan qui orne ses eaux tranquilles. La région environnante est parsemée de superbes propriétés privées, dont l’une est réputée appartenir à une riche famille locale connue pour ses rituels sataniques secrets, comme nous en informe notre guide.

Alors que nous retournons vers notre Airbnb, un témoin lumineux dans la voiture nous alerte d’une batterie faible. Tout au long de notre voyage, nous avions remarqué que la voiture avait parfois du mal à démarrer, mais j’avais attribué cela à des problèmes de bougies d’allumage, pensant que nous pourrions régler ce problème à notre retour au Costa Rica. Je n’avais pas fait le lien lorsque notre amie Linda a mentionné que la batterie s’était déchargée alors qu’elle vérifiait que la voiture était en bon état de marche avant notre arrivée. Niek a rapidement localisé un endroit à proximité pour remplacer la batterie. Cependant, pendant que nous conduisons, la climatisation tombe en panne et le système ABS dysfonctionne, rendant la l’opération du véhicule de plus en plus difficile. Heureusement, nous parvenons à atteindre l’aire de stationnement de la boutique de batteries avant que la batterie ne se décharge complètement. Nous nous sentons incroyablement chanceux et protégés, car nous n’aurions pas pu aller plus loin. Les techniciens de la boutique se révèlent extrêmement serviables, remplaçant rapidement la batterie en 30 minutes pendant que nous savourons une tasse de café et un dessert, observant les réparations. La batterie, qui datait de 2019, s’avère être à l’origine de nos problèmes. Cependant, lorsque je redémarre la voiture, je remarque que le témoin de batterie reste allumé, ce qui amène le technicien à soupçonner un problème avec l’alternateur également. Je prends rendez-vous avec un mécanicien recommandé par le technicien pour résoudre le problème tôt le lendemain matin. Dans un revirement de situation inattendu, ce problème mécanique conduit le mécanicien à découvrir que nous manquons également dangereusement d’huile et de liquide antigel après notre long trajet. Pour moins de 400 dollars, tous les problèmes sont résolus. Je recommande vivement à quiconque qui entreprend un long trajet similaire de faire une halte en milieu de parcours pour une vérification complète de la voiture, voire même une vidange d’huile. Je n’ose pas imaginer faire face aux mêmes problèmes sous la chaleur étouffante du Mexique. Nous nous sentons chanceux que nos ennuis mécaniques aient été résolus rapidement au Salvador, avec un impact minimal sur notre programme de voyage.

Notre voyage nous mène maintenant à la capitale, San Salvador. En route, nous faisons un arrêt pour vivre l’expérience palpitante du Rainbow Slide, offrant des vues à couper le souffle sur la ville. Le toboggan se trouve au picnic steakhouse, où nous dégustons un excellent repas et je saisis l’occasion de créer un lien avec les chiens amicaux attendant avec impatience leur part d’os. Ensuite, nous nous rendons au volcan de San Salvador, niché dans le parc national de Boqueron. Le trajet en vaut la peine, car une courte randonnée de 20 minutes nous mène au sommet, où nous sommes récompensés par des panoramas impressionnants. Le cratère du volcan est abrupt et unique, avec un cratère plus petit à l’intérieur de son vaste ensemble. Nous nous dirigeons ensuite vers le centre-ville, en visitant le marché national de l’artisanat. C’est un excellent endroit pour acheter des souvenirs abordables. Il est intéressant de noter que le Salvador n’a plus sa propre monnaie et utilise désormais le dollar américain. Le Bitcoin est également en train de gagner en acceptation dans divers endroits, notamment dans les stations-service, où une application salvadorienne facilite les paiements en Bitcoin. Je souhaite ardemment que d’autres pays adoptent des mesures similaires pour se libérer de l’emprise des banques centrales.

En résumé, le Salvador dépasse nos attentes et se révèle l’une des agréables surprises de notre voyage. Malgré sa relative petite taille, environ la moitié de celle du Costa Rica, le pays dispose d’une bonne infrastructure, d’une sécurité accrue et de prix légèrement inférieurs. Les habitants sont amicaux, ce qui en fait une destination idéale pour des vacances courtes. Les jours de sinistre dictature militaire sont révolus ; le nouveau président, Nayib Bukele, a joué un rôle essentiel dans les changements positifs. Cela témoigne de l’impact significatif qu’un leadership politique fort peut avoir sur un pays. Comme le dit le dicton, nous obtenons souvent les dirigeants politiques que nous méritons collectivement.

Le lendemain matin, nous nous levons à 5 heures du matin pour déposer Joselyn et Maripaz à l’aéroport de San Salvador, situé à 45 minutes de la capitale. Le fait de les avoir fait venir uniquement pour cette partie du voyage s’avère être une sage décision, car le Guatemala et le Salvador offrent un environnement sûr et reposant, contrairement à notre trajet à travers le Mexique qui a été ardu. Et nous ne savions pas encore que les prochaines traversées de frontières nous réservaient des défis encore plus importants, faisant de cette journée l’une des plus exigeantes de notre périple, me confortant dans mon choix initial.

Après avoir fait nos adieux à Joselyn et Maripaz, nous atteignons la frontière Salvador/Honduras en trois heures. La sortie du Salvador se révèle être un processus aussi simple que son entrée, mais entrer au Honduras présente plus d’obstacles. Nous nous retrouvons dans une longue file d’attente sous la chaleur écrasante, en attendant que nos passeports soient tamponnés. Heureusement, les files avancent relativement rapidement. Nous arrivons vers 10 heures du matin, qui semble être le moment le plus chargé pour les traversées de frontières. Le Honduras devient le premier pays dans ce voyage, après les États-Unis, à prendre nos empreintes digitales numériques. Les frais d’entrée, payables en espèces, s’élèvent à 3 dollars par personne. Cela souligne l’importance d’avoir de la petite coupure de dollars sur soi, car la monnaie est souvent difficile à obtenir. Une fois nos passeports tamponnés, une personne vêtue d’un uniforme officiel s’approche et propose son aide pour les formalités nécessaires à notre véhicule. En 20 minutes, tout est réglé. Je comptais exprimer ma gratitude en lui donnant un pourboire de 8 dollars, mais à ma grande surprise, il insiste pour recevoir 65 dollars à la place. Vérifiant les frais requis, je réalise qu’il s’est essentiellement accordé un pourboire de 20 dollars. Bien que j’aurais aimé qu’il soit plus transparent à ce sujet, je décide de ne pas discuter et de me conformer paisiblement à sa demande.

Il ne nous reste plus que deux heures et demie de route pour traverser la bande étroite du Honduras entre le Salvador et le Nicaragua, afin d’atteindre la prochaine frontière. À l’origine, j’avais prévu de passer une journée au Honduras, mais en réalisant qu’il y avait peu à faire le long de notre itinéraire, compte tenu de la chaleur intense et du manque de développement touristique, nous décidons de franchir les deux frontières le même jour. Cette décision est motivée par le fait que le Honduras a le taux de criminalité le plus élevé en Amérique centrale.

À mesure que nous nous approchons de la frontière, à environ 12 kilomètres de là, nous rencontrons une vue familière rappelant la frontière entre le Mexique et le Guatemala : une longue file de camions immobilisés. Nous devons donc emprunter la file de gauche, nous décalant sur la voie d’urgence chaque fois que la circulation en sens inverse se rapproche, manœuvrant comme si nous étions des conducteurs anglais du “mauvais” côté de la route. À El Empalme, nous constatons que tout le trafic semble tourner à gauche sur la N117 au lieu de suivre la file de camions immobilisés. Puisant dans notre expérience de la frontière entre le Mexique et le Guatemala, je décide de suivre le flux de la circulation. Cependant, je réalise rapidement mon erreur et comprends que je dois revenir à la CA3. Dans une tentative de trouver un raccourci, je repère V445 sur la carte, mais cela s’avère être une autre erreur, car nous sommes contraints de traverser une route en terre cabossée de 4 kilomètres. Finalement, nous parvenons à revenir à la file de camions, arrivant à la frontière entre le Honduras et le Nicaragua à 14h30. Il y a une longue file d’attente pour le tampon de sortie, nous décidons donc de payer 10 dollars à un assistant qui nous promet de nous faire gagner 45 minutes en nous permettant de contourner la file. Les formalités liées à notre véhicule se déroulent également sans problème. Cependant, notre pire expérience aux frontières nous attend au Nicaragua. Les camions occupent chaque espace disponible, créant un chaos complet. Au premier poste de contrôle, où nous devons présenter nos passeports et les documents du véhicule, une tempête de sable survient soudainement, suivie d’une forte pluie. Le Nicaragua est l’un des rares pays au monde à exiger encore une preuve de vaccination Covid ou d’un test PCR négatif pour entrer. Ajoutant au chaos, Niek réalise qu’il ne peut pas trouver son passeport vaccinal et fouille frénétiquement nos bagages dans une recherche désespérée. Sentant une opportunité de gagner facilement de l’argent, un policier s’approche et nous dirige sur le côté de la voiture, demandant 20 dollars pour faciliter notre passage, tout en nous recommandant d’être discrets afin d’éviter les caméras de sécurité lors de la remise de l’argent. Niek offre 50 dollars, mais l’officier insiste sur le fait qu’il n’a pas la monnaie. Finalement, Niek et moi regroupons nos plus petits billets pour fournir les 20 dollars nécessaires, et nous récupérons notre billet de 50 dollars. Reprenant notre voyage, nous trouvons notre chemin bloqué par les camions, ce qui nous oblige à naviguer dans ce labyrinthe en enfreignant toutes les règles imaginables, y compris en conduisant sur les trottoirs réservés aux piétons. Finalement, nous arrivons au bureau des douanes, trempés par la pluie battante. Nos passeports sont vérifiés et nous devons remplir un formulaire d’entrée. Puis, à ma grande surprise, on me dit que je dois trouver un policier pour inspecter notre véhicule. Je dois me rendre de l’autre côté du bâtiment pour finalement en trouver un. Il insiste pour que nous apportions tous nos bagages pour qu’ils soient inspectés par une machine à scanner. Ayant appris de notre expérience de $120 à la frontière entre le Mexique et le Guatemala, Niek et moi avons pris grand soin d’envelopper toutes les nouveaux achats, y compris les produits des États-Unis et les cadeaux que nous avons acquis en cours de route, dans des vêtements. Craignant des taxes d’importation exorbitantes, nous décidons commodément de ne prendre que trois bagages de la voiture, en laissant les deux plus grands derrière nous. Malheureusement, après avoir scanné les bagages sélectionnés, l’agent des douanes demande une inspection approfondie de la voiture. Espérant que la forte pluie la dissuade de mener une fouille minutieuse, je sens un moment d’hésitation. Cependant, elle décide finalement de braver la pluie. J’ouvre la porte de la voiture, oubliant commodément d’ouvrir le coffre, mais elle insiste pour que je le fasse. Inquiet de sa réaction alors qu’elle remarque de gros bagages qu’elle nous a expressément demandé d’apporter, je suis surpris lorsqu’elle reste imperturbable et se contente de me demander d’apporter les deux plus grandes valises à l’intérieur du bâtiment pour un scanner supplémentaire. Il semble que leur attention soit principalement axée sur les armes à feu et la nourriture, et nos bagages passent l’inspection sans problème. Nous sommes épargnés de l’épreuve de déballer les valises, comme nous avons dû le faire à certaines autres frontières. En rassemblant nos affaires, nous sommes soulagés de pouvoir enfin continuer, du moins le pensons-nous. Lorsque nous atteignons le premier poste de contrôle que nous avons initialement contourné, on nous informe de manière catégorique que nous n’avons pas reçu le tampon d’entrée du Nicaragua. En conséquence, nous sommes renvoyés pour rectifier cet oubli, ce qui nous prend 30 minutes supplémentaires et 24 dollars. Finalement, vers 17 heures, environ 12 heures après nous être réveillés, nous sommes autorisés à entrer au Nicaragua. Bien que nous soyons épuisés, nous savons que nous devons continuer notre voyage jusqu’à Leon, la ville la plus proche de la frontière à environ 2 heures de route. Alors que la nuit tombe sur nous, mon compagnon et moi nous préparons à l’effort supplémentaire nécessaire pour atteindre notre premier lieu de repos au Nicaragua…

Versión en español a continuación

Mientras llegamos a El Salvador, conducimos por una carretera con buena infraestructura, el marcado contraste con nuestra experiencia en la frontera entre Guatemala y México. En nuestro camino hacia Santa Ana, decidimos hacer una parada en las magníficas aguas termales de Santa Teresa. Para nuestra gran alegría, descubrimos un oasis compuesto por alrededor de 20 piscinas termales, todo por solo 10 dólares por persona. El lugar también ofrece varios restaurantes y, por 10 dólares adicionales, podemos disfrutar de un baño de barro, relajarnos en saunas perfumadas con ramas de eucalipto o caminar sobre piedras calientes para un memorable masaje natural de pies. La experiencia es agradable e increíblemente revitalizante.

Después de una noche de descanso en Santa Ana, nos preparamos para pasar un día tranquilo en el lago Coatepeque. En el dialecto salvadoreño, “tepeque” es sinónimo de “lugar de”, de la misma manera que “tenango” en Guatemala. Ubicado a solo 20 minutos de Santa Ana, el lago ofrece condiciones perfectas para nadar con una temperatura agradable. Tomamos un paseo en bote por solo 50 dólares para todo el grupo y por la tarde, después de un delicioso almuerzo, disfrutamos de una emocionante experiencia de jet ski por solo 30 dólares para los tres. El lago Coatepeque es verdaderamente un espectáculo para ver, ubicado en el cráter de un volcán, con la pintoresca isla de Teopan adornando sus tranquilas aguas. La región circundante está salpicada de impresionantes propiedades privadas, una de las cuales se dice que pertenece a una familia local adinerada conocida por sus rituales satánicos secretos, según nos informa nuestro guía.

Mientras regresamos a nuestro Airbnb, una luz en el automóvil nos alerta sobre una batería baja. Durante todo nuestro viaje, habíamos notado que el automóvil a veces tenía dificultades para arrancar, pero lo había atribuido a problemas con las bujías, pensando que podríamos resolverlo cuando regresemos a Costa Rica. No me di cuenta cuando nuestra amiga Linda mencionó que la batería se descargó mientras verificaba que el automóvil estuviera en buenas condiciones antes de nuestra llegada. Niek ubicó rápidamente un lugar cercano para reemplazar la batería. Sin embargo, mientras conducimos, el aire acondicionado se estropea y el sistema ABS comienza a fallar, lo que dificulta cada vez más la conducción del vehículo. Afortunadamente, logramos llegar al estacionamiento de la tienda de baterías antes de que la batería se descargue por completo. Nos sentimos increíblemente afortunados y protegidos, ya que no podríamos haber llegado más lejos. Los técnicos de la tienda resultan ser extremadamente serviciales, reemplazando rápidamente la batería en 30 minutos mientras disfrutamos de una taza de café y un postre, observando las reparaciones. La batería, que data de 2019, resulta ser la causa de nuestros problemas. Sin embargo, cuando vuelvo a encender el automóvil, noto que la luz de la batería permanece encendida, lo que lleva al técnico a sospechar que también hay un problema con el alternador. Concierto una cita con un mecánico recomendado por el técnico para resolver el problema temprano al día siguiente. En un giro inesperado, este problema mecánico lleva al mecánico a descubrir que también estamos peligrosamente bajos de aceite y líquido refrigerante después de nuestro largo viaje. Por menos de 400 dólares, todos los problemas se resuelven. Recomiendo encarecidamente a cualquiera que emprenda un viaje similar que haga una parada a mitad de camino para una revisión completa del automóvil, e incluso un cambio de aceite. No me atrevo a imaginar enfrentar los mismos problemas bajo el calor sofocante de México. Nos sentimos afortunados de que nuestros problemas mecánicos se hayan resuelto rápidamente en El Salvador, con un impacto mínimo en nuestro itinerario de viaje.

Nuestro viaje nos lleva ahora a la capital, San Salvador. En el camino, hacemos una parada para experimentar la emocionante diapositiva Rainbow, que ofrece vistas impresionantes de la ciudad. El tobogán se encuentra en el picnic steakhouse, donde disfrutamos de una excelente comida y aprovecho la oportunidad para relacionarme con los amistosos perros esperando ansiosamente su porción de hueso. Luego, nos dirigimos al volcán de San Salvador, ubicado en el Parque Nacional de Boquerón. El viaje vale la pena, ya que una corta caminata de 20 minutos nos lleva a la cima, donde somos recompensados con impresionantes panoramas. El cráter del volcán es abrupto y único, con un cráter más pequeño en su interior. Luego nos dirigimos al centro de la ciudad, visitando el Mercado Nacional de Artesanías. Es un excelente lugar para comprar souvenirs a precios accesibles. Es interesante notar que El Salvador ya no tiene su propia moneda y ahora utiliza el dólar estadounidense. Bitcoin también está ganando aceptación en varios lugares, incluidas las gasolineras, donde una aplicación salvadoreña facilita los pagos con Bitcoin. Espero sinceramente que otros países adopten medidas similares para liberarse del control de los bancos centrales.

En resumen, El Salvador supera nuestras expectativas y resulta ser una de las agradables sorpresas de nuestro viaje. A pesar de su relativamente pequeño tamaño, aproximadamente la mitad del tamaño de Costa Rica, el país cuenta con una buena infraestructura, mayor seguridad y precios ligeramente más bajos. Los habitantes son amigables, lo que lo convierte en un destino ideal para unas vacaciones cortas. Los días de la siniestra dictadura militar han quedado atrás; el nuevo presidente, Nayib Bukele, ha desempeñado un papel crucial en los cambios positivos. Esto demuestra el impacto significativo que un liderazgo político fuerte puede tener en un país. Como dice el refrán, a menudo obtenemos los líderes políticos que merecemos colectivamente.

A la mañana siguiente, nos levantamos a las 5 de la mañana para llevar a Joselyn y Maripaz al aeropuerto de San Salvador, que está a 45 minutos de la capital. El haberlas hecho venir exclusivamente para esta parte del viaje resultó ser una sabia decisión, ya que Guatemala y El Salvador ofrecen un ambiente seguro y relajante, a diferencia de nuestro viaje a través de México que fue arduo. Y aún no sabíamos que los próximos cruces de fronteras nos traerían desafíos aún mayores, lo que hizo que este día fuera uno de los más exigentes de nuestro viaje, reafirmando mi elección inicial.

Después de despedirnos de Joselyn y Maripaz, llegamos a la frontera entre El Salvador y Honduras en tres horas. La salida de El Salvador resulta ser un proceso tan sencillo como su entrada, pero entrar en Honduras presenta más obstáculos. Nos encontramos en una larga fila bajo el calor aplastante, esperando que sellen nuestros pasaportes. Afortunadamente, las filas avanzan relativamente rápido. Llegamos alrededor de las 10 de la mañana, que parece ser el momento más concurrido para cruzar las fronteras. Honduras se convierte en el primer país en este viaje, después de los Estados Unidos, en tomar nuestras huellas dactilares digitales. La tarifa de entrada, que debe pagarse en efectivo, es de 3 dólares por persona. Esto destaca la importancia de llevar billetes pequeños de dólares, ya que a menudo es difícil obtener cambio. Una vez que sellan nuestros pasaportes, un oficial con uniforme oficial se acerca y ofrece ayuda con los trámites para nuestro vehículo. En 20 minutos, todo está resuelto. Tenía la intención de expresar mi gratitud dándole una propina de 8 dólares, pero para mi gran sorpresa, él insiste en recibir 65 dólares en su lugar. Revisando las tarifas requeridas, me doy cuenta de que básicamente se otorgó una propina de 20 dólares. Aunque hubiera preferido que fuera más transparente al respecto, decido no discutir y cumplir pacíficamente con su solicitud.

Solo nos quedan dos horas y media de camino para cruzar la estrecha franja de Honduras entre El Salvador y Nicaragua, para llegar a la siguiente frontera. Originalmente, había planeado pasar un día en Honduras, pero al darme cuenta de que había poco que hacer a lo largo de nuestra ruta, dada la intensa calor y la falta de desarrollo turístico, decidimos cruzar ambas fronteras el mismo día. Esta decisión se debe a que Honduras tiene la tasa de criminalidad más alta en Centroamérica.

A medida que nos acercamos a la frontera, a unos 12 kilómetros de distancia, nos encontramos con una vista familiar que nos recuerda la frontera entre México y Guatemala: una larga fila de camiones inmovilizados. Por lo tanto, debemos tomar la fila de la izquierda, moviéndonos al carril de emergencia cada vez que se acerca el tráfico en sentido contrario, maniobrando como si fuéramos conductores ingleses en el “lado equivocado” de la carretera. En El Empalme, notamos que todo el tráfico parece girar a la izquierda hacia la N117 en lugar de seguir la fila de camiones inmovilizados. Aprovechando nuestra experiencia en la frontera entre México y Guatemala, decido seguir el flujo del tráfico. Sin embargo, rápidamente me doy cuenta de mi error y entiendo que debo regresar a la CA3. En un intento de encontrar un atajo, localizo V445 en el mapa, pero resulta ser otro error, ya que nos vemos obligados a cruzar una carretera de tierra accidentada de 4 kilómetros. Finalmente, volvemos a la fila de camiones, llegando a la frontera entre Honduras y Nicaragua a las 2:30 p.m. Hay una larga fila para el sello de salida, así que decidimos pagar 10 dólares a un asistente que promete ahorrarnos 45 minutos permitiéndonos saltar la fila. Los trámites relacionados con nuestro vehículo también se realizan sin problemas. Sin embargo, nuestra peor experiencia en las fronteras nos espera en Nicaragua. Los camiones ocupan cada espacio disponible, creando un caos completo. En el primer puesto de control, donde debemos presentar nuestros pasaportes y los documentos del vehículo, una tormenta de arena aparece de repente, seguida de una fuerte lluvia. Nicaragua es uno de los pocos países en el mundo que todavía requiere una prueba de vacunación Covid o una prueba PCR negativa para ingresar. Añadiendo al caos, Niek se da cuenta de que no puede encontrar su pasaporte de vacunación y busca frenéticamente en nuestro equipaje desesperadamente. Al notar una oportunidad para ganar dinero fácilmente, un policía se acerca y nos dirige hacia el lado del automóvil, pidiendo 20 dólares para facilitar nuestro paso, mientras nos recomienda ser discretos para evitar las cámaras de seguridad al entregar el dinero. Niek ofrece 50 dólares, pero el oficial insiste en que no tiene cambio. Finalmente, Niek y yo reunimos nuestros billetes más pequeños para proporcionar los 20 dólares necesarios, y recuperamos nuestro billete de 50 dólares. Continuando nuestro viaje, encontramos nuestro camino bloqueado por los camiones, lo que nos obliga a navegar por este laberinto infringiendo todas las reglas imaginables, incluido conducir en las aceras reservadas para peatones. Finalmente, llegamos a la oficina de aduanas, empapados por la lluvia torrencial. Verifican nuestros pasaportes y se nos pide que completemos un formulario de entrada. Luego, para mi gran sorpresa, se me informa que debo encontrar a un policía para inspeccionar nuestro vehículo. Debo ir al otro lado del edificio para finalmente encontrar uno. Él insiste en que llevemos todas nuestras maletas para que sean escaneadas por una máquina. Después de aprender de nuestra experiencia de $120 en la frontera entre México y Guatemala, Niek y yo nos hemos asegurado de envolver todas las nuevas compras, incluidos los productos de Estados Unidos y los regalos que adquirimos en el camino, en ropa. Temiendo altos impuestos de importación, convenientemente decidimos llevar solo tres maletas del automóvil, dejando las dos más grandes atrás. Desafortunadamente, después de escanear las maletas seleccionadas, el agente de aduanas solicita una inspección exhaustiva del automóvil. Con la esperanza de que la fuerte lluvia la desaliente de realizar una búsqueda minuciosa, siento un momento de vacilación. Sin embargo, finalmente decide enfrentar la lluvia. Abro la puerta del automóvil, olvidando convenientemente abrir el maletero, pero ella insiste en que lo haga. Preocupado por su reacción cuando note las grandes maletas que nos pidió expresamente que lleváramos, me sorprende que permanezca imperturbable y simplemente me pida que lleve las dos maletas más grandes dentro del edificio para un escaneo adicional. Parece que su atención se centra principalmente en armas de fuego y alimentos, y nuestras maletas pasan la inspección sin problemas. Nos ahorramos el trabajo de desempacar las maletas, como tuvimos que hacer en algunas otras fronteras. Mientras recogemos nuestras cosas, nos sentimos aliviados de poder continuar, al menos eso pensamos. Cuando llegamos al primer puesto de control que inicialmente evitamos, nos informan categóricamente que no hemos recibido el sello de entrada a Nicaragua. Como resultado, nos envían de vuelta para corregir esta omisión, lo que nos lleva 30 minutos adicionales y 24 dólares. Finalmente, alrededor de las 5 de la tarde, aproximadamente 12 horas después de haber despertado, nos permiten ingresar a Nicaragua. Aunque estamos exhaustos, sabemos que debemos continuar nuestro viaje hasta León, la ciudad más cercana a la frontera a unas 2 horas de distancia. A medida que cae la noche, mi compañero y yo nos preparamos para el esfuerzo adicional necesario para llegar a nuestro primer lugar de descanso en Nicaragua…

Driving from the USA to Costa Rica III

July 12, 2023July 24, 2023 / vaillantgicqueau / 1 Comment

Chapter III – Guatemala

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It is already dark as we enter the Guatemalan border town of Tec Uman. It feels like a typical third-world country town, and to add to the ambiance, we are greeted by torrential rains. Concerned about driving at night for safety reasons, I had reserved a nearby hotel with excellent reviews, called Santa Fe Pajapita, just a 20-minute drive away. As we arrive, we are welcomed by a security guard armed with a machine gun. The hotel provides a comfortable room with various amenities, including a swimming pool. Niek and I take this opportunity to indulge our inner children and relax after our fast-paced journey through Mexico.

Leaving behind the fast highways of southern Mexico, we are back on slow-moving, single-lane roads as we head towards Quetzaltenango. The name “Tenango” in Quetzaltenango means “place of,” and the city name reflects the significance of the Quetzal, Guatemala’s national bird. The Guatemalan culture immediately captivates us, as we feel welcomed by the land and its people. The vibrant outfits worn by women, bursting with colors, add to the rich cultural tapestry. The preserved culture of Guatemala stands out in contrast to Mexico, which has been more influenced by the dark side of capitalism and the associated rat race.

After checking into our hotel, we venture out to explore Quetzaltenango. We have a delightful lunch at the popular and highly recommended Albamar Las Americas restaurant, where local music welcomes us. We then visit the hot springs of Los Vahos near the city center, but unfortunately, we do not recommend them due to a rough road and the lack of thermal baths as they only offer sauna. We continue our exploration by visiting the vibrant Mercado Central, where we immerse ourselves in the bustling atmosphere and find affordable goods. The city’s numerous beautiful Catholic churches showcase the radiant faith of the people. Regardless of religious beliefs, we find that religious individuals are often more grounded and connected to human values. The local markets offer a wide range of goods at affordable prices, but it’s important to note that most store owners only accept cash.

The next day, we wake up early at 5 AM to embark on a hike up the San Pedro volcano on our way to Guatemala. During breakfast, I come across online stories of hikers being victims of robberies at the summit (story 1, story 2, story 3). Bandits armed with machine guns and machetes target tourists as they approach the summit, climbing from the village on the other side. Despite the risks, we decide to proceed with the hike because we’ve heard so much about Lake Atitlan. We take a mountain road with a steep incline, but thankfully it is in good condition. After a two-hour drive to the San Pedro volcano trailhead in San Juan La Laguna from Quetzaltenango, we encounter two improvised tolls, paying a total of 25 quetzales. The parking lot at the trailhead can only accommodate two cars, and we are the first to park that day. I inquire with the ranger about recent robberies, and he informs us that the last one occurred in May. Feeling cautiously optimistic, we begin our hike at 9.30 am, passing a disappointed group of hikers coming down from the summit. They inform us that the top of the volcano is clouded, with no visibility. We ask their police escorts if it is safe to proceed, and they assure us that it should be fine as long as we don’t linger too long at the summit. Considering our options, we decide to continue the hike, guided by our intuition and a sense of peace. Niek and I make steady progress, and I’m grateful that he carries our backpack. Despite his handicap, my giant friend still manages to walk faster than me. As we reach an altitude of 2800 meters, I secure my phone in a safe place and give Niek a “bait” wallet containing expired IDs, credit cards, and spare change, just in case we encounter potential robbers. Miraculously, the sky clears completely, and we can’t believe our luck! The first group of hikers took all the necessary precautions without success, while our spontaneous approach turns in our favor. Finally, around noon, we reach the summit and are rewarded with a breathtaking view of Lake Atitlan and the surrounding volcanoes. This becomes the highlight of our trip so far, as the challenges we faced make the experience even more rewarding. As we begin our descent, exhausted from the five-hour hike, the rain starts to pour. It seems like another stroke of luck that we made it back before the rain intensifies. Driving through the crowded streets of San Juan la Laguna, with its tuk-tuks filling every corner, we find a nice restaurant with a view of the lake. We then make our way back to Guatemala City, feeling completely drained. I navigate the challenging uphill road to reach Highway CA1, while Niek falls asleep in the car. Gradually, the road conditions improve to the level we expect in Europe. We notice a recurring pattern of poor road conditions near the borders and improving while driving inland, similar to our experience in Mexico.

Guatemala City, with its population of over 3 million people, impresses us with its modernity and well-developed infrastructure. To be close to the airport to pick-up my girlfriend Joselyn and her daughter Maripaz’s arrival scheduled on this same night, I have booked an Airbnb within a large shopping mall. Surprisingly, we need to park our car in the shopping center’s underground garage on the second level to get to our condo. After confirming with my host that overnight parking is allowed, I leave Niek in the condo and head to the La Aurora international airport to pick up Joselyn and Maripaz. I reunite with Joselyn and Maripaz, exhausted but thrilled to be together again. I drive back to the condo however, upon arrival, I realize that I have gone to the wrong parking area, as there are multiple Pradera shopping malls. After 30 minutes of driving, I finally arrive at the correct one, only to find that the parking is closed. I call my host, who informs me that there is another entrance on the other side. Despite following her instructions, we encounter another closed entrance. Frustrated, I express my dissatisfaction, and eventually, they send a motorcycle escort to guide us. However, we still face obstacles, as the magnetic card provided by my host doesn’t work. After 20 minutes of waiting and with the help of my host, we finally gain authorization to enter. By this time, a power outage affects the entire shopping center due to scheduled construction work. This unexpected turn of events creates a disappointing welcome for Joselyn, who manages to maintain a positive attitude despite her tired daughter, Maripaz. Our predicament is shared by three other cars stuck in the same situation, and it takes over 30 minutes until they manually open the barrier to let us into the parking area. Finally, at 12:30 am, we finally made it through the shopping mall parking. We collapse onto the bed, drained from the day’s ordeals. What a fascinating paradox we encountered. We embarked on a hike rumored to be perilous, yet it unfolded as a truly enchanting experience. However, upon returning to the realm of men artificial constructs, we found ourselves confronted with worse unexpected trials and tribulations.

After a restful night, we decide to explore Guatemala City. It is a modern city with excellent infrastructure, reminiscent of Panama City. We visit some historical buildings before immersing ourselves in the lively Mercado Central. The market offers a wonderful array of goods, and we manage to find quality souvenirs at reasonable prices, including colorful local clothing. Our next stop is the Casa de la Memoria museum, where we delve into the history of the Guatemalan genocide. The Spanish conquest drastically reduced the native population of Mayans and Aztecs from 70 million to only 3 million. The extraordinary brutality of the colonizers is vividly described in the museum. Subsequently, American corporations established a Banana republic in Guatemala, leading to a military dictatorship and a civil war characterized by horrifying violence. The Guatemalan genocide occurred during this civil war from 1960 to 1996, with the military regime targeting and killing indigenous Mayans. Massacres, forced disappearances, and widespread violence aimed to eliminate perceived threats from indigenous communities supporting leftist rebels. The estimated number of victims ranges from tens of thousands to over 200,000, with indigenous peoples comprising a significant portion of the casualties.

Getting back to our condo takes longer than expected due to heavy traffic. The next day, Niek decides to take a rest. We have been constantly on the move, with long drives since the beginning of our trip. I take Joselyn to visit the city of Antigua. Our first stop is the magical Hobbitenango, a hobbit village located at an altitude of 2500 meters. The breathtaking views of Volcán de Agua, Volcán Acatenango, and the erupting Volcán de Fuego exceed our expectations. Hobbitenango surprises us with its charming hobbit houses, Tarzan swing, and delightful shops and restaurants. We then explore the cobblestone streets of the historic city of Antigua, visiting the ruins of 17th-century cathedrals. Our day concludes with a delightful meal at the excellent French restaurant Tartines, where we engage in an insightful conversation with the owner, a Frenchman who has lived in Guatemala for over 40 years. As a perfect finale, we make a stop at the Santa Teresita hot springs on our way back to Guatemala City. The thermal pools offer various temperature options and spa packages, although advance reservations are required for massages. Less than an hour later, we return to our condo, feeling rejuvenated by this final stop.

The next morning, we depart for the San Salvador border, completing the journey in less than three hours. The exit from Guatemala is swift, and the entry into El Salvador requires the submission of various documents for our vehicle: a copy of my stamped passport, registration, title, driver license, Guatemala car sticker and the vehicle paperwork that was delivered to me upon entry. The personnel at the border are friendly and helpful, dispelling any preconceived notions about Salvadoran bureaucracy. The total time to cross the border is less than 90 minutes. Excitement fills the air as our group embarks on a new adventure, leaving Guatemala behind and setting our sights on the next destination: El Salvador…

Niek’s Ponderings

The Enchanting Land of Joyful Souls

After a challenging three-hour border cross, we bid farewell to Mexico, a country that left us with mixed impressions. As I mentioned before, our visit was brief, only four days, which hardly provides a comprehensive review of such a vast nation.

Regrettably, we were unaware of the taxes we needed to pay for the items we purchased in the States. Through some charm, we managed to sway the lady conducting our inspection, leaving us with a modest tax of $120. We’ll be better prepared for the next border crossing. It was nothing more than a gangster party.

Upon entering Guatemala, it felt as though we were opening the door to Narnia or some other magical realm. I sensed a significant shift in energy as I beheld their beautifully colored vehicles and buildings.

While the border city was chaotic, the people displayed humility in traffic, willingly making way for others to change lanes. It seemed as though the city possessed a soul.

During a pit stop for gas, I encountered a guard holding a shotgun who greeted me. These people were incredibly endearing, even when armed. It made me wonder.

Strangely enough, I felt safer here than I did in Mexico. The people were helpful, offering assistance from start to finish. Their long-term perspective, ensuring that customers would return by providing excellent service, was admirable.

Such experiences are hard to come by in Costa Rica. Most of my recent encounters there involved receiving half-hearted service at double the price, all accompanied by the comforting phrase… pura vida.

But hey, nothing can surpass their stunning climate and the incredible people I’ve met. I don’t believe a perfect country exists. So why confine ourselves to just one?

Guatemala is much more affordable than Costa Rica. Slowly, I began envisioning different possibilities for navigating my life if we were to survive this journey.

While enjoying breakfast in a superb yet inexpensive hotel, Vaillant was reading an article about our upcoming volcano hike. San Pedro was known to be a trail where one might encounter machete and machine gun-wielding thieves.

No worries, we had pocket knives, and Vaillant held his phone so tightly in his own underwear that even the thieves wouldn’t find anything worth taking, except our pocket knives. I was grateful I convinced him not to bring my phone. It’s difficult to say no to Vaillant, but sometimes I’m glad I can.

The only escort we could find had already been paid for by another group of tourists. As we ascended to the summit at an altitude of 3,000 meters, I reflected on all the people who are physically unable to undertake this journey. I felt a deep sense of gratitude that I could.

I noticed that Vaillant struggled more with the climb than I did. I admired this about him—his determination and resilience during difficult times. I know that if I were in his shoes, I would likely give up.

One thing is certain: we will all lose our bodies someday. Yes, we can take steps to improve our health and perhaps lead safer lives. But ultimately, we will lose them.

There’s no benefit in waiting for the perfect moment to begin pursuing our dreams. Everything happens in this very moment. Embracing some level of risk is not a bad thing; it expands our comfort zone.

In the news, we often see the worst of other countries. But, as many travelers told me before I began my own journey, once you experience things firsthand, you’ll wonder what you were so afraid of in the first place.

There’s no advantage in waiting. Just take action with what you have in this very moment. No matter what your goals or dreams may be, venture out there, make a fool of yourself, and live an extraordinary life without regrets.

Like Frodo, who had to leave the Shire to realize his full potential, I felt more like a giant in this land of tiny people. Or perhaps even like a statue-sized Jesus.

Upon arriving in Guatemala City, we witnessed how America had corrupted this country. The deep state cannot be hidden. They are omnipresent, one multinational after another. And those aggressive drivers we encountered in Mexico? They were even worse here, with colossal traffic jams and the incessant honking of cars.

In the evening, Joselyn and Maripaz joined us, having just arrived at the airport. They would stay with us for a week. As I spent time with them, becoming part of this unique family, I started contemplating my own dating life. I had never been alone for such an extended period and had never felt as connected to myself as I did today.

Vaillant booked us a hotel inside a massive mall. I’m glad he did, as it exposed me to another facet of the country, revealing two distinct sides of the culture. On one hand, the peaceful and contented people living amidst nature, despite being considered materially poor.

On the other hand, a vast, luxurious city exuding an entirely different energy. Are we destined to become unhappy when we have too much luxury? Or is there a way to strike a balance? I wondered.

As I write this in a bar near our hotel, I feel an overwhelming sense of gratitude for this opportunity. I realize how privileged I am to navigate through life in this manner, not enslaved by a meaningless job or part of a soulless machine. Instead, I find freedom within this material world because I chose to do so.

I now understand why I no longer feel the same fear I once did. If my time were to come, I would have no regrets about the life I’ve lived. To truly live, we must be ready to face death. These were the words of Eckhart Tolle in his book, ‘The Power of Now.’

We didn’t perish on that hike. Instead, we were reborn.

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Il fait déjà sombre lorsque nous pénétrons dans la ville frontalière guatémaltèque de Tec Uman. Elle donne l’impression d’être une typique petite ville du tiers-monde, et pour ajouter à l’ambiance, nous sommes accueillis par des pluies torrentielles. Inquiets de conduire de nuit pour des raisons de sécurité, j’avais réservé un hôtel à proximité avec d’excellents avis, appelé Santa Fe Pajapita, à seulement 20 minutes en voiture. À notre arrivée, nous sommes accueillis par un garde de sécurité armé d’une mitraillette. L’hôtel propose une chambre confortable avec diverses commodités, dont une piscine. Niek et moi profitons de cette occasion pour laisser libre cours à notre enfant intérieur dans la piscine et nous détendre après notre voyage effréné à travers le Mexique.

Nous laissons derrière nous les autoroutes rapides du sud du Mexique et retrouvons des routes à une seule voie qui avancent lentement alors que nous nous dirigeons vers Quetzaltenango. Le nom “Tenango” dans Quetzaltenango signifie “lieu de”, et le nom de la ville reflète l’importance du Quetzal, l’oiseau national du Guatemala. La culture guatémaltèque nous captive immédiatement, nous nous sentons accueillis par la terre et ses habitants. Les tenues vibrantes portées par les femmes, débordantes de couleurs, viennent s’ajouter à la riche toile culturelle. La culture préservée du Guatemala se démarque en contraste avec le Mexique, qui a été davantage influencé par le sombre côté du capitalisme et la course au profit.

Après nous être enregistrés dans notre hôtel, nous nous aventurons à explorer Quetzaltenango. Nous déjeunons avec délice au populaire et hautement recommandé restaurant Albamar Las Americas, où la musique locale nous accueille. Nous visitons ensuite les sources chaudes de Los Vahos, près du centre-ville, mais malheureusement, nous ne les recommandons pas en raison d’une route cahoteuse et de l’absence de bains thermaux, car ils proposent seulement un sauna. Nous poursuivons notre exploration en visitant le vibrant Mercado Central, où nous nous immergeons dans une atmosphère animée et trouvons des produits abordables. Les nombreuses et magnifiques églises catholiques de la ville reflètent la foi rayonnante de la population. Quelles que soient les croyances religieuses, nous constatons que les personnes religieuses sont souvent plus ancrées et connectées aux valeurs humaines. Les marchés locaux proposent une large gamme de produits à des prix abordables, mais il est important de noter que la plupart des commerçants n’acceptent que les espèces.

Le lendemain, nous nous réveillons tôt à 5 heures du matin pour entamer une randonnée jusqu’au volcan San Pedro en direction du Guatemala. Pendant le petit-déjeuner, je tombe sur des récits en ligne de randonneurs victimes de vols au sommet. Des bandits armés de mitraillettes et de machettes ciblent les touristes alors qu’ils approchent du sommet, en escaladant depuis le village de l’autre côté. Malgré les risques, nous décidons de poursuivre la randonnée car nous avons tellement entendu parler en bien du lac Atitlan. Nous empruntons une route de montagne avec une pente raide, mais heureusement, elle est en bon état. Après deux heures de route jusqu’au point de départ de la randonnée du volcan San Pedro à San Juan La Laguna depuis Quetzaltenango, nous rencontrons deux péages improvisés, payant un total de 25 quetzals. Le parking au point de départ de la randonnée ne peut accueillir que deux voitures, et nous sommes les premiers à nous garer ce jour-là. Je m’enquiers auprès du garde forestier des vols récents, et il nous informe que le dernier a eu lieu en mai. Nous nous sentons prudemment optimistes et entamons notre randonnée à 9h30, en croisant un groupe déçu de randonneurs redescendant du sommet. Ils nous informent que le sommet du volcan est couvert de nuages, sans visibilité. Nous demandons à leurs accompagnateurs de police s’il est sûr de continuer, et ils nous assurent que ça devrait aller tant que nous ne restons pas trop longtemps au sommet. En tenant compte de nos options, nous décidons de poursuivre la randonnée, guidés par notre intuition et un sentiment de paix. Niek et moi progressons régulièrement, et je suis reconnaissant qu’il porte notre sac à dos. Malgré son handicap, mon ami géant parvient toujours à marcher plus vite que moi. Lorsque nous atteignons une altitude de 2800 mètres, je sécurise mon téléphone à un endroit sûr et donne à Niek un portefeuille “appât” contenant des cartes d’identité périmées, des cartes de crédit et de la monnaie en cas de rencontre avec d’éventuels voleurs. Miraculeusement, le ciel se dégage complètement et nous n’en croyons pas notre chance ! Le premier groupe de randonneurs a pris toutes les précautions nécessaires sans succès, tandis que notre approche spontanée tourne en notre faveur. Enfin, vers midi, nous atteignons le sommet et sommes récompensés par une vue à couper le souffle sur le lac Atitlan et les volcans environnants. Cela devient le point culminant de notre voyage jusqu’à présent, car les défis que nous avons affrontés rendent l’expérience encore plus gratifiante. Alors que nous entamons notre descente, épuisés par les cinq heures de randonnée, la pluie commence à tomber. Il semble être un autre coup de chance que nous soyons de retour avant que la pluie ne s’intensifie. En conduisant à travers les rues bondées de San Juan la Laguna, avec ses tuk-tuks remplissant chaque coin, nous trouvons un bon restaurant avec vue sur le lac. Nous retournons ensuite à Guatemala City, complètement épuisés. Je me fraye un chemin sur la route en pente difficile pour rejoindre l’autoroute CA1, tandis que Niek s’endort dans la voiture. Progressivement, les conditions routières s’améliorent au niveau auquel nous nous attendons en Europe. Nous remarquons un schéma récurrent de mauvaises conditions routières près des frontières et d’amélioration en conduisant à l’intérieur des terres, similaire à notre expérience au Mexique.

Guatemala City, avec sa population de plus de 3 millions de personnes, nous impressionne par sa modernité et son infrastructure bien développée. Afin d’être proche de l’aéroport pour accueillir ma petite amie Joselyn et sa fille Maripaz prévue pour cette même nuit, j’ai réservé un Airbnb situé dans un grand centre commercial. Étonnamment, nous devons garer notre voiture dans le garage souterrain du centre commercial au deuxième niveau pour accéder à notre condo. Après avoir confirmé avec mon hôte que l’accès au stationnement est autorisé la nuit, je laisse Niek dans le condo et me dirige vers l’aéroport international La Aurora pour récupérer Joselyn et Maripaz. Je retrouve Joselyn et Maripaz fatigué mais ravi d’être à nouveau réunis. Je conduis ensuite de retour au condo cependant, à mon arrivée, je réalise que je me suis rendu au mauvais endroit, car il y a plusieurs centres commerciaux Pradera. Après 30 minutes de conduite, j’arrive enfin au bon endroit, pour constater que le parking est fermé. J’appelle mon hôte, qui m’informe qu’il y a une autre entrée de l’autre côté. Malgré le suivi de ses instructions, nous rencontrons une autre entrée fermée. Frustré, j’exprime mon mécontentement et finalement, ils envoient une escorte à moto pour nous guider. Cependant, nous rencontrons encore des obstacles, car la carte magnétique fournie par mon hôte ne fonctionne pas. Après 20 minutes d’attente et avec l’aide de mon hôte, nous obtenons enfin l’autorisation d’entrer. Mais à ce moment-là, une panne de courant affecte l’ensemble du centre commercial en raison de travaux de construction prévus. Ce retournement de situation inattendu crée un accueil décevant pour Joselyn, qui parvient à garder une attitude positive malgré sa fille fatiguée, Maripaz. Notre situation est partagée par trois autres voitures coincées dans la même situation, et il faut plus de 30 minutes avant qu’ils n’ouvrent manuellement la barrière pour nous laisser entrer dans le parking. Enfin, à 00h30, nous réussissons enfin à nous garer au parking du centre commercial afin d’accéder à notre appartement. Nous nous effondrons sur le lit, épuisés par les épreuves de la journée. Quel paradoxe fascinant! Nous nous sommes lancés dans une randonnée réputée dangereuse, mais elle s’est révélée être une expérience véritablement enchantée. Cependant, en revenant au royaume des constructions artificielles des hommes, nous nous sommes retrouvés confrontés à des épreuves et des tribulations encore plus éprouvantes.

Après une nuit de repos, nous décidons d’explorer Guatemala City. C’est une ville moderne avec une excellente infrastructure, rappelant Panama City. Nous visitons quelques bâtiments historiques avant de nous plonger dans l’animation du Mercado Central. Le marché offre un merveilleux éventail de produits, et nous parvenons à trouver des souvenirs de qualité à des prix raisonnables, y compris des vêtements colorés locaux. Notre prochain arrêt est le musée Casa de la Memoria, où nous plongeons dans l’histoire du génocide guatémaltèque. La conquête espagnole a réduit drastiquement la population autochtone des Mayas et des Aztèques de 70 millions à seulement 3 millions. La brutalité extraordinaire des colonisateurs est décrite de manière vivante dans le musée. Par la suite, des corporations américaines ont établi une république bananière au Guatemala, entraînant une dictature militaire et une guerre civile caractérisée par une violence horrifiante. Le génocide guatémaltèque a eu lieu pendant cette guerre civile de 1960 à 1996, le régime militaire ciblant et tuant les Mayas autochtones. Massacres, disparitions forcées et violence généralisée visaient à éliminer les menaces perçues des communautés autochtones soutenant les rebelles de gauche. Le nombre estimé de victimes varie de plusieurs dizaines de milliers à plus de 200 000, les peuples autochtones représentant une part importante des pertes.

Le retour à notre condo prend plus de temps que prévu en raison de la circulation dense. Le lendemain, Niek décide de se reposer. Nous avons été constamment en mouvement, avec de longs trajets depuis le début de notre voyage. J’emmène Joselyn visiter la ville d’Antigua. Notre première étape est le magique Hobbitenango, un village hobbit situé à une altitude de 2500 mètres. Les vues à couper le souffle du Volcán de Agua, du Volcán Acatenango et du Volcán de Fuego dépassent nos attentes. Hobbitenango nous surprend avec ses charmantes maisons de hobbit, sa balançoire Tarzan et ses charmantes boutiques et restaurants. Nous explorons ensuite les rues pavées de la ville historique d’Antigua, visitant les ruines des cathédrales du XVIIe siècle. Notre journée se termine par un délicieux repas à l’excellent restaurant français Tartines, où nous engageons une conversation enrichissante avec le propriétaire, un Français qui vit au Guatemala depuis plus de 40 ans. Pour une fin parfaite, nous faisons un arrêt aux sources chaudes de Santa Teresita sur le chemin du retour à Guatemala City. Les piscines thermales offrent différentes températures et des forfaits spa, bien que une réservation préalable soit nécessaire pour les massages. Moins d’une heure plus tard, nous retournons à notre condo, nous sentant revigorés par cet arrêt final.

Le lendemain matin, nous partons pour la frontière de San Salvador, terminant le trajet en moins de trois heures. La sortie du Guatemala se fait rapidement. L’entrée au Salvador nécessite la soumission de divers documents pour notre véhicule : une copie de mon passeport tamponné, l’enregistrement et le titre de propriété du véhicule, le permis de conduire, la vignette du Guatemala et les documents du véhicule qui m’ont été remis à l’entrée du Guatémala. Le personnel à la frontière est amical et serviable, dissipant les idées préconçues sur la bureaucratie salvadorienne. Le temps total pour traverser la frontière est inférieur à 90 minutes. L’excitation est palpable alors que notre groupe se lance dans une nouvelle aventure, laissant le Guatemala derrière nous et fixant notre attention sur la prochaine destination : El Salvador…

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Ya es de noche cuando entramos a la ciudad fronteriza guatemalteca de Tec Uman. Da la impresión de ser un típico pueblo del tercer mundo, y para nuestra sorpresa el ambiente cambia y nos reciben fuertes lluvias. Preocupados por conducir de noche por razones de seguridad, había reservado un hotel cercano con excelentes reseñas llamado Santa Fe Pajapita, a solo 20 minutos en coche. A nuestra llegada, somos recibidos por un guardia de seguridad armado con una ametralladora. El hotel ofrece una cómoda habitación con varias comodidades, incluida una piscina. Niek y yo aprovechamos esta oportunidad para dejar fluir nuestro niño interior en la piscina y relajarnos después de nuestro ajetreado viaje a través de México.

Dejamos atrás las autopistas rápidas del sur de México y encontramos carreteras de un solo carril que avanzan lentamente mientras nos dirigimos a Quetzaltenango. El nombre “Tenango” en Quetzaltenango significa “lugar de”, y el nombre de la ciudad refleja la importancia del Quetzal, el ave nacional de Guatemala. La cultura guatemalteca nos cautiva de inmediato, nos sentimos bienvenidos por la tierra y sus habitantes. Los vibrantes trajes que usan las mujeres, multicolores, se suman a la rica tela cultural. La cultura preservada de Guatemala destaca en contraste con México, que ha sido más influenciado por el lado oscuro del capitalismo y la carrera hacia el beneficio.

Después de registrarnos en nuestro hotel, nos aventuramos a explorar Quetzaltenango. Disfrutamos de un delicioso almuerzo en el popular y altamente recomendado restaurante Albamar Las Americas, donde la música local nos da la bienvenida. Luego visitamos las aguas termales de Los Vahos, cerca del centro de la ciudad, pero desafortunadamente no las recomendamos debido a una carretera accidentada y la falta de baños o piscinas termales, ya que solo ofrecen una sauna. Continuamos nuestra exploración visitando el animado Mercado Central, donde nos sumergimos en un ambiente animado y encontramos productos asequibles. Las numerosas y hermosas iglesias católicas de la ciudad reflejan la fe radiante de la población. Independientemente de las creencias religiosas, observamos que las personas religiosas a menudo están más arraigadas y conectadas con los valores humanos. Los mercados locales ofrecen una amplia gama de productos a precios asequibles, pero es importante tener en cuenta que la mayoría de los comerciantes solo aceptan efectivo.

Al día siguiente, nos levantamos temprano a las 5 de la mañana para comenzar una caminata hasta el volcán San Pedro en dirección a Guatemala. Durante el desayuno, encuentro en en camino relatos de excursionistas que fueron víctimas de robos en la cima. Bandidos armados con ametralladoras y machetes atacan a los turistas mientras se acercan a la cima, ascendiendo desde el pueblo al otro lado. A pesar de los riesgos, decidimos continuar la caminata ya que hemos escuchado tanto sobre el lago Atitlán. Tomamos una carretera de montaña con una pendiente pronunciada, pero afortunadamente, está en buen estado. Después de dos horas de viaje hasta el punto de partida de la caminata al volcán San Pedro desde San Juan La Laguna hasta Quetzaltenango, nos encontramos con dos peajes improvisados, pagando un total de 25 quetzales. El estacionamiento en el punto de partida de la caminata solo tiene capacidad para dos autos, y somos los primeros en estacionarnos ese día. Pregunto al guardabosques acerca de los robos recientes, y nos informa que el último ocurrió en mayo. Nos sentimos optimistas pero prudentes y comenzamos nuestra caminata a las 9:30 a.m., encontrándonos con un grupo desilusionado de excursionistas bajando de la cima. Nos informan que la cima del volcán está cubierta de nubes, sin visibilidad. Le preguntamos a sus acompañantes policías si es seguro continuar, y nos aseguran que estaremos bien siempre y cuando no pasemos mucho tiempo en la cima. Tomando en cuenta nuestras opciones, decidimos seguir adelante con la caminata, guiados por nuestra intuición y un sentimiento de paz. Niek y yo avanzamos constantemente, y estoy agradecido de que él lleve nuestra mochila. A pesar de su discapacidad, mi amigo gigante siempre logra caminar más rápido que yo. Cuando alcanzamos una altitud de 2800 metros, aseguro mi teléfono en un lugar seguro y le doy a Niek una cartera “señuelo” que contiene identificaciones vencidas, tarjetas de crédito y dinero en efectivo en caso de un encuentro con posibles ladrones. Milagrosamente, el cielo se despeja por completo y no podemos creer nuestra suerte. El primer grupo de excursionistas tomó todas las precauciones necesarias sin éxito, mientras que nuestro enfoque espontáneo resultó a nuestro favor. Finalmente, alrededor del mediodía, alcanzamos la cima y somos recompensados con una vista impresionante del lago Atitlán y los volcanes circundantes. Esto se convierte en el punto culminante de nuestro viaje hasta ahora, ya que los desafíos que hemos enfrentado hacen que la experiencia sea aún más gratificante. Mientras comenzamos a descender, agotados por las cinco horas de caminata, comienza a llover. Parece ser otra cuestión de suerte que estemos de regreso antes de que la lluvia se intensifique. Conduciendo por las concurridas calles de San Juan La Laguna, con sus tuk-tuks llenando cada esquina, encontramos un buen restaurante con vista al lago. Luego, regresamos a la Ciudad de Guatemala, completamente exhaustos. Me abro paso por la empinada carretera para unirme a la autopista CA1, mientras Niek se queda dormido en el coche. Las condiciones de la carretera mejoran gradualmente al nivel que esperamos en Europa. Notamos un patrón recurrente de malas condiciones de carretera cerca de las fronteras y una mejora al conducir hacia el interior del país, similar a nuestra experiencia en México.

La Ciudad de Guatemala, con una población de más de 3 millones de personas, nos impresiona con su modernidad y su bien desarrollada infraestructura. Para estar cerca del aeropuerto y recibir a mi novia Joselyn y su hija Maripaz esa misma noche, reservé un Airbnb ubicado en un gran centro comercial. Sorprendentemente, debemos estacionar nuestro coche en el garaje subterráneo del centro comercial en el segundo nivel para acceder a nuestro condominio. Después de confirmar con mi anfitrión que se permite el acceso al estacionamiento durante la noche, dejo a Niek en el condominio y me dirijo al Aeropuerto Internacional La Aurora para recoger a Joselyn y Maripaz. Encuentro a Joselyn y Maripaz cansadas pero encantadas de estar juntos nuevamente. Luego conduzco de regreso al condominio, pero al llegar, me doy cuenta de que me dirigí al lugar equivocado, ya que hay varios centros comerciales Pradera. Después de 30 minutos de conducción, finalmente llego al lugar correcto, solo para descubrir que el estacionamiento está cerrado. Llamo a mi anfitrión, quien me informa que hay otra entrada al otro lado. A pesar de seguir sus instrucciones, nos encontramos con otra entrada cerrada. Frustrado, expreso mi descontento y finalmente envían una escolta en moto para guiarnos. Sin embargo, todavía encontramos obstáculos, ya que la tarjeta magnética proporcionada por mi anfitrión no funciona. Después de esperar 20 minutos y con la ayuda de mi anfitrión, finalmente obtenemos permiso para ingresar. Pero para ese momento, un corte de energía afecta todo el centro comercial debido a trabajos de construcción programados. Este giro inesperado de los acontecimientos crea una recepción decepcionante para Joselyn, quien logra mantener una actitud positiva a pesar de la fatiga de su hija, Maripaz. Nuestra situación es compartida por otros tres autos atrapados en la misma situación, y pasan más de 30 minutos antes de que abran manualmente la barrera para permitirnos ingresar al estacionamiento. Finalmente, a las 12:30 a.m., finalmente logramos estacionar en el estacionamiento del centro comercial para acceder a nuestro apartamento. Nos desplomamos en la cama, exhaustos por las pruebas del día. ¡Qué fascinante paradoja! Nos embarcamos en una caminata considerada peligrosa, pero resultó ser una experiencia verdaderamente encantada. Sin embargo, al regresar al reino de las construcciones artificiales de los hombres, nos enfrentamos a pruebas y tribulaciones aún más agotadoras.

Después de una noche de descanso, decidimos explorar la Ciudad de Guatemala. Es una ciudad moderna con una excelente infraestructura, recordando a la Ciudad de Panamá. Visitamos algunos edificios históricos antes de sumergirnos en la animación del Mercado Central. El mercado ofrece una maravillosa variedad de productos, y logramos encontrar souvenirs de calidad a precios razonables, incluyendo colorida ropa local. Nuestra próxima parada es el museo Casa de la Memoria, donde nos sumergimos en la historia del genocidio guatemalteco. La conquista española redujo drásticamente la población indígena de mayas y aztecas de 70 millones a solo 3 millones. La brutalidad extraordinaria de los colonizadores se describe vívidamente en el museo. Posteriormente, corporaciones estadounidenses establecieron una república bananera en Guatemala, lo que llevó a una dictadura militar y una guerra civil caracterizada por una violencia horrible. El genocidio guatemalteco ocurrió durante esta guerra civil de 1960 a 1996, con el régimen militar apuntando y asesinando a los mayas indígenas. Masacres, desapariciones forzadas y violencia generalizada tenían como objetivo eliminar las amenazas percibidas de las comunidades indígenas que apoyaban a los rebeldes de izquierda. El número estimado de víctimas varía de decenas de miles a más de 200,000, siendo los pueblos indígenas una parte importante de las pérdidas.

El regreso a nuestro condominio toma más tiempo de lo previsto debido al tráfico denso. Al día siguiente, Niek decide descansar. Hemos estado en movimiento constante, con largos viajes desde el comienzo de nuestro viaje. Llevo a Joselyn a visitar la ciudad de Antigua Guatemala. Nuestra primera parada es el mágico Hobbitenango, un pueblo hobbit ubicado a una altitud de 2500 metros. Las impresionantes vistas del Volcán de Agua, el Volcán Acatenango y el Volcán de Fuego superan nuestras expectativas. Hobbitenango nos sorprende con sus encantadoras casas hobbit, su columpio Tarzán y sus encantadoras tiendas y restaurantes. Luego exploramos las calles empedradas de la ciudad histórica de Antigua, visitando las ruinas de catedrales del siglo XVII. Nuestro día termina con una deliciosa comida en el excelente restaurante francés Tartines, donde entablamos una enriquecedora conversación con el propietario, un francés que ha vivido en Guatemala durante más de 40 años. Para un final perfecto, hacemos una parada en las aguas termales de Santa Teresita en el camino de regreso a la Ciudad de Guatemala. Las piscinas termales ofrecen diferentes temperaturas y paquetes de spa, aunque se necesita una reserva previa para los masajes. Menos de una hora después, regresamos a nuestro condominio, sintiéndonos renovados por esta última parada.

A la mañana siguiente, partimos hacia la frontera de El Salvador, completando el trayecto en menos de tres horas. La salida de Guatemala se realiza rápidamente. La entrada a El Salvador requiere la presentación de varios documentos para nuestro vehículo: una copia de mi pasaporte sellado, el registro y el título de propiedad del vehículo, la licencia de conducir, la calcomanía de Guatemala y los documentos del vehículo que me dieron en la entrada de Guatemala. El personal en la frontera es amable y servicial, disipando las ideas preconcebidas sobre la burocracia salvadoreña. El tiempo total para cruzar la frontera es inferior a 90 minutos. La emoción es palpable mientras nuestro grupo se embarca en una nueva aventura, dejando atrás Guatemala y enfocándonos en el próximo destino: El Salvador…

Driving from the USA to Costa Rica II

July 8, 2023July 13, 2023 / vaillantgicqueau / 2 Comments

Chapter II – Mexico

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We crossed the Mexico border at around 4 pm on July 3rd. Opting for safety, we decided to spend the night in Matamoros since driving at night was not advisable as the next big city Tampico was over 6 hours away. Matamoros didn’t leave a good impression; it seemed odd that border cities in Mexico, like Tijuana, often lacked development and proper infrastructure. Our Airbnb experience in Matamoros started on a rough note with the wrong directions and a detour into a less desirable part of town. However, after finally finding the right place, we took shelter in our car with the air conditioning on, battling the scorching heat outside as we waited for our host to open the gate. Booking accommodations with air conditioning is a critical necessity in the sweltering Mexican summer. Luckily, our Airbnb provided gated parking to ensure the safety of our vehicle. During the move from the car to the apartment, I discovered an unfamiliar iPhone in our possession. Niek had mistakenly picked it up at customs, assuming it was mine, but thankfully, the owner hadn’t locked her phone, enabling us to contact her and arrange its return. It was a paradoxical situation; had she secured her phone with a passcode, returning it to her might have been considerably more challenging.

As was the norm during our journey, we rose early to reach our next destination, the coastal city of Tampico, a 6.5-hour drive southward. Driving in Mexico initially took some getting used to, with drivers utilizing emergency lanes to allow faster cars to pass them. We found the overall driving style to be aggressive, with unnecessary risks and poor visibility taken to save a few minutes that could cost them their lives. We checked into a delightful and affordable hotel, treating ourselves to a massive fish feast. The sweltering heat outside was relentless. After some time by the pool, we headed to Tampico’s famous Miramar beach around 6 pm when the temperature became slightly more bearable. Miramar was an incredibly expansive beach, with a significant portion utilized as parking space. The sea’s temperature in the Gulf of Mexico was divine, hovering around 25 degrees Celsius (77 degrees Fahrenheit). The waves were gentle, the water shallow, and it was perfect for swimming. We marveled at the beauty of the beach, even engaging in our yoga practice. To cap off the day, we visited Tampico’s renowned shopping mall, Altama City Center. It felt like stepping back into the United States, but the prices were on par, if not higher than those in northern America.

The following morning, we set off for our next coastal city, Veracruz, a 7-hour drive away. We made a pit stop halfway to explore the famous El Tajin ruins. El Tajin, a renowned archaeological site, captivated us with its magnificent structures. Once the capital of the Totonac civilization, the site thrived from the 9th to the 13th centuries. Notably, the Pyramid of the Niches stood out among the ruins, adorned with ornate windows. As we parked our vehicle, we found ourselves approached by two women eager to sell us lunch. The afternoon had already slipped away, and our hunger reminded us of the skipped meal. It quickly became apparent that these women were competitors vying for our patronage. The one with an air of confidence managed to persuade us to dine at her restaurant, just a five-minute stroll away, despite the other woman’s efforts. Stepping into the archaeological site, we were greeted by a spectacle known as “The Dance of the Flyers.” It filled me with joy to share this experience with Niek, as I had witnessed it fifteen years prior in Acapulco. “The Dance of the Fliers,” or “Danza de los Voladores” in Spanish, is a mesmerizing traditional ritual deeply rooted in Mexican culture. This ancient Mesoamerican ceremony is brought to life by a group of skilled performers known as “voladores” or “fliers.” Adorned in vibrant, colorful traditional attire, they ascend a towering pole with grace and precision. Four of them descend in a captivating spiral, tethered to ropes that symbolize the flight of birds, while the fifth remains at the pinnacle, playing flute and drum, lending a rhythmic accompaniment to the enchanting spectacle. Beyond its visual grandeur, the Dance of the Flyers holds profound cultural and spiritual significance, representing the profound connection between humanity and the natural world. I am awe-inspired by the fliers’ serene state of relaxation as they whirl around the pole in a trance-like dance. Among the ruins, the Pyramid of the Niches stands as a true marvel. Its name, derived from the myriad decorative windows that adorn its structure, adds to its magnificence.

After immersing ourselves in this cultural experience, we continued our journey to Veracruz. Exhausted from the drive, we treated ourselves to a rejuvenating massage at the hotel. Later, we indulged in the hotel’s pool, enjoying the evening heat before settling in for a restful night. When we woke up, the weather took a turn for the worse, with constant rain and no signs of improvement. We made the tough decision to cancel our plans to visit Cancuncito and Boca del Rio beaches, opting to push forward with our trip.

This day marked our transition from the Gulf of Mexico to the Pacific side. Paradoxically, as we traveled further south, the roads improved dramatically, reminiscent of what one would expect in Europe. Halfway through, we stopped for lunch at a hotel restaurant near Lake Nezahualcoyotl. The lake’s water level surprised us, appearing remarkably low due to the severe drought affecting Mexico. As we approached Arriaga, near the Pacific Coast, we found ourselves on a mountainous road shrouded in mystical fog. Ultimately, we chose a hotel in Tonala, venturing into the nearby city square called Esperanza Plaza to find a place to eat. Once seated, we were approached by three different restaurant owners vying for our business—an amusing trend we noticed in Mexico. Ultimately, we ended up ordering from two different establishments. As I settled the bill at one place, they inquired whether I had also paid the other. At least in this situation, it seemed the women restaurateurs were more supportive of each other. After a restful night, we embarked on a short drive to Puerto Arista on the Pacific side, a mere 25 minutes away. The waves were breathtaking, but unfortunately, swimming was unsafe. After our yoga session, we savored a beachside breakfast before continuing our journey towards the Guatemala border.

The lack of reliable information about crossing the border led us to rely on our GPS, directing us to Guatemala City without specifying which border to cross. Passing Tapachula, we encountered a massive line of trucks en route to Central America, seemingly stuck there for an extended period. At a fork in the road, I decided to ask a motorcyclist for advice on the best border crossing. This turned out to be a fortunate move, as my GPS was suggesting we follow the endless truck line on the left, while he recommended heading towards Ciudad Hidalgo. However, even in Ciudad Hidalgo, Google Maps seemed confused, and we had to ask locals for directions to find the customs office. If you reading this blog with the hope of easily finding the customs office, please put this location. By around 3 pm, we reached the Mexican customs checkpoint. The entire process of crossing and receiving a refund of the $468 Mexican car deposit from Banjercito took less than 45 minutes. We did not have to pay for an exit fee as we had spent less than a week in Mexico.

After covering 1,200 miles of driving, or nearly 2,000 kilometers, over 23 hours, we finally arrived at the Guatemala border. Crossing Mexico via this route proved to be the most efficient option, as traveling along the Pacific Coast from San Diego would have taken 44 hours and covered over 2,600 miles, or 4,000 kilometers. Mexico turned out to be more extensive than anticipated.

We were greeted by a sign reading “Welcome to Guatemala, the country of eternal spring.” The climate already resembled that of Costa Rica, with tropical afternoon rain beginning to fall. The customs officer in Guatemala was friendly and helpful. As part of the procedure, she requested that we open our suitcases. Unfortunately, we had made the critical mistake of leaving some items in their original packaging from our USA purchases, resulting in a 23% tax being levied on them. With four more borders to cross, this unexpected cost could become significant, prompting us to devise a new strategy for future border crossings. I was handed a tax bill of $150! In jest, I thought to myself that my friend Petar owed me a massage for all the taxes on his packages. Regrettably, they only accepted cash in the local currency, quetzales. I attempted to avoid a local individual eager to exchange my cash to avoid this legal form of extortion, venturing into the small Guatemalan city of Tecun Uman to find an ATM amid pouring tropical rain. Thankful for my trusty Crocs as the streets were already flooded with 10 inches of water, I withdrew cash to complete the vehicle release process and free Niek, who had spent 30 minutes enduring a headache-inducing ordeal with a screaming child in the customs office. This four-year-old child happens to be the offspring of a Swiss couple who found themselves trapped in the Guatemala customs office for over 24 hours due to a minor paperwork issue. As I approached the scene, this little rascal couldn’t resist capturing a funny video of me on his phone. On my end, I faced the following border requirements: presenting the original car title, car registration, US driver’s license, passport, and the Banjercito paperwork from Mexico. Surprisingly, they didn’t ask for any copies and promptly returned all my documents. Crossing this border took us a total of 2 hours and 40 minutes, with nearly 2 hours spent on the Guatemalan side alone. We considered ourselves fortunate when comparing our experience to that of the stranded Swiss couple.

Niek’s ponderings

Once we departed from the American roads, the stark contrast in the aggressive driving style of the Mexicans became evident. The highways lacked a center strip, allowing for daring maneuvers at speeds of 110 mph against oncoming traffic. In these moments, one’s safety rested entirely in the hands of others, reminding me of similar experiences in Belgium where I faced traumatic accidents beyond my control. Over time, I conquered my fear of driving, but never could I have imagined navigating the roads we were traversing that day.

It was a realization that the illusion of control is just that—an illusion. When our time comes, it will come, regardless of our efforts to safeguard our lives and cling to the belief that someday we will have it all figured out.

But here we are, in this moment, living and experiencing this human existence. If there is anything to control, it lies within ourselves. Learning to manage our inner world, observing our thoughts when faced with life’s events, for they happen not to us but for us. Life happens for us.

As we continued our journey, we encountered numerous soldiers armed with heavy machine guns, one convoy after another. The sight was frightening, reminding me of how swiftly life can be extinguished by a single bullet.

While Vaillant took more risks than I did when overtaking slower vehicles, he seemed to feel less secure than I did in such situations. Surrendering control can sometimes be more daunting than taking the risk ourselves. I excelled in the former, while Vaillant thrived in embracing risk. This dynamic made us a compatible duo, and this trip taught us to trust one another.

During the long hours of driving, profound insights about myself and how I wished to shape my life upon returning to Costa Rica surfaced. The people we initially resist can often become our greatest teachers. Initially harboring resistance toward my fair-haired companion, as I began to dismantle those barriers and listen to the lessons I needed to learn, a profound sense of gratitude for this connection arose within me.

I knew this journey would confront me with inner resistance and deeper fears. However, I also knew it would facilitate personal growth—if we managed to survive, of course.

Vaillant’s aim was to expedite our passage through Mexico and savor the delights of the smaller countries that lay ahead. One of our stops included the ancient ruins of El Tajin—an extinct civilization. I couldn’t help but wonder what would have transpired had my European ancestors never discovered this land. Would the Mayas and Incas have also succumbed to the allure of smartphones and fallen prey to addiction to technology and luxury, as we have? We’ve never had access to such vast amounts of luxury and technology until now.

Seeking to disconnect from my mind, I allowed myself to immerse in the energy of the place. I sensed an inexplicable pull to be there, if only for a fleeting moment, to experience its essence.

During our drive, there were moments when our hearts raced as massive trucks made unexpected maneuvers and came dangerously close. In just four days, we covered the distance from the Texas border to the Guatemalan border. Yet, I don’t believe four days suffice to truly grasp the vastness of a country like Mexico. Nevertheless, the impressions thus far were etched in my mind.

The locals seemed smaller and chubbier, struggling to exhibit friendliness until they realized we intended to spend money. This was a stark contrast to the hospitality we experienced in Texas. Many people still wore masks, and Vaillant mentioned that some individuals preferred to suppress themselves—an expression of their fear and the traumas they had endured, yet to be healed.

Hotels and meals proved more affordable than in the United States. Despite my prior concerns about sleeping in different beds each night exacerbating my mild insomnia, the opposite proved true. I had never slept so soundly before.

When you spend time with someone like Vaillant, you witness how youthfulness can be retained in later years through the right mindset and nurturing routines. After our morning practice on the beach, I felt my body and mind relax. A teacher once told me that sometimes we only need to step into a place once to learn a specific lesson. This trip felt like a profound lesson—one that shatters the familiar environment where we dwell, encountering the same people and following the same routines year after year. Eventually, these patterns blind us, as we continue running the same software on repeat.

Traveling, on the other hand, exposes us to ever-changing environments—a beautiful aspect of exploration that fosters growth.

As we made our final stop before reaching the border, a soldier with a machine gun looked at me and asked, “Banos?” I replied softly, “Si!” While I relieved myself, I couldn’t help but think, “Wow, that soldier was unexpectedly friendly.”

Mexico, what a country. What lies ahead?

Version en Français: chapitre II – Mexico

Nous avons traversé la frontière mexicaine vers 16 heures le 3 juillet. Par souci de sécurité, nous avons décidé de passer la nuit à Matamoros, car la prochaine grande ville, Tampico, se trouvait à plus de 6 heures de route. Matamoros ne nous a pas laissé une bonne impression ; il était étrange de constater que les villes frontalières au Mexique, comme Tijuana, manquaient souvent de développement et d’infrastructures adéquates. Notre expérience Airbnb à Matamoros a commencé sur une mauvaise note avec les mauvaises indications routières de notre hôte Airbnb et un détour vers une partie moins désirable de la ville. Cependant, après avoir finalement trouvé le bon endroit, nous nous sommes réfugiés dans notre voiture avec la climatisation allumée, luttant contre la chaleur étouffante à l’extérieur en attendant que notre hôte ouvre le portail. Il est essentiel de réserver des hébergements avec climatisation lors de l’été mexicain étouffant ! Heureusement, notre Airbnb disposait d’un parking fermé pour assurer la sécurité de notre véhicule. Pendant que nous transférions nos affaires de la voiture à l’appartement, j’ai découvert un iPhone inconnu en notre possession. Niek l’avait pris accidentellement à une femme attendant aux douanes, pensant qu’il était à moi, mais heureusement, la propriétaire n’avait pas verrouillé son téléphone, ce qui nous a permis de la contacter et de le lui rendre. C’était une situation paradoxale ; si elle avait protégé son téléphone avec un code d’accès, il aurait été beaucoup plus difficile de le lui restituer.

Comme à notre habitude lors de ce voyage, nous nous sommes levés tôt pour atteindre notre prochaine destination, la ville côtière de Tampico, à 6,5 heures au sud. Conduire au Mexique a nécessité une certaine adaptation, avec des conducteurs conduisant sur les voies de secours pour laisser passer les voitures plus rapides. Nous avons trouvé le style de conduite en général agressif, avec des prises de risques inutiles et une visibilité réduite pour gagner quelques minutes qui pourraient leur coûter la vie. Nous avons fait notre enregistrement tôt dans un hôtel charmant et abordable, et nous nous après offert un énorme festin de poisson en ville. La chaleur étouffante à l’extérieur était implacable. Après un moment au bord de la piscine, nous nous sommes rendus à la célèbre plage de Miramar à Tampico vers 18 heures, lorsque la température était légèrement plus supportable. Miramar était une plage incroyablement vaste, avec une partie importante utilisée comme parking. La température de la mer dans cette partie du golfe du Mexique était divine, avoisinant les 25 degrés Celsius (77 degrés Fahrenheit). Les vagues étaient douces, l’eau peu profonde, idéale pour la baignade. Nous avons admiré la beauté de la plage, et nous avons même pratiqué le yoga. Pour terminer la journée, nous avons visité le célèbre centre commercial d’Altama City Center à Tampico. On aurait dit que nous étions de retour aux États-Unis, mais les prix étaient équivalents, voire plus élevés qu’au Nord de l’Amérique.

Le lendemain matin, nous avons repris notre route vers notre prochaine ville côtière, Veracruz, à 7 heures de route. Nous avons fait une halte à mi-chemin pour explorer les célèbres ruines d’El Tajin. El Tajin, un site archéologique renommé, nous a captivés par ses structures magnifiques. Ancienne capitale de la civilisation totonaque, le site a prospéré du 9e au 13e siècle. La pyramide des Niches se démarquait particulièrement parmi les ruines, ornée de nombreuses fenêtres décoratives. En nous garant, nous avons été accostés par deux femmes désireuses de nous vendre un déjeuner. L’après-midi était déjà avancé, et notre faim se faisait sentir. Il est vite devenu évident que ces femmes étaient des concurrentes cherchant à attirer notre clientèle. Celle qui affichait le plus d’assurance a réussi à nous convaincre de déjeuner dans son restaurant, à seulement cinq minutes à pied, malgré les efforts de l’autre femme. En pénétrant dans le site archéologique, nous avons été accueillis par un spectacle appelé “La danse des volants”. Cela m’a rempli de joie de partager cette expérience avec Niek, car je l’avais déjà vue il y a quinze ans à Acapulco. “La danse des volants”, ou “Danza de los Voladores” en espagnol, est un rituel traditionnel captivant ancré dans la culture mexicaine. Ce rituel ancien mésoaméricain est interprété par un groupe de talentueux artistes connus sous le nom de “voladores” ou “voltigeurs”. Vêtus de costumes traditionnels colorés, ils s’élèvent avec grâce et précision sur un mât imposant. Quatre d’entre eux descendent en spirale captivante, attachés à des cordes symbolisant le vol des oiseaux, tandis que le cinquième reste au sommet, jouant de la flûte et du tambour pour accompagner ce spectacle envoûtant. Au-delà de sa grandeur visuelle, la danse des volants revêt une signification culturelle et spirituelle profonde, représentant le lien profond entre l’humanité et la nature. Je restais émerveillé par l’état de relaxation et de transe des voltigeurs alors qu’ils tournoient autour du mât dans une danse étourdissante. Parmi les ruines, la pyramide des Niches est une véritable merveille. Son nom, issu des nombreuses fenêtres décoratives qui ornent sa structure, ajoute à sa magnificence.

Après nous être imprégnés de cette expérience culturelle, nous avons poursuivi notre voyage vers Veracruz. Épuisés par la route, nous nous sommes offert un massage revigorant à l’hôtel. Plus tard, nous avons profité de la piscine de l’hôtel, appréciant la chaleur de la soirée avant de passer une nuit reposante. Au réveil, le temps a pris une tournure désagréable, avec une pluie constante sans signe de répit. Nous avons pris la difficile décision d’annuler nos projets de visiter les plages de Cancuncito et de Boca del Rio, préférant poursuivre notre voyage.

Ce jour-là marquait notre transition de la côte du golfe du Mexique vers la côte Pacifique. Paradoxalement, à mesure que nous nous dirigions vers le sud, les routes s’amélioraient considérablement, rappelant ce à quoi on pourrait s’attendre en Europe. À mi-chemin, nous nous sommes arrêtés pour déjeuner dans un hôtel restaurant près du lac Nezahualcoyotl. Le niveau d’eau du lac nous a surpris, il semblait étonnamment bas en raison de la grave sécheresse qui touche le Mexique. En approchant d’Arriaga, près de la côte Pacifique, nous nous sommes retrouvés sur une route montagneuse enveloppée d’un brouillard mystique. Finalement, nous avons choisi un hôtel à Tonala, nous aventurant sur la place de la ville voisine appelée Esperanza Plaza pour trouver un endroit où manger. Une fois installés, nous avons été abordés par trois propriétaires de restaurants différents cherchant à attirer notre clientèle, une tendance amusante que nous avons remarquée au Mexique. Finalement, nous avons commandé dans deux établissements différents. En réglant l’addition dans un endroit, on m’a demandé si j’avais également payé l’autre. Au moins, dans cette situation, il semblait que les femmes restauratrices se soutenaient mutuellement. Après une nuit de repos, nous avons entrepris un court trajet jusqu’à Puerto Arista sur la côte Pacifique, à seulement 25 minutes de route. Les vagues étaient époustouflantes, mais malheureusement, la baignade était dangereuse. Après notre séance de yoga, nous avons savouré un petit-déjeuner en bord de plage avant de poursuivre notre voyage en direction de la frontière du Guatemala.

Le manque d’informations fiables sur le passage de la frontière nous a obligés à nous fier à notre GPS, qui nous indiquait de nous diriger vers Guatemala City sans préciser quelle frontière traverser. En passant par Tapachula, nous avons rencontré une longue file de camions se dirigeant vers l’Amérique centrale, apparemment bloqués là depuis un certain temps. À un embranchement, j’ai décidé de demander conseil à un motocycliste sur le meilleur passage frontalier. Cela s’est avéré être une bonne décision, car mon GPS suggérait de suivre la longue file de camions à gauche, tandis qu’il recommandait de se diriger vers Ciudad Hidalgo. Cependant, même à Ciudad Hidalgo, Google Maps semblait perdu, et nous avons dû demander des indications aux habitants pour trouver le bureau des douanes. Si vous lisez ce blog dans l’espoir de trouver facilement le bureau des douanes, veuillez noter cette adresse. Vers 15 heures, nous avons atteint le poste de douane mexicain. Tout le processus de passage de la frontière et de remboursement de la caution de 468 dollars pour la voiture par Banjercito a pris moins de 45 minutes. Nous n’avons pas eu à payer de frais de sortie car nous avions passé moins d’une semaine au Mexique.

Après avoir parcouru 1 200 miles en voiture, soit près de 2 000 kilomètres, en 23 heures, nous sommes enfin arrivés à la frontière du Guatemala. Traverser le Mexique par cet itinéraire s’est avéré être l’option la plus efficace, car voyager le long de la côte Pacifique depuis San Diego aurait pris 44 heures et aurait couvert plus de 2 600 miles, soit 4 000 kilomètres. Le Mexique s’est révélé plus vaste que prévu.

Nous avons été accueillis par un panneau indiquant “Bienvenue au Guatemala, le pays du printemps éternel”. Le climat ressemblait déjà à celui du Costa Rica, avec des averses tropicales commençant à tomber l’après-midi. L’agent des douanes au Guatemala était amicale et serviable. Dans le cadre de la procédure, elle nous a demandé d’ouvrir nos valises. Malheureusement, nous avions commis l’erreur de laisser certains articles dans leur emballage d’origine après nos achats aux États-Unis, ce qui a entraîné une taxe de 23 % sur ces articles. Avec quatre autres frontières à traverser, ce coût imprévu pourrait devenir important, ce qui nous a poussés à élaborer une nouvelle stratégie pour les futurs passages frontaliers. On m’a remis une facture fiscale de 150 dollars ! Pour plaisanter, je me suis dit que mon ami Petar me devait un massage pour toutes les taxes sur ses colis. Malheureusement, ils n’acceptaient que les espèces dans la monnaie locale, le quetzal. J’ai essayé d’éviter un individu local désireux d’échanger mon argent pour éviter cette forme légale d’extorsion, me dirigeant vers la petite ville guatémaltèque de Tecun Uman pour trouver un distributeur automatique de billets sous une pluie tropicale battante. Reconnaissant de mes fidèles Crocs, les rues étaient déjà inondées avec 10 pouces d’eau, j’ai retiré de l’argent pour terminer le processus de régularisation du véhicule et libérer Niek, qui avait passé 30 minutes à supporter un enfant qui hurlait dans le bureau des douanes. Cet enfant de quatre ans est le fils d’un couple suisse qui s’est retrouvé coincé dans le bureau des douanes du Guatemala pendant plus de 24 heures en raison d’un problème mineur de papier. En m’approchant de la scène, ce petit diablotin n’a pas pu résister à l’envie de me filmer avec son téléphone. De mon côté, j’ai dû présenter les documents suivants à la frontière : le titre de propriété original du véhicule, l’immatriculation du véhicule, le permis de conduire américain, le passeport et les documents de Banjercito provenant du Mexique. Étonnamment, ils n’ont pas demandé de copies et nous ont rapidement rendu tous nos documents. Le passage de cette frontière nous a pris un total de 2 heures et 40 minutes, dont près de 2 heures passées du côté guatémaltèque uniquement. Nous nous considérons chanceux en comparant notre expérience à celle du couple suisse coincé.

Versión en español a continuación

Crucemos la frontera de México alrededor de las 4 de la tarde del 3 de julio. Optando por la seguridad, decidimos pasar la noche en Matamoros, ya que no era aconsejable conducir de noche y nuestra siguiente gran ciudad, Tampico, estaba a más de 6 horas de distancia. Matamoros no nos dejó una buena impresión; parecía extraño que las ciudades fronterizas en México, como Tijuana, a menudo carecieran de desarrollo e infraestructura adecuada. Nuestra experiencia en Airbnb en Matamoros comenzó con problemas, ya que recibimos indicaciones equivocadas y terminamos en una parte menos deseable de la ciudad. Sin embargo, después de finalmente encontrar el lugar correcto, nos refugiamos en nuestro coche con el aire acondicionado encendido, luchando contra el intenso calor exterior mientras esperábamos a que nuestro anfitrión abriera la puerta. Reservar alojamientos con aire acondicionado es una necesidad crítica en el caluroso verano mexicano. Afortunadamente, nuestro Airbnb proporcionaba estacionamiento cerrado para garantizar la seguridad de nuestro vehículo. Durante el traslado del coche al apartamento, descubrí un iPhone desconocido en nuestro poder. Niek lo había recogido por error en la aduana, pensando que era mío, pero afortunadamente la propietaria no había bloqueado su teléfono, lo que nos permitió contactarla y coordinar su devolución. Fue una situación paradójica; si hubiera protegido su teléfono con un código, devolvérselo habría sido considerablemente más complicado.

Como era la norma durante nuestro viaje, nos levantamos temprano para llegar a nuestro próximo destino, la ciudad costera de Tampico, a 6.5 horas hacia el sur. Conducir en México al principio requería acostumbrarse, ya que los conductores utilizaban los carriles de emergencia para permitir que los autos más rápidos los adelantaran. Encontramos que el estilo de conducción en general era agresivo, con riesgos innecesarios y poca visibilidad tomados para ahorrar unos minutos que podrían costarles la vida. Nos registramos en un hotel encantador y asequible, dándonos un festín de pescado. El calor sofocante en el exterior era implacable. Después de un tiempo junto a la piscina, nos dirigimos a la famosa playa de Miramar en Tampico alrededor de las 6 de la tarde, cuando la temperatura se volvió un poco más soportable. Miramar era una playa increíblemente extensa, con una gran parte utilizada como espacio de estacionamiento. La temperatura del mar en el Golfo de México era divina, rondando los 25 grados Celsius (77 grados Fahrenheit). Las olas eran suaves, el agua poco profunda y perfecta para nadar. Nos maravillamos con la belleza de la playa, incluso practicamos yoga. Para terminar el día, visitamos el famoso centro comercial de Tampico, Altama City Center. Se sentía como volver a Estados Unidos, pero los precios no eran similares, si no más altos, que en el norte de América.

A la mañana siguiente, partimos hacia nuestra siguiente ciudad costera, Veracruz, a 7 horas de distancia. Hicimos una parada a mitad de camino para explorar las famosas ruinas de El Tajín. El Tajín, un renombrado sitio arqueológico, nos cautivó con sus magníficas estructuras. Antigua capital de la civilización totonaca, el sitio floreció desde el siglo IX hasta el XIII. Destacaba especialmente la Pirámide de los Nichos entre las ruinas, adornada con ventanas ornamentadas. Mientras estacionábamos nuestro vehículo, dos mujeres se acercaron ansiosas por vendernos el almuerzo. La tarde ya se había ido y el hambre nos recordaba la comida que nos habíamos saltado. Rápidamente quedó claro que estas mujeres eran competidoras que buscaban atraer nuestra preferencia. La que mostraba más confianza logró persuadirnos para que comiéramos en su restaurante, a solo cinco minutos de distancia, a pesar de los esfuerzos de la otra mujer. Al entrar en el sitio arqueológico, fuimos recibidos por un espectáculo conocido como “La Danza de los Voladores”. Me llenó de alegría compartir esta experiencia con Niek, ya que lo había presenciado quince años antes en Acapulco. “La Danza de los Voladores” es un cautivador ritual tradicional profundamente arraigado en la cultura mexicana. Este antiguo ceremonial mesoamericano es llevado a cabo por un grupo de hábiles intérpretes conocidos como “voladores”. Vestidos con trajes tradicionales coloridos y vibrantes, ascienden a un alto poste con gracia y precisión. Cuatro de ellos descienden en una espiral cautivadora, sujetos a cuerdas que simbolizan el vuelo de los pájaros, mientras que el quinto permanece en la cima, tocando flauta y tambor, acompañando con ritmo el espectáculo encantador. Más allá de su grandeza visual, la Danza de los Voladores tiene un profundo significado cultural y espiritual, representando la conexión profunda entre la humanidad y la naturaleza. Me impresiona la serenidad y relajación de los voladores mientras giran alrededor del poste en un baile en trance. Entre las ruinas, la Pirámide de los Nichos destaca como una verdadera maravilla. Su nombre, derivado de las numerosas ventanas decorativas que adornan su estructura, añade a su magnificencia.

Después de sumergirnos en esta experiencia cultural, continuamos nuestro viaje hacia Veracruz. Agotados del viaje, nos dimos el gusto de un rejuvenecedor masaje en el hotel. Luego, disfrutamos de la piscina del hotel, aprovechando el calor de la tarde antes de descansar. Al despertar, el clima empeoró, con lluvia constante y sin signos de mejora. Tomamos la difícil decisión de cancelar nuestros planes de visitar las playas de Cancuncito y Boca del Río, optando por seguir adelante con nuestro viaje.

Este día marcó nuestra transición de la costa del golfo de México hacia el lado del Pacífico. Paradójicamente, a medida que viajábamos hacia el sur, las carreteras mejoraban drásticamente, recordando lo que uno esperaría en Europa. A mitad de camino, hicimos una parada para almorzar en un restaurante de un hotel cerca del Lago Nezahualcóyotl. El nivel del agua en el lago nos sorprendió, parecía notablemente bajo debido a la grave sequía que afecta a México. Al acercarnos a Arriaga, cerca de la costa del Pacífico, nos encontramos en una carretera montañosa envuelta en una niebla mística. En última instancia, elegimos un hotel en Tonala, adentrándonos en la cercana plaza de la ciudad llamada Plaza Esperanza para encontrar un lugar para comer. Una vez sentados, tres propietarios de restaurantes diferentes se acercaron tratando de ganar nuestro negocio, una tendencia divertida que notamos en México. Al final, terminamos pidiendo comida de dos establecimientos diferentes. Mientras pagaba la cuenta en un lugar, me preguntaron si también había pagado en el otro. Al menos en esta situación, parecía que las mujeres dueñas de los restaurantes se apoyaban mutuamente. Después de una noche de descanso, emprendimos un corto trayecto hacia Puerto Arista en el lado del Pacífico, a tan solo 25 minutos de distancia. Las olas eran impresionantes, pero lastimosamente nadar no era seguro. Después de nuestra sesión de yoga, disfrutamos de un desayuno junto a la playa antes de continuar nuestro viaje hacia la frontera de Guatemala.

La falta de información confiable sobre el cruce de la frontera nos hizo depender de nuestro GPS, que nos dirigía hacia la Ciudad de Guatemala sin especificar qué frontera cruzar. Al pasar por Tapachula, nos encontramos con una larga fila de camiones en ruta hacia Centroamérica, aparentemente atascados allí durante un largo período de tiempo. En un cruce de caminos, decidí preguntarle a un motociclista qué frontera era la mejor para cruzar. Resultó ser una decisión afortunada, ya que mi GPS sugería seguir la interminable fila de camiones a la izquierda, mientras que él recomendaba dirigirnos hacia Ciudad Hidalgo. Sin embargo, incluso en Ciudad Hidalgo, Google Maps parecía confundido y tuvimos que pedir indicaciones a los lugareños para encontrar la oficina de aduanas. Si estás leyendo este blog con la esperanza de encontrar fácilmente la oficina de aduanas, por favor anota esta ubicación. Alrededor de las 3 de la tarde, llegamos al puesto de aduanas mexicano. Todo el proceso de cruzar y recibir el reembolso de los $468 del depósito del coche mexicano de Banjercito tomó menos de 45 minutos. No tuvimos que pagar una tarifa de salida ya que habíamos pasado menos de una semana en México.

Después de recorrer 1,200 millas en coche, o aproximadamente 2,000 kilómetros, durante 23 horas, finalmente llegamos a la frontera de Guatemala. Cruzar México por esta ruta resultó ser la opción más eficiente, ya que viajar por la costa del Pacífico desde San Diego habría tomado 44 horas y habría cubierto más de 2,600 millas, o 4,000 kilómetros. México resultó ser más extenso de lo anticipado.

Fuimos recibidos por un letrero que decía “Bienvenidos a Guatemala, el país de la primavera eterna”. El clima ya era muy similar al de Costa Rica, con lluvias tropicales por la tarde. El oficial de aduanas en Guatemala fue amigable y servicial. Como parte del procedimiento, solicitó que abriéramos nuestras maletas. Desafortunadamente, habíamos cometido el grave error de dejar algunos artículos en su embalaje original de nuestras compras en Estados Unidos, lo que resultó en un impuesto del 23% sobre ellos. Con otras cuatro fronteras por cruzar, este costo inesperado podría volverse significativo, lo que nos llevó a idear una nueva estrategia para los futuros cruces de frontera. Me entregaron una factura fiscal de $150. En broma, pensé que mi amigo Petar me debía un masaje por todos los impuestos sobre sus paquetes. Lamentablemente, solo aceptaban efectivo en la moneda local, quetzales. Intenté evitar a una persona local ansiosa por cambiarme dinero para evitar esta forma legal de extorsión, adentrándome en la pequeña ciudad guatemalteca de Tecún Umán para encontrar un cajero automático en medio de una lluvia tropical torrencial. Agradecido por mis confiables Crocs, ya que las calles ya estaban inundadas con 10 pulgadas de agua, retiré dinero en efectivo para completar el proceso de liberación del vehículo y liberar a Niek, quien había pasado 30 minutos soportando una experiencia dolor de cabeza con un niño que gritaba en la oficina de aduanas. Este niño de cuatro años resulta ser el hijo de una pareja suiza que se encontraba atrapada en la oficina de aduanas de Guatemala durante más de 24 horas debido a un problema menor con los documentos. Cuando me acerqué, este pequeño pillo no pudo resistirse a capturar un video divertido de mí con su teléfono. Por mi parte, tuve que cumplir con los siguientes requisitos fronterizos: presentar el título original del coche, el registro del coche, la licencia de conducir de Estados Unidos, el pasaporte y los documentos de Banjercito de México. Sorprendentemente, no pidieron ninguna copia y devolvieron rápidamente todos mis documentos. Cruzar esta frontera nos llevó un total de 2 horas y 40 minutos, con casi 2 horas pasadas del lado guatemalteco únicamente. Nos consideramos afortunados al comparar nuestra experiencia con la del atrapado pareja suiza.

Driving from the USA to Costa Rica

July 3, 2023July 22, 2023 / vaillantgicqueau / 1 Comment

Chapter I – Texas, USA

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This journey from the USA to Costa Rica was first inspired by my friend Brad, who had already completed it with his whole family just before the Covid “plandemic” hit. The second reason was the need for a second vehicle within the Thélème community. Currently, Costa Rica faces a scarcity of cars, with monthly rentals costing more than breathtaking properties. Acquiring a used car in Costa Rica demands nearly double the price one would pay in the USA. Two years ago, I had imported our current car by driving it from Salt Lake City, UT to Houston, TX, and then shipping it by boat from the port of Houston to Limon, Costa Rica. At that time, the cost of a container was approximately $1,600. Shipping overseas was the only option due to the closure of borders during Covid times.

Drawing inspiration from friends like Brad and Pierre, who had already driven their cars from the USA to Costa Rica, I became convinced that this endeavor was feasible and not as daunting or perilous as it initially appeared. By adhering to simple safety guidelines, we could navigate this adventure smoothly. Given the escalating container prices and the current openness of borders, purchasing a car in the USA and driving it back to Costa Rica emerged as the most cost-effective approach. Additionally, it provided an exciting pretext for a cross-country odyssey spanning seven countries. Moreover, this journey presented an opportunity for me to explore Guatemala, El Salvador, Honduras, and Nicaragua—countries I had not yet experienced, thereby increasing the total number of countries I had visited in my life to 65.

Returning to Costa Rica on May 10th, 2023, after a long layover in Houston, TX, I seized the chance to purchase a used car. Opting for AutoNation USA, one of the largest dealerships for pre-owned cars near Houston International Airport, I selected a 2012 Honda CRV. This model offered ease of repair in Costa Rica. Without hesitation, I finalized the purchase and swiftly returned to the airport via Uber, ensuring I wouldn’t miss my flight. Originating from Houston, my friend Joseph connected me with his good friend Linda, who graciously agreed to receive packages and goods for us and our friends. Meanwhile, my friend Niek, who had spent seven months at Thélème the previous year, expressed his eagerness to join me on this remarkable journey.

Six weeks later, Linda received the DMV car title, along with car plates and registration two weeks before our arrival on July 2nd. Throughout this period, the dealership stored the car at their lot. Linda picked it up just five days prior to our arrival to ensure it was in proper working condition. There was only a minor battery issue, which was anticipated after the car had been idle at the lot for a few months. With all the necessary preparations in place, we were ready to embark on our adventure.

Our flight was scheduled to depart from San Jose, Costa Rica to Houston, TX at 5:30 AM on July 2nd. Rising at 1 AM, two community members, Laurie and Christofer, volunteered to drop us off at the airport. Luckily, there was no traffic, and the drive took only an hour. However, our journey to Houston, perhaps influenced by the full moon, presented a few unexpected challenges. Initially, our community truck began to make strange noises, possibly due to a loose bar in the frame. While driving, Niek mentioned to Laurie that this was his first trip to the USA. She inquired if he had filled out an ESTA application, to which he looked perplexed. Niek had relied on a simple Google search, assuming he did not require a visa to visit the USA as a Belgian citizen, instead of consulting reliable information from the embassy website. Panic set in as he frantically began applying for his ESTA from the passenger side. The website warned that the application process could take up to 72 hours for approval, far from reassuring. We arrived at the airport around 3 AM, with the car making increasingly concerning noises. We found ourselves waiting anxiously for acceptance of his application. Finally, at 4 AM, after speaking with the helpful personnel from United Airlines, I made the decision to proceed to Houston with my original flight, while Niek would catch the next flight once he obtained his ESTA. At 4:30 AM, I received a text from him confirming he had finally received his ESTA, prompting him to rush through security and sprint across the small SJO airport to catch his flight at the last minute. We were united once again.

Following a pleasant flight, we arrived in Houston. At the customs entry lines, I approached an airport employee to inquire whether I could accompany Niek to assist him through the customs process. Gracefully, she allowed us to proceed together through the US citizens lane. After waiting 20 minutes in the queue, we passed through customs seamlessly after Niek gave his fingerprints. We then took an Uber to Linda’s place, where she warmly welcomed us. Over the past month, Linda had accumulated around 20 packages for us, and as a token of appreciation, I had brought some delectable chocolates from my friend Cedric at Casa del Cacao in San Jose. Knowing Niek’s love for meat, we decided to treat Linda to Truth BBQ, renowned for its mouthwatering Texan barbecued meats, including perfectly marinated brisket, pulled pork, and ribs. Although we had to wait for an hour, the culinary experience was well worth it.

Later that day, Linda invited us to a Blues fund-raising event, providing us with a quintessentially Texan cultural experience. Seated beside a vibrant and colorful 75-year-old lady named Lee, who defied her age, we engaged in conversation. Upon learning about our origins, she shared a picture of her younger self with a tall, muscular Belgian man, recounting fond memories of a sensual weekend they spent together at a Blues festival. Lee went on to express her political views, characterizing Biden as a senile puppet and Trump as an egocentric clown. She expressed her preference for Texas to separate from Washington DC and revealed herself as one of the many Texans who refused the Covid vaccination. I felt a sense of familiarity with her rebellious spirit. Despite her advanced age, Lee maintained her free-spirited nature, sharing an amusing anecdote about going dancing recently and discovering phone numbers from men finding her attractive, tucked into the back of her pants upon returning home a bit drunk. Texans possess a remarkable level of comfort with themselves, often exhibiting joy and cheerfulness independently of societal stereotypes and external appearances. Couples took to the floor, enchanting us with their dancing skills. To complete our day, we visited the sprawling Walmart Supercenter, the largest supermarket Niek had ever encountered, to make some last-minute purchases such as a first aid kit, snacks, and yoga mats for the road. Exhausted from the day’s adventures, we retired for the night, eagerly anticipating the journey ahead.

The Big Easy Social and Pleasure Club – Life Celebration for Eugene Moody

The next day, we woke up early to head to Mexico, with Niek taking charge of the driving. The journey took us around five hours to cover over 500 kilometers (350 miles). Before crossing into Mexico, Niek insisted on another BBQ experience, this time at Reyna’s Bar-B-Q in Harlingen, near the border. Interestingly, he couldn’t finish the meal, which signaled a positive shift towards a healthier diet as we prepared to explore Mexico. Equipped with online research and advice from friends, I felt well-prepared for the border crossing. While in Brownsville, TX, we made color copies of the vehicle title, insurance, registration, driver licenses, and passports. It was Niek’s first time in the United States, and he couldn’t help but feel a tinge of sadness leaving so quickly, promising himself a return to explore the country more extensively.

Around 2 PM, we entered Mexico via the B & M International Bridge. As we approached the bridge, a sense of awe enveloped us, realizing we were about to venture into unexplored territory. While traffic was heavy on the Mexican side heading towards the USA, it flowed smoothly on our side. Thanks to designated border zones established by the Mexican government, driving freely in the Mexico border close to the USA is possible. These zones, often referred to as “free zones” or “border zones,” allow for relaxed travel regulations and simplified customs procedures within a certain distance from the border. However, it’s important to note that while travel within the border zone is relatively unrestricted, crossing deeper into Mexico or the USA requires proper documentation, such as passports, visas, or other travel permits. Additionally, security measures and customs inspections may still be in place at checkpoints located further inland.

To ensure compliance, we stopped at the B & M International Bridge customs office. It became apparent that we had left the efficiency of the Anglo-Saxon world behind and returned to the bureaucracy and inefficiencies of Latin America, which we had grown accustomed to in Costa Rica. Fortunately, this particular border crossing was not too arduous, as few people were entering at that time due to July 4th US celebrations. Once we had our passports stamped, we proceeded to obtain a permit for our vehicle. Surprisingly, only copies of the car registration, the passport of the car owner, and the entry papers we had just filled out were required. Car insurance, the vehicle title, and bill of sale did not seem to be necessary. The customs office had a small area where copies could be made at $1 per page. This stood in stark contrast to our previous experience at the FedEx office, where we could handle everything ourselves with minimal human interaction. Here, we found ourselves in front of a person whose sole purpose was making paper copies for people. It exemplified the two extremes, and somewhere, a balance must exist. The entire process of obtaining the vehicle permit, known as “Permiso de Importación Temporal de Vehículos,” took just over an hour. As we prepared to exit the customs area, we encountered a traffic cone blocking our passage. We waited there for a few minutes, but with no one attending to us, I decided to leave the car and seek assistance. Eventually, I encountered armed personnel, and one of them returned with me. After inspecting the contents of our luggage and verifying our paperwork, they finally allowed us into Mexico. The real adventure was about to begin.

Niek’s ponderings

When Vaillant called me to accompany him on a car trip from Texas back to Costa Rica, it took me only 5 minutes to decide to go. If there is one person I would feel safe with on this journey, it would be Vaillant.

During his 2-month trip to Europe last year, Vaillant left the community with his car, which lacked number plates and had expired insurance. On top of that, my visa had expired 5 months prior. Remarkably, nothing happened during those 2 months, until we needed to pick up Vaillant from the airport in San Jose.

After 4 minutes of waiting, Thomas and I were pulled over by a cop. Discovering the numerous violations we had, the cop looked at me with a disapproving frown and remarked, “You know, I could throw you in jail for this.” As I began to lose my composure, I saw a blond, angry angel approaching with a red suitcase. I asked Thomas, “Is that… Is that Vaillant?” Vaillant began shouting at the cop, who quickly grew smaller and left us with a fine that I have no intention of paying since I am not a resident. By the time that ticket reaches Belgium, I’ll likely be long gone due to old age. That’s how beautifully inefficient a country like Costa Rica can be.

So yes, I feel safe with Vaillant. But more importantly, I feel safe within myself. Finding security in the unknown is what this experience will bring us. Before I left, many people asked if I was nervous or excited. All I could say was that I was living in the present moment, without any expectations. I didn’t even expect to catch my plane when I encountered trouble with my registration. But from the moment I accepted my fate and the possibility of taking a different plane than Vaillant, the universe seemed to conspire in my favor.

As I sat in the bathroom at the San Jose airport, I received an email notifying me that my ESTA was approved which interrupted important business 🙂 With just a few minutes remaining before our plane would depart, I spotted a stunning woman wearing rainbow crocs. Could this be Vaillant’s soulmate, I pondered while trying to release tension from my body? One day, I will write a book titled “Why Do Millionaires Wear Crocs?”

After an anxious sprint, I managed to board the same plane as my blonde companion. Upon landing in Texas, Vaillant decided to assist me, as I am a nonresident while he is an American. The Asian woman performing the checkups asked us if we were related. Vaillant replied, “We are best friends!” I knew it! I exclaimed as we walked out of the airport.

One thing I noticed in Texas is how efficiently everything operates. There is an abundance of everything: larger roads, bigger cars, and larger-than-life people. Everything is super-sized. So, being in America, the first thing I wanted to do was indulge in supersized food and have a brief American experience. However, I realized that I would become supersized myself if I stayed too long. Their food is delicious but incredibly unhealthy.

From Vaillant, I have learned that I don’t need to resist such desires. Instead, I should fully experience them, allowing myself to detach from them. Because what we suppress only grows stronger.

While Vaillant conducted a business deal, I sorted through the packages we received from Linda. When my best friend returned, I presented him with his birthday gift—a chessboard. We have always had a friendly competition between us. Our chess matches follow a certain pattern where I initially gain the upper hand, only to have him defeat me in the end. It means I am an amazing chess player, and he doesn’t have enough self-confidence to lose 🙂

Life doesn’t distinguish between good and bad; it simply gives us what we believe we deserve. The more I observe this, the more I see how our thoughts shape our reality.

When Linda invited us to a jazz bar, I was probably the youngest person there. I witnessed these individuals reliving their youth through the music of talented artists. A thrilling chill ran down my spine—I am in America, and I have made it.

After savoring a few Belgian beers, we decided to do some final shopping before calling it a night. I had never seen such a massive store in my life, and I began to wonder what they didn’t sell. I felt a deep desire to explore more of this fascinating culture.

However, it was time to move on to our next country. As I am more of a morning person, we agreed that I would take the wheel. Cruising along the smooth, spacious roads of America, with old music playing in the background, I felt euphoric about my trip. It was at that moment that the realization of what I was undertaking truly sank in.

As we crossed the Mexican border, Vaillant explained how Americans had mastered the material world. Simultaneously, it also felt like an artificial world. Nevertheless, I found myself attracted to America, knowing that I was shaped by its shows and music through the years. While the French dub their movies, they never had the opportunity to learn English as well as countries that didn’t. Sometimes, I can’t help but laugh at Vaillant’s accent, but people often assume we are from the same country and struggle to understand us. The joke is on me—I don’t speak French.

Once we entered Mexico, we quickly realized that our first border crossing had been inefficient. After spending over an hour there, it became evident that we would encounter many more crossings. Being in a Latin American country like Costa Rica has taught me to detach from my expectations. The more I embrace this mindset, the better I can ground myself in moments where certain outcomes are anticipated.

I strive to have a mind that remains open to everything and attached to nothing. Mexico, here we come.

Version en Français: voyage en voiture du Texas au Costa Rica

Ce voyage des États-Unis au Costa Rica a d’abord été inspiré par mon ami Brad, qui l’avait déjà réalisé avec toute sa famille juste avant que la “plandémie” de Covid ne frappe. Le second prétexte était le besoin d’un deuxième véhicule au sein de la communauté Thélème. Actuellement, le Costa Rica souffre d’une pénurie de voitures, avec des locations mensuelles qui coûtent plus cher que des propriétés magnifiques. Acquérir une voiture d’occasion au Costa Rica demande près du double du prix que l’on paierait aux États-Unis. Il y a deux ans, j’avais importé notre voiture actuelle en la conduisant de Salt Lake City, UT à Houston, TX, puis en la faisant expédier par bateau depuis le port de Houston jusqu’à Limon, au Costa Rica. À l’époque, le coût d’un conteneur était d’environ 1600 $. L’expédition à l’étranger était la seule option en raison de la fermeture des frontières pendant la pandémie de Covid.
En m’inspirant d’amis comme Brad et Pierre, qui avaient déjà conduit leurs voitures des États-Unis au Costa Rica, j’ai été convaincu que cette entreprise était réalisable et pas aussi intimidante ou périlleuse qu’elle n’y paraissait au départ. En respectant simplement des consignes de sécurité élémentaires, nous pourrions mener cette aventure sans encombre. Étant donné l’augmentation des prix des conteneurs et l’ouverture actuelle des frontières, l’achat d’une voiture aux États-Unis et son retour au Costa Rica est apparu comme l’approche la plus rentable. De plus, cela offrait une belle occasion pour une odyssée à travers sept pays et ce voyage me donne l’occasion d’explorer le Guatemala, le Salvador, l’Honduras et le Nicaragua – des pays que je n’avais pas encore explorés, ce qui portait le nombre total de pays visités dans ma vie à 65.
De retour au Costa Rica le 10 mai 2023, avec une longue escale à Houston, TX, j’ai saisi l’opportunité d’acheter une voiture d’occasion. Optant pour AutoNation USA, l’un des plus grands concessionnaires de voitures d’occasion près de l’aéroport international de Houston, j’ai choisi une Honda CRV 2012. Ce modèle offre une facilité de réparation au Costa Rica. Sans hésitation, j’ai finalisé l’achat et je suis rapidement retourné à l’aéroport en Uber, veillant à ne pas manquer mon vol. Originaire de Houston, mon ami Joseph m’a mis en contact avec son amie Linda, qui a gentiment accepté de recevoir des colis et des marchandises pour nous et nos amis. Pendant ce temps, mon ami Niek, qui avait passé sept mois à Thélème l’année précédente, a exprimé son enthousiasme à me rejoindre pour ce voyage extraordinaire.
Six semaines plus tard, Linda a reçu le titre de propriété du véhicule du DMV, ainsi que les plaques d’immatriculation deux semaines avant notre arrivée. Pendant cette période, le concessionnaire a stocké la voiture sur leur parking. Linda l’a récupérée juste cinq jours avant notre arrivée pour s’assurer qu’elle était en bon état de fonctionnement. Il n’y avait qu’un léger problème de batterie, ce qui était prévisible après que la voiture ait été immobilisée sur le parking pendant quelques mois. Avec toutes les préparations nécessaires en place, nous étions prêts à nous embarquer dans notre aventure.
Notre vol était prévu pour partir de San José, au Costa Rica, à destination de Houston, TX à 5h30 du matin le 2 juillet. Nous nous sommes levés à 1 heure du matin, et deux membres de la communauté, Laurie et Christofer, se sont proposés pour nous conduire à l’aéroport. Heureusement, il n’y avait pas de trafic et le trajet n’a pris qu’une heure. Cependant, notre voyage vers Houston, peut-être influencé par la pleine lune, a présenté quelques défis inattendus. Au départ, notre pick-up communautaire a commencé à faire des bruits étranges, probablement à cause d’une barre lâche dans le châssis. Pendant que nous conduisions, Niek a mentionné à Laurie que c’était son premier voyage aux États-Unis. Elle lui a demandé s’il avait rempli une demande ESTA, ce à quoi il semblait perplexe. Niek s’était fié à une simple recherche Google, pensant qu’il n’avait pas besoin de visa pour visiter les États-Unis en tant que citoyen belge, au lieu de consulter des informations fiables sur le site de l’ambassade. La panique s’est installée alors qu’il a commencé frénétiquement à faire sa demande d’ESTA depuis le siège passager. Le site web indique que le processus de demande pouvait prendre jusqu’à 72 heures pour être approuvé, ce qui était loin d’être rassurant. Nous sommes arrivés à l’aéroport vers 3 heures du matin, avec la voiture qui faisait des bruits de plus en plus inquiétants. Nous nous sommes retrouvés à attendre anxieusement l’approbation de sa demande. Enfin, à 4 heures du matin, après avoir parlé au personnel serviable d’United Airlines, j’ai pris la décision de continuer vers Houston avec mon vol original, pendant que Niek prendrait le prochain vol une fois qu’il aurait obtenu son ESTA. À 4h30 du matin, j’ai reçu un message de sa part confirmant qu’il avait finalement reçu son ESTA, le poussant à se précipiter à travers le contrôle de sécurité et à courir à travers le petit aéroport de SJO pour attraper son vol à la dernière minute. Nous étions à nouveau réunis.
Après un vol agréable, nous sommes arrivés à Houston. Aux files d’attente de la douane, j’ai abordé un employé de l’aéroport pour demander s’il était possible de l’accompagner afin de l’aider dans les formalités douanières. Gracieusement, elle nous a permis de passer ensemble par la file réservée aux citoyens américains. Après une attente de 20 minutes dans la file, nous avons passé les douanes sans encombre après que Niek ait donné ses empreintes digitales. Nous avons ensuite pris un Uber pour nous rendre chez Linda, où elle nous a chaleureusement accueillis. Au cours du dernier mois, Linda avait accumulé une vingtaine de colis pour nous, et en guise de remerciement, j’avais apporté de délicieux chocolats de mon ami Cédric de la Casa del Cacao à San José. Sachant que Niek aime la viande, nous avons décidé de faire plaisir à Linda en l’invitant au Truth BBQ, réputé pour ses viandes barbecue texanes savoureuses, notamment le brisket parfaitement mariné, le porc effiloché et les côtes de porc. Bien que nous ayons dû attendre une heure, l’expérience culinaire en valait la peine. Plus tard dans la journée, Linda nous a invités à une soirée de blues, nous offrant une expérience culturelle typiquement texane. Assis à côté d’une dame vive et colorée de 75 ans du nom de Lee, qui défiait son âge, nous avons engagé la conversation. Après avoir appris nos origines, elle a partagé une photo d’elle-même plus jeune avec un Belge grand et musclé, racontant de tendres souvenirs d’un week-end qu’ils avaient passé ensemble lors d’un festival de blues. Lee a ensuite exprimé ses opinions politiques, qualifiant Biden de marionnette sénile et Trump de clown égocentrique. Elle a exprimé sa préférence pour que le Texas se sépare de Washington DC et s’est révélée être l’une des nombreux Texans qui refusaient la vaccination contre le Covid. J’ai ressenti une certaine admiration pour son esprit rebelle. Malgré son âge avancé, Lee conservait sa nature libre, partageant une anecdote amusante sur sa récente sortie en boîte de nuit et la découverte de numéros de téléphone d’hommes qui la trouvaient attirante, glissés dans l’arrière de son pantalon en rentrant chez elle un peu ivre. Les Texans possèdent un niveau de confort remarquable avec eux-mêmes, faisant souvent preuve de joie et de gaieté malgré les stéréotypes sociaux. Des couples se sont dirigés vers la piste de danse, nous enchantant par leurs talents de danseurs. Pour terminer notre journée, nous avons visité le gigantesque supermarché Walmart Supercenter, le plus grand supermarché que Niek ait jamais vu, pour faire quelques achats de dernière minute tels qu’une trousse de premiers soins, des snacks et des tapis de yoga pour la route. Épuisés par les aventures de la journée, nous nous sommes retirés pour la nuit, en attendant avec impatience le voyage à venir.
Le lendemain, nous nous sommes réveillés tôt pour nous rendre au Mexique, avec Niek prenant le volant. Le trajet nous a pris environ cinq heures pour parcourir plus de 500 kilomètres (350 miles). Avant de traverser la frontière mexicaine, Niek a insisté pour vivre une autre expérience barbecue, cette fois chez Reyna’s Bar-B-Q à Harlingen, près de la frontière. Curieusement, il n’a pas pu finir son repas, ce qui annonçait un changement positif vers une alimentation plus saine alors que nous nous apprêtions à explorer le Mexique. Grâce à des recherches Internet ainsi que des conseils d’amis, je me sentais bien préparé pour le passage à la frontière. Nous avons fait des copies en couleur du titre de la voiture, de l’assurance, de l’immatriculation, des permis de conduire et des passeports. C’était la première fois que Niek venait aux États-Unis, et il ne pouvait s’empêcher de ressentir une pointe de tristesse à partir si rapidement, se promettant de revenir pour explorer plus en profondeur ce pays.
Vers 14 heures, nous sommes entrés au Mexique par le pont international B & M. Alors que nous approchions du pont, un sentiment de fascination nous enveloppait, réalisant que nous nous apprêtions à nous aventurer en territoire inexploré. Tandis que la circulation était dense du côté mexicain en direction des États-Unis, elle était fluide de notre côté probablement du fait que la fête nationale des USA était le lendemain. Grâce aux zones frontalières désignées établies par le gouvernement mexicain, il est possible de circuler librement dans la zone frontalière du Mexique près des États-Unis. Ces zones, souvent appelées “zones franches” ou “zones frontalières”, permettent des réglementations de voyage détendues et des procédures douanières simplifiées dans une certaine distance de la frontière. Cependant, il est important de noter que bien que les déplacements à l’intérieur de la zone frontalière soient relativement sans restriction, traverser plus profondément au Mexique ou aux États-Unis nécessite une documentation adéquate, tels que des passeports, des visas ou d’autres permis de voyage. De plus, des mesures de sécurité et des contrôles douaniers peuvent toujours être en place aux points de contrôle situés plus à l’intérieur des terres.
Pour assurer notre conformité, nous nous sommes arrêtés au bureau des douanes du pont international B & M (Brownsville & Matamoros). Il est rapidement devenu évident que nous avions quitté l’efficacité du monde anglo-saxon pour retourner à la bureaucratie et à l’inefficacité de l’Amérique latine, à laquelle nous nous étions habitués au Costa Rica. Heureusement, ce passage frontalier en particulier n’était pas trop ardu, car peu de personnes entraient à ce moment-là. Une fois nos passeports tamponnés, nous avons procédé à l’obtention d’un permis pour notre véhicule. Les frais étant de $41/personne et de $468 pour la voiture mais ce montant est remboursable en sortant du territoire. Étonnamment, seules des copies de l’immatriculation de la voiture, du passeport du propriétaire de la voiture et des papiers d’entrée que nous venions de remplir étaient nécessaires. L’assurance automobile, le titre du véhicule et le contrat de vente ne semblaient pas être nécessaires. Le bureau des douanes disposait d’un petit espace où des copies pouvaient être réalisées pour 1 dollar par page. Cela contrastait fortement avec notre expérience précédente au bureau de FedEx, où nous pouvions tout gérer nous-mêmes avec un minimum d’interaction humaine. Ici, nous nous sommes retrouvés devant une personne dont le seul but était de faire des copies de documents pour les gens. Cela illustrait les deux extrêmes, et quelque part entre les deux, un équilibre doit exister. Tout le processus d’obtention du permis de véhicule, appelé “Permiso de Importación Temporal de Vehículos”, a duré un peu plus d’une heure. Alors que nous nous apprêtions à sortir de la zone des douanes, nous avons rencontré un cône de signalisation bloquant notre passage. Nous avons attendu quelques minutes, mais personne ne s’est occupé de nous, alors j’ai décidé de laisser la voiture et de chercher de l’aide. Finalement, j’ai rencontré du personnel armé, et l’un d’entre eux est revenu avec moi. Après avoir inspecté le contenu de nos bagages et vérifié nos documents, ils nous ont enfin autorisés à entrer au Mexique. La véritable aventure allait commencer.

Versión en español a continuación

Nuestro viaje desde Estados Unidos a Costa Rica fue inspirado inicialmente por mi amigo Brad, quien ya lo había completado con toda su familia justo antes de que golpeara la pandemia de Covid en 2020. Esto despertó la necesidad de un segundo vehículo dentro de la comunidad Thélème. Actualmente, Costa Rica enfrenta una escasez de automóviles, con alquileres mensuales que cuestan más que grandes propiedades. Adquirir un automóvil usado en Costa Rica demanda casi el doble del precio que se pagaría en Estados Unidos. Hace dos años, importé nuestro automóvil actual conduciéndolo desde Salt Lake City, UT, hasta Houston, TX, y luego enviándolo en barco desde el puerto de Houston a Limón, Costa Rica. En ese momento, el costo de un contenedor era de aproximadamente $1600. El envío por mar era la única opción debido al cierre de fronteras durante la pandemia de Covid.

Tomando inspiración de amigos como Brad y Pierre, quienes ya habían conducido sus autos desde Estados Unidos hasta Costa Rica, me convencí de que esta idea era factible y no tan desalentadora o peligrosa como parecía al principio. Siguiendo sencillas pautas de seguridad, podríamos navegar esta aventura sin contratiempos. Dado el aumento en los precios de los contenedores y la actual apertura de las fronteras, la compra de un automóvil en Estados Unidos y conducirlo de regreso a Costa Rica surgió como el enfoque más rentable. Además, proporcionó un pretexto emocionante para una odisea transcontinental que abarcaba siete países. Además, este viaje me brindó la oportunidad de explorar Guatemala, El Salvador, Honduras y Nicaragua, países que aún no había visitado, lo que aumentó el número total de países que había visitado en mi vida a 65.

Regresando a Costa Rica el 10 de mayo de 2023, después de una larga escala en Houston, TX, aproveché la oportunidad para comprar un automóvil usado. Opté por AutoNation USA, uno de los concesionarios más grandes de automóviles de segunda mano cerca del Aeropuerto Internacional de Houston, y seleccioné un Honda CRV 2012. Este modelo ofrecía facilidad de reparación en Costa Rica. Sin dudarlo, finalicé la compra y regresé rápidamente al aeropuerto en Uber, asegurándome de no perder mi vuelo. Originario de Houston, mi amigo Joseph me puso en contacto con su buena amiga Linda, quien amablemente aceptó recibir paquetes y mercancías para nosotros y nuestros amigos. Mientras tanto, mi amigo Niek, quien había pasado siete meses en Thélème el año anterior, expresó su entusiasmo por unirse a mí en este viaje excepcional.

Seis semanas después, Linda recibió el título del automóvil del DMV, junto con las placas del automóvil, dos semanas antes de nuestra llegada. Durante este período, el concesionario almacenó el automóvil en su lote. Linda lo recogió solo cinco días antes de nuestra llegada para asegurarse de que estuviera en condiciones de funcionamiento adecuadas. Solo hubo un pequeño problema de batería, como era de esperar después de que el automóvil estuvo inactivo en el cochera durante unos meses. Con todas las preparaciones necesarias en su lugar, estábamos listos para embarcarnos en nuestra aventura.

Nuestro vuelo estaba programado para salir de San José, Costa Rica, hacia Houston, TX, a las 5:30 AM del 2 de julio. Levantándonos a la 1 AM, dos miembros de la comunidad, Laurie y Christofer, se ofrecieron como voluntarios para llevarnos al aeropuerto. Afortunadamente, no había tráfico y el trayecto duró solo una hora. Sin embargo, nuestro viaje a Houston, tal vez influenciado por la luna llena, presentó algunos desafíos inesperados. Inicialmente, nuestro camión comunitario comenzó a hacer ruidos extraños, posiblemente debido a una barra suelta en el chasis. Mientras conducíamos, Niek mencionó a Laurie que este era su primer viaje a Estados Unidos. Ella preguntó si había completado una solicitud ESTA, a lo que él pareció perplejo. Niek se había basado en una simple búsqueda en Google, asumiendo que no necesitaba una visa para visitar Estados Unidos como ciudadano belga, en lugar de consultar información confiable del sitio web de la embajada. El pánico se apoderó de él mientras comenzaba frenéticamente a solicitar su ESTA desde el asiento del pasajero. El sitio web advirtió que el proceso de solicitud podría tardar hasta 72 horas en ser aprobado, muy lejos de ser tranquilizador fue más preocupante. Llegamos al aeropuerto alrededor de las 3 AM, con el automóvil haciendo ruidos cada vez más preocupantes. Nos encontramos esperando ansiosamente la aprobación de su solicitud. Finalmente, a las 4 AM, después de hablar con el personal servicial de United Airlines, tomé la decisión de continuar hacia Houston con mi vuelo original, mientras Niek tomaría el próximo vuelo una vez que obtuviera su ESTA. A las 4:30 AM, recibí un mensaje de texto suyo confirmando que finalmente había recibido su ESTA, lo que lo instó a apresurarse a través de la seguridad y correr por el pequeño aeropuerto de SJO para alcanzar su vuelo en el último minuto. Nos reunimos nuevamente.

Después de un agradable vuelo, llegamos a Houston. En las filas de entrada de aduanas, me acerqué a un empleado del aeropuerto para preguntar si podía acompañar a Niek para ayudarlo en el proceso de aduanas. Amablemente, nos permitió avanzar juntos por el carril de ciudadanos estadounidenses. Después de esperar 20 minutos en la fila, pasamos por aduanas sin problemas después de que Niek diera sus huellas dactilares. Luego tomamos un Uber hasta el lugar de Linda, donde nos dio una cálida bienvenida. Durante el último mes, Linda había acumulado alrededor de 20 paquetes para nosotros, y como muestra de agradecimiento, había traído unos deliciosos chocolates de mi amigo Cedric en Casa del Cacao en San José. Sabiendo del amor de Niek por la carne, decidimos agasajar a Linda con Truth BBQ, famoso por su suculenta carne a la barbacoa texana, que incluye un braseado de beefsteak, cerdo desmenuzado y costillas perfectamente marinadas. Aunque tuvimos que esperar una hora, la experiencia culinaria valió la pena. Más tarde ese día, Linda nos invitó a un evento benéfico de blues, brindándonos una experiencia cultural típicamente texana. Sentados junto a una animada y colorida mujer de 75 años llamada Lee, quien desafiaba su edad, entablamos una conversación. Al enterarse de nuestras procedencias, compartió una foto de sí misma cuando era más joven junto a un alto y musculoso hombre Belga, recordando con cariño un fin de semana que pasaron juntos en un festival de blues. Lee continuó expresando sus puntos de vista políticos, caracterizando a Biden como una marioneta senil y a Trump como un payaso egocéntrico. Expresó su preferencia por que Texas se separe de Washington DC y reveló que era una de las muchas texanas que se negaban a vacunarse contra el Covid. Sentí una sensación de familiaridad con su espíritu rebelde. A pesar de su avanzada edad, Lee mantenía su naturaleza libre y compartió una anécdota divertida sobre salir a bailar recientemente y descubrir números de teléfono de hombres que la encontraban atractiva, escondidos en la parte trasera de sus pantalones cuando regresaba a casa un poco borracha. Los texanos poseen un nivel notable de comodidad consigo mismos, mostrando alegría y jovialidad a pesar de los estereotipos sociales. Parejas se levantaron y nos deleitaron con sus habilidades de baile. Para completar nuestro día, visitamos el enorme Walmart Supercenter, el supermercado más grande que Niek había visto en su vida, para hacer algunas compras de último minuto, como un botiquín de primeros auxilios, refrigerios y tapetes de yoga para el viaje. Exhaustos por las aventuras del día, nos retiramos a descansar, anticipando con entusiasmo la jornada que nos esperaba.

Al día siguiente, nos levantamos temprano para dirigirnos a México, con Niek a cargo de la conducción. El viaje nos llevó alrededor de cinco horas para recorrer más de 500 kilómetros (350 millas). Antes de cruzar a México, Niek insistió en tener otra experiencia de barbacoa, esta vez en Reyna’s Bar-B-Q en Harlingen, cerca de la frontera. Curiosamente, no pudo terminar la comida, lo que señalaba un cambio positivo hacia una dieta más saludable mientras nos preparábamos para explorar México. Equipados con investigaciones en línea y consejos de amigos, me sentía bastante preparado para el cruce de fronteras. Hicimos copias a color del título del vehículo, el seguro, el registro, las licencias de conducir y los pasaportes. Era la primera vez de Niek en Estados Unidos, y no pudo evitar sentir una pizca de tristeza por tener que partir tan rápidamente, prometiéndose a sí mismo regresar para explorar el país de manera más extensa.

Alrededor de las 2 PM, ingresamos a México a través del Puente Internacional B & M. A medida que nos acercábamos al puente, una sensación de asombro nos envolvió al darnos cuenta de que nos adentrábamos en territorio inexplorado. Mientras el tráfico era intenso en el lado mexicano que se dirigía hacia Estados Unidos, fluía sin problemas en nuestro lado. Gracias a las zonas fronterizas designadas establecidas por el gobierno mexicano, es posible conducir libremente en la zona fronteriza de México cerca de Estados Unidos. Estas zonas, a menudo conocidas como “zonas libres” o “zonas fronterizas”, permiten regulaciones de viaje relajadas y procedimientos aduaneros simplificados dentro de una cierta distancia de la frontera. Sin embargo, es importante tener en cuenta que si se desea cruzar más profundamente en México o en Estados Unidos, se requiere la documentación adecuada, como pasaportes, visas u otros permisos de viaje. Además, es posible que se apliquen medidas de seguridad e inspecciones aduaneras en los puntos de control ubicados más tierra adentro.

Para asegurarnos de cumplir con los requisitos, nos detuvimos en la oficina de aduanas del Puente Internacional B & M. Quedó claro que habíamos dejado atrás la eficiencia del mundo anglosajón y habíamos vuelto a la burocracia e ineficiencias de América Latina, a las que nos habíamos acostumbrado en Costa Rica. Afortunadamente, este cruce de frontera en particular no fue demasiado arduo, ya que pocas personas estaban ingresando en ese momento. Una vez que tuvimos nuestros pasaportes sellados, procedimos a obtener un permiso para nuestro vehículo. Sorprendentemente, solo se requerían copias del registro del automóvil, el pasaporte del propietario del automóvil y los papeles de entrada que acabábamos de llenar. El seguro del automóvil, el título del vehículo y el contrato de venta parecían no ser necesarios. La oficina de aduanas tenía un pequeño espacio donde se podían hacer copias a $1 por página. Esto contrastaba fuertemente con nuestra experiencia anterior en la oficina de FedEx, donde podíamos manejar todo nosotros mismos con una interacción humana mínima. Aquí, nos encontramos frente a una persona cuyo único propósito era hacer copias de papel para la gente. Ejemplificaba los dos extremos y en algún lugar, debe existir un equilibrio. Todo el proceso de obtener el permiso del vehículo, conocido como “Permiso de Importación Temporal de Vehículos”, llevó un poco más de una hora. Mientras nos preparábamos para salir del área de aduanas, encontramos un cono de tráfico bloqueando nuestro paso. Esperamos allí durante unos minutos, pero al no recibir atención, decidí dejar el auto y buscar ayuda. Finalmente, me encontré con personal armado, y uno de ellos regresó conmigo. Después de inspeccionar el contenido de nuestro equipaje y verificar nuestra documentación, finalmente nos permitieron ingresar a México. La verdadera aventura estaba a punto de comenzar.

Re-parenting Your Inner Child: Transforming Narcissism into Self-Love

May 30, 2023July 4, 2023 / vaillantgicqueau / Leave a comment

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Narcissism, rooted in the Greek myth of Narcissus, refers to a psychological trait characterized by excessive self-admiration, a grandiose sense of self-importance, and a constant craving for attention and admiration from others. It involves a preoccupation with one’s own achievements, talents, and appearance, often accompanied by a lack of empathy for others. Narcissism can have a profound negative impact on both personal and interpersonal levels. Individuals with pronounced narcissistic traits tend to prioritize their own needs and desires above those of others, leading to difficulties in forming and maintaining meaningful relationships. Their inflated sense of self-importance can create a sense of entitlement, making it challenging for them to truly connect with others or consider their perspectives. This self-centered focus can also result in a lack of empathy, causing emotional and relational distance, and hindering the development of healthy and fulfilling connections. Ultimately, narcissism can impede personal growth, hinder authentic connections, and generate a cycle of discontentment and dissatisfaction.

This definition encompasses the most apparent form of narcissism, known as Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). However, if we broaden our understanding of narcissism as an inherent inability to genuinely connect with others due to being excessively absorbed in our own self-centered bubble, we can identify various other groups of individuals who exhibit narcissistic traits.

For example, in a codependent relationship, one person tends to prioritize the needs and desires of the other to an excessive and unhealthy degree, often at the expense of their own well-being. This can lead to an imbalance in the relationship dynamics, with one person assuming a more caretaking or enabling role. In some cases, the person who exhibits codependent behaviors may also display narcissistic traits. This can manifest as a need for control, manipulation, or an inflated sense of self-importance within the context of the codependent relationship. This form of codependency with narcissistic tendencies can create a dynamic where one person seeks validation and attention from the other while maintaining a sense of control over the relationship.

Actually, most of us display some forms of narcissistic traits when we are triggered by specific individuals or events. These triggers often stem from unresolved past traumas that continue to impact us. While individuals diagnosed with NPD or codependency represent the extreme end of the spectrum, it is important to acknowledge that all of us can display some of these behaviors when we are experiencing emotional distress or unwell. It is a sincere recognition that our behaviors may temporarily align with narcissistic tendencies during such periods.

In the early stages of child development, particularly during the formative years, it is important for a child to experience a sense of being the center of the world to develop a healthy ego. This process is essential for their overall psychological and emotional growth. Here are a few reasons why this is important:

Building Self-Identity: During early childhood, children are in the process of forming their sense of self. By experiencing themselves as the center of their world, they develop a foundation for their self-identity. This allows them to understand and differentiate themselves from others, fostering a healthy sense of individuality.
Autonomy and Independence: Feeling self-important and focused on oneself enables children to develop a sense of autonomy and independence. It encourages them to explore their environment, express their needs and desires, and develop a sense of agency. This fosters their emotional and cognitive development, as they learn to navigate the world around them.
Emotional Security: When young children feel that they are the center of attention and receive nurturing and responsive care, they develop a sense of emotional security. This lays the groundwork for healthy emotional development, trust, and the ability to form secure attachments with others.
Healthy Boundaries and Self-Care: By initially focusing on themselves, children learn about their own needs and preferences. This understanding helps them establish healthy boundaries and develop self-care practices. As they grow, they gradually learn to balance their own needs with the needs of others, fostering healthy relationships and empathy.
Developing Confidence: Feeling self-important and valued helps children develop confidence and a positive self-image. It provides a sense of worthiness, encouraging them to explore their abilities and take on new challenges with resilience and determination.

Healthy narcissism is crucial for a child’s development. For instance, a one-year-old baby’s healthy narcissism is evident when they vocalize their needs by crying to have their parents attend to their physical requirements, such as feeding. Similarly, during the stage commonly known as the “terrible twos,” toddlers exhibit a healthy narcissism through behaviors like tantrums, defiance, and newfound assertiveness, as they explore their growing sense of autonomy and independence.

Regrettably, during this critical developmental period, children are often hindered from expressing this necessary narcissism in a healthy manner. Many of us experienced neglect, absence, disconnection, conditional love, abuse, anger, unsafety, manipulation, or lack of care due to our parents’ own limitations and traumas. It is not about blaming parents; they did their best given their own level of development and understanding. It is a reality that reaching adulthood without some form of trauma is near impossible. If we embrace the concept of the soul’s journey, we may even consider that we intentionally chose our parents, specifically for the challenges they presented (the blueprint of the soul), as an opportunity to work on our karma and evolve as incarnated souls.

As we experience childhood traumas, our inner child can become stuck and cease to develop. Consequently, while our physical body may mature into adulthood, certain aspects of our being may remain akin to a needy Cry-Baby or an angry two-year-old toddler. When triggered, this part of us may manifest through rants and temper tantrums, causing disruption to our environment. We have all witnessed such inappropriate behaviors that appear irrational, crazy, or immature. However, if we observe the same behavior in a young child, it becomes amusing and inconsequential. The person exhibiting these behaviors is not inherently bad; rather, a young aspect of their self momentarily takes over their personality. Unfortunately, this can lead to significant damage and negatively impact their life or career, such as Will Smith smacking Chris Rock at the Oscars. In healthy childhood development, children gradually learn to consider others’ perspectives, develop empathy, and navigate social interactions. However, due to trauma, certain aspects of ourselves remain stuck in earlier developmental stages characterized by narcissistic tendencies. Consequently, an adult displaying narcissistic traits often reflects someone who was not allowed to express healthy narcissism during childhood. A friend once advised me to care for my children during their early years to prevent significant issues during their teenage years. This advice proved to be remarkably accurate. Investing in our children’s well-being during infancy is crucial for fostering responsible and compassionate young adults. It is vital not to dismiss our children, attentively observe their emotions, aid them in regulating those emotions, and derive appropriate meaning from their experiences. Adults must create a safe environment for young children to exhibit self-centered behaviors appropriate for their age. Therefore, one of the worst things a parent can do is to make a child feel guilty for being selfish. This dynamic can lead to the child being prematurely burdened with parental responsibilities and subsequently displaying narcissistic behaviors later in life. This scenario often occurs in large families where older siblings are expected to assume parental roles while still children themselves. Because embracing their children’s self-centeredness may be challenging for parents, nature has made babies, toddlers, and young kids “cute”. Our brains are wired to exhibit greater patience and tolerance towards individuals with a high degree of “cuteness” so as to help us support this most difficult part of our children’s development.

Now, the crucial question arises: What should we do with the aspects of ourselves that have halted development due to trauma and are currently trapped in immature stages?

Healing involves providing our trapped inner children with the opposite experiences they lacked. To resume their growth, they require care, a sense of being valued, dedicated attention, tenderness, and kindness—experiences that may have been absent in their early lives. It is common for many of us to seek intimate relationships for this reason, which often leads to disastrous outcomes. Instead of seeking a life partner to grow and share joyful moments with, and to contribute to each other’s happiness, we unconsciously seek a partner who resembles one of our parents. We hope this partner will provide the emotional nurturing that our original parent may have failed to give us. However, this pattern tends to perpetuate the same cycle of trauma and pain over and over again. Since love is instinctively associated with survival for a child, it explains why we can exhibit destructive or hateful behaviors towards someone we once considered our life partner as the relationship ends, rather than moving peacefully into conscious uncoupling.

Indeed, our blocked inner child requires an experience of healthy narcissism to resume its growth. However, instead of unconsciously demanding it from a romantic partner, a more effective approach involves working with a skilled therapist or coach who can guide us in the process of re-parenting our frozen inner child. This journey involves acknowledging our feelings, identifying our needs, and prioritizing ourselves without guilt or shame when appropriate. It can be as simple as indulging in our favorite food, getting a pet to experience unconditional love, treating ourselves to a spa day or retreat, purchasing a desired piece of jewelry, or exploring a new country solo. However, it often boils down to simpler acts: choosing to rest when tired, seeking solace in nature, meditating in silence with benevolence, understanding, and non-judgment, or journaling to explore our inner world. There are infinite ways to fulfill the needs of our undeveloped inner children, once we tap into our creativity. As we engage in this process, our inner child begins to grow again, thereby transforming all aspects of our lives, particularly our personal relationships. The inner child serves as the seat of the soul, holding the key to our joy and personal happiness.

Allow me to share a recent experience with one of my clients who had consumed hallucinogenic mushrooms as part of a shamanic healing journey. During a distressing trip, he found himself stuck in a vulnerable part of his inner child and decided to call me on WhatsApp. Recognizing the danger of the situation, I sought a quiet space at a friend’s house, even though it interrupted our plans. I settled into the dry bathtub to isolate myself, dedicating the following three hours to validating his feelings, creating safety and security, engaging in deep conversations, and making him feel truly special. Because of the drug and the fear he experienced from his bad trip, his inner child’s narcissism was stronger than his adult’s guilt of taking up my time on a Sunday. As a result, he could enjoy the process of me fully attending his inner child’s needs, which, at that moment, required feeling like the center of the world. I understood the importance of only ending the call when he was ready, regardless of how long it took. In hindsight, this experience brought him extraordinary healing, resulting in increased empathy and reduced self-centeredness. By addressing the genuine needs of our inner children, we enable their growth, leading to the development of more altruistic needs. To conclude the story, when I eventually emerged from the bathroom, my friend had patiently waited for me, and we shared a wonderful afternoon together. He reciprocated the unconditional support I had just offered. This illustrates the workings of the universal law of attraction.

Hence, here lies the paradox: To transcend narcissism, we must relearn how to be “narcissistic” in a healthy manner to heal our inner child. And what precisely is the appropriate narcissism for a fully functioning adult? Self-love. True self-love aligns with spiritual awakening, emanating from the heart and unity consciousness. Therefore, loving oneself in this state is nothing other than loving the entirety of creation, as we feel connected to all beings and everything around us.

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Rééduquer votre enfant intérieur : transformer le narcissisme en amour-propre

Le narcissisme, ancré dans le mythe grec de Narcisse, fait référence à un trait psychologique caractérisé par une admiration excessive de soi, un sentiment grandiose d’importance personnelle et un besoin constant d’attention et d’admiration des autres. Il implique une préoccupation excessive pour ses propres réalisations, talents et apparence, souvent accompagnée d’un manque d’empathie envers autrui. Le narcissisme peut avoir un impact négatif profond à la fois sur le plan personnel et interpersonnel. Les personnes présentant des traits narcissiques prononcés ont tendance à privilégier leurs propres besoins et désirs au détriment de ceux des autres, ce qui rend difficile la formation et le maintien de relations profondes. Leur sentiment exagéré d’importance personnelle peut rendre difficile une véritable connexion avec les autres ou la prise en compte de leurs points de vue. Cette focalisation sur soi peut également entraîner un manque d’empathie, créant une distance émotionnelle et relationnelle qui entrave le développement de relations saines et épanouissantes. En fin de compte, le narcissisme peut entraver la croissance personnelle ainsi que les relations authentiques et générer un cycle de mécontentement et d’insatisfaction.
Cette définition englobe la forme la plus évidente du narcissisme, connue sous le nom de trouble de la personnalité narcissique (TPN). Cependant, si nous élargissons notre compréhension du narcissisme comme une incapacité inhérente à se connecter véritablement avec les autres en raison d’un emprisonnement inconscient dans notre propre bulle égocentrique, nous pouvons identifier divers autres groupes de personnes qui présentent des traits narcissiques.
Par exemple, dans une relation co-dépendante, une personne a tendance à privilégier de manière excessive et malsaine les besoins et désirs de l’autre, souvent au détriment de son propre bien-être. Cela peut entraîner un déséquilibre dans la dynamique relationnelle, avec une personne assumant le rôle de soignant ou de sauveur. Dans certains cas, la personne qui présente des comportements co-dépendants peut également présenter des traits narcissiques. Cela peut se manifester par un besoin de contrôle, de manipulation ou un sentiment exagéré d’importance personnelle dans le contexte de la relation co-dépendante. Cette forme de co-dépendance avec des tendances narcissiques peut créer une dynamique où une personne recherche validation et attention de l’autre tout en maintenant un certain contrôle sur la relation.

En réalité, la plupart d’entre nous présentent certains traits narcissiques lorsque nous sommes déclenchés émotionnellement par une personne ou un événement. Nous sommes déclenchés parce que nous ne sommes pas complètement guéris émotionnellement, car la plupart d’entre nous sommes encore hantés par des traumatismes du passé. Les personnes diagnostiquées avec un TPN ou une co-dépendance se situent à l’extrême de l’échelle, mais il est honnête d’accepter le fait que nous présentons tous certains de ces comportements lorsque nous ne sentions pas bien.
Dans les premières étapes du développement de l’enfant, en particulier pendant les années formatrices, il est important qu’un enfant ait le sentiment d’être au centre du monde pour développer un ego sain. Ce processus est essentiel pour sa croissance psychologique et émotionnelle globale. Voici quelques raisons pour lesquelles cela est important :

Construction de l’identité : Pendant la petite enfance, les enfants sont en train de former leur sens de soi. En se percevant comme le centre de leur monde, ils développent une base pour leur identité personnelle. Cela leur permet de se comprendre et de se différencier des autres, favorisant un sentiment sain d’individualité.
Autonomie et indépendance : Se sentir important et se concentrer sur soi permet aux enfants de développer un sens de l’autonomie et de l’indépendance. Cela les encourage à explorer leur environnement, à exprimer leurs besoins et désirs. Cela favorise leur développement émotionnel et cognitif, car ils apprennent à naviguer dans le monde qui les entoure.
Sécurité émotionnelle : Lorsque les jeunes enfants ont l’impression d’être au centre de l’attention et de recevoir des soins attentionnés et responsifs, ils développent un sentiment de sécurité émotionnelle. Cela pose les bases d’un développement émotionnel sain, de la confiance et de la capacité à former des attachements sécurisés avec autrui.
Limites saines et auto-soins : En se concentrant initialement sur eux-mêmes, les enfants apprennent à connaître leurs propres besoins et préférences. Cette compréhension les aide à établir des limites saines et à développer des pratiques d’auto-soins. En grandissant, ils apprennent progressivement à équilibrer leurs propres besoins avec ceux des autres, favorisant des relations saines et l’empathie.
Développement de la confiance : Se sentir important et valorisé aide les enfants à développer la confiance et une image positive d’eux-mêmes. Cela leur donne un sentiment de valeur, les encourageant à explorer leurs capacités et à relever de nouveaux défis avec résilience et détermination.

Le narcissisme sain est crucial pour le développement d’un enfant. Par exemple, chez un bébé d’un an, un narcissisme sain se manifeste lorsque l’enfant exprime ses besoins en pleurant pour attirer l’attention de ses parents afin de satisfaire ses besoins physiques, comme se nourrir. De même, pendant la période souvent appelée les “terribles deux ans”, les tout-petits font preuve d’un narcissisme sain à travers des comportements tels que les crises de colère, la défiance et une affirmation de soi nouvelle, alors qu’ils explorent leur croissante autonomie et indépendance.
Malheureusement, pendant cette période cruciale du développement, les enfants sont souvent empêchés d’exprimer ce narcissisme nécessaire de manière saine. Beaucoup d’entre nous avons vécu des négligences, des absences, des déconnexions, des abus, de la colère, de l’insécurité, de la manipulation ou un manque de soins en raison des limites et des traumatismes de nos parents. Il ne s’agit pas de blâmer les parents ; ils ont fait de leur mieux compte tenu de leur propre niveau de développement et de compréhension. Il est en réalité presque impossible d’atteindre l’âge adulte sans avoir vécu une forme de traumatisme. Si nous adhérons à l’idée du parcours de l’âme, nous pourrions même considérer que nous avons intentionnellement choisi nos parents, spécialement pour les défis qu’ils présentaient (la trame de l’âme), comme une opportunité de travailler sur notre karma et d’évoluer en tant qu’âmes incarnées.

Alors que nous vivons des traumatismes pendant notre enfance, notre enfant intérieur peut se figer et cesser de grandir. Par conséquent, bien que notre corps physique puisse mûrir jusqu’à l’âge adulte, certaines parties de notre être peuvent demeurer comme un bébé en manque d’attention ou un tout-petit colérique de deux ans. Lorsqu’ils sont déclenchés, cette partie de nous peut se manifester par des emportements et des crises, causant des perturbations dans notre environnement. Nous avons tous été témoins de tels comportements inappropriés qui peuvent sembler irrationnels, fous ou immatures. Cependant, si nous observons le même comportement chez un jeune enfant, cela devient amusant et sans importance. La personne exhibant ces comportements n’est pas fondamentalement mauvaise ; plutôt, un aspect jeune de son être prend momentanément le contrôle de sa personnalité. Malheureusement, cela peut entraîner des dommages considérables et avoir un impact négatif sur sa vie ou sa carrière comme Will Smith quand il a gliflé Chris Rock aux Oscars. Dans un développement sain de l’enfance, les enfants apprennent progressivement à prendre en compte les perspectives des autres, à développer de l’empathie et à naviguer dans les interactions sociales. Cependant, en raison des traumatismes, certains aspects de nous-mêmes restent figés dans des stades de développement antérieurs caractérisés par des tendances narcissiques. En conséquence, un adulte présentant des traits narcissiques reflète souvent quelqu’un qui n’a pas été autorisé à exprimer un narcissisme sain pendant l’enfance, lorsque cela était approprié à cette étape du développement. Un ami m’a un jour conseillé de prendre soin de mes enfants lorsqu’ils sont jeunes pour éviter de gros problèmes plus tard, à l’adolescence. Ce conseil s’est avéré particulièrement pertinent. Investir dans le bien-être de nos enfants pendant la petite enfance est essentiel pour favoriser le développement de jeunes adultes responsables et bienveillants. Il est important de ne pas négliger nos enfants, d’observer attentivement leurs émotions, de les aider à les réguler et de leur donner un sens approprié à partir de leurs expériences. Les adultes doivent créer un environnement sûr pour que les jeunes enfants puissent manifester des comportements centrés sur eux-mêmes adaptés à leur âge. Par conséquent, l’une des pires choses qu’un parent puisse faire est de faire culpabiliser un enfant d’être égoïste. Cela peut entraîner le fait que l’enfant soit précocement chargé de responsabilités parentales et affiche ensuite des comportements narcissiques à l’âge adulte. Cette situation se produit souvent dans les grandes familles où les frères et sœurs plus âgés sont amenés à assumer des rôles parentaux tout en étant encore des enfants. Bien que l’égocentrisme de leurs enfants puisse être difficile pour les parents, les bébés, les tout-petits et les jeunes enfants sont conçus pour paraître mignons. Notre cerveau est programmé pour faire preuve de plus de patience et de tolérance envers les individus qui possèdent cette qualité d’être mignon afin de nous aider à soutenir cette partie la plus difficile du développement de nos enfants.

Maintenant, la question cruciale se pose : que faisons-nous des aspects de nous-mêmes qui ont cessé de se développer en raison des traumatismes et qui sont maintenant figés dans des stades immatures de développement ?

La guérison implique de fournir à notre enfant intérieur bloqué des expériences opposées à celles qu’il a connues. Pour reprendre sa croissance, il a besoin de soins, de se sentir spécial, d’attention, de douceur et de gentillesse, des expériences qu’il n’a peut-être jamais reçues auparavant. Il est courant que beaucoup d’entre nous cherchent des relations intimes pour cette raison, ce qui se termine souvent par des désastres. Au lieu de chercher un partenaire de vie avec qui grandir, partager les beaux moments de la vie et contribuer à son bonheur, nous cherchons inconsciemment un partenaire qui ressemble à l’un de nos parents et qui nous apportera l’épanouissement émotionnel que notre parent d’origine n’a peut-être pas su nous offrir. Cependant, ce schéma tend à perpétuer le même cycle de traumatismes et de souffrances encore et encore. Étant donné que l’amour est instinctivement associé à la survie pour un enfant, cela explique pourquoi nous pouvons manifester des comportements destructeurs ou haineux envers quelqu’un que nous avons autrefois considéré comme notre partenaire de vie, plutôt que de passer pacifiquement à la séparation consciente.

En effet, notre enfant intérieur bloqué a besoin d’une expérience de narcissisme sain pour reprendre sa croissance. Cependant, au lieu de le demander inconsciemment à un partenaire romantique, une approche plus efficace consiste à travailler avec un thérapeute ou un coach compétent qui peut nous guider dans le processus de re-parentage de notre enfant intérieur figé. Ce cheminement implique de reconnaître nos émotions, de découvrir nos besoins et de nous mettre en premier sans culpabilité ni honte lorsque cela est approprié. Cela peut être aussi simple que de se préparer notre plat préféré rien que pour nous, d’adopter un chien pour vivre l’expérience de l’amour inconditionnel que nous n’avons peut-être jamais reçu de nos parents, de se faire chouchouter avec un soin thalasso ou une retraite spirituelle, d’acheter un bijou que nous avons tant désiré sans attendre qu’un partenaire comble ce besoin, de partir dans un pays que nous avons toujours voulu explorer sans compagnon de voyage. Mais le plus souvent, cela est plus simple que cela. Choisir de se reposer lorsque nous nous sentons fatigués ou surmenés, même si notre esprit nous pousse à travailler plus fort pour respecter une deadline. Aller dans un endroit agréable en pleine nature pour se détendre et trouver la paix. Méditer et s’asseoir en silence en écoutant toutes les parties de nous-mêmes de manière neutre, sans jugement, avec bienveillance, gentillesse et compréhension. Tenir un journal pour en apprendre davantage sur nous-mêmes. Il existe une infinité de façons de répondre aux besoins de nos enfants intérieurs non développés une fois que nous apprenons à faire preuve de créativité à cet égard. En le faisant, notre enfant intérieur recommencera à grandir et, par conséquent, toute notre vie sera transformée, surtout dans le domaine des relations personnelles. L’enfant intérieur est le siège de l’âme et détient ainsi la clé de notre joie et de notre bonheur personnel.

Permettez-moi de partager une expérience récente avec l’un de mes clients qui avait consommé des champignons hallucinogènes dans le cadre d’un voyage chamanique de guérison. Il s’est retrouvé bloqué terrifié dans une partie vulnérable de son enfant intérieur. Reconnaissant l’importance de la situation, j’ai cherché un espace calme chez un ami, même si cela interrompait nos projets. Je me suis installé dans la baignoire sans eau pour m’isoler, consacrant les trois heures suivantes à valider ses sentiments, à lui créer un sentiment de sécurité, à engager des conversations profondes et à le faire se sentir réellement spécial. Grâce à l’influence de la drogue, il a réussi à surmonter la culpabilité de me prendre mon temps un dimanche et à répondre pleinement aux besoins de son enfant intérieur, qui consistaient à se sentir au centre du monde à ce moment-là. J’ai compris l’importance de ne mettre fin à l’appel que lorsqu’il était prêt, peu importe le temps que cela prendrait. Avec le recul, cette expérience lui a apporté une guérison extraordinaire, le rendant plus empathique et moins centré sur lui-même. En répondant aux besoins authentiques de nos enfants intérieurs, nous leur permettons de grandir, ce qui conduit au développement de besoins plus altruistes. Pour conclure l’histoire, lorsque j’ai finalement quitté la salle de bain, mon ami m’avait patiemment attendu et nous avons passé un merveilleux après-midi ensemble. Il m’a rendu le même soutien inconditionnel que je venais de lui offrir. C’est ainsi que fonctionne la loi universelle de l’attraction.

Voici donc le paradoxe : pour transcender le narcissisme, nous devons réapprendre à être “narcissiques” de manière saine et consciente. Et qu’est-ce que le narcissisme approprié pour un adulte pleinement fonctionnel ? L’amour de soi. Le véritable amour de soi est en réalité la même chose qu’un éveil spirituel, car il est basé sur le cœur et la conscience de l’unité. Ainsi, s’aimer soi-même dans cet état revient à aimer l’ensemble de la création, car nous nous sentons connectés à tous les êtres et à tout ce qui nous entoure.

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Replantear a tu niño interior: Transformando el narcisismo en amor propio

El narcisismo, enraizado en el mito griego de Narciso, se refiere a un rasgo psicológico caracterizado por un exceso de autoadmiración, un sentido grandioso de importancia personal y un constante deseo de atención y admiración por parte de los demás. Implica una obsesión por los propios logros, talentos y apariencia, a menudo acompañada de una falta de empatía hacia los demás. El narcisismo puede tener un profundo impacto negativo tanto a nivel personal como interpersonal. Las personas con rasgos narcisistas pronunciados tienden a priorizar sus propias necesidades y deseos por encima de los de los demás, lo que dificulta la formación y el mantenimiento de relaciones significativas. Su exagerado sentido de importancia personal puede generar un sentimiento de derecho, lo que les dificulta conectar verdaderamente con los demás o considerar sus perspectivas. Este enfoque centrado en sí mismo también puede resultar en una falta de empatía, creando distancia emocional y relacional, y obstaculizando el desarrollo de conexiones saludables y satisfactorias. En última instancia, el narcisismo puede obstaculizar el crecimiento personal, dificultar las conexiones auténticas y generar un ciclo de insatisfacción y descontento.

Esta definición abarca la forma más evidente de narcisismo, conocida como Trastorno Narcisista de la Personalidad (TNP). Sin embargo, si ampliamos nuestra comprensión del narcisismo como una incapacidad inherente para conectar genuinamente con los demás debido a estar excesivamente absorto en nuestra propia burbuja egocéntrica, podemos identificar varios otros grupos de personas que exhiben rasgos narcisistas.

Por ejemplo, en una relación codependiente, una persona tiende a priorizar las necesidades y deseos del otro en grado excesivo y poco saludable, a menudo a expensas de su propio bienestar. Esto puede llevar a un desequilibrio en la dinámica de la relación, con una persona asumiendo un papel de cuidador o facilitador. En algunos casos, la persona que exhibe comportamientos codependientes también puede mostrar rasgos narcisistas. Esto puede manifestarse como una necesidad de control, manipulación o un sentido exagerado de importancia personal dentro del contexto de la relación codependiente. Esta forma de codependencia con tendencias narcisistas puede crear una dinámica en la que una persona busca validación y atención del otro mientras mantiene un sentido de control sobre la relación.

De hecho, la mayoría de nosotros mostramos algunas formas de rasgos narcisistas cuando somos desencadenados por una persona o un evento. Nos desenfocamos porque no hemos sanado completamente, ya que muchos de nosotros todavía estamos acosados por traumas del pasado. Las personas que son diagnosticadas con TNP o codependencia se encuentran en el extremo más grave del espectro, pero es honesto aceptar el hecho de que todos nosotros mostramos algunos de estos comportamientos cuando no estamos bien.

En realidad, muchos de nosotros exhibimos ciertos rasgos narcisistas que aparecen de repente por personas o eventos específicos. Estos desencadenantes a menudo se originan en traumas pasados no resueltos que continúan afectándonos. Si bien las personas diagnosticadas con TNP o codependencia representan el extremo del espectro, es importante reconocer que todos podemos mostrar algunos de estos comportamientos cuando experimentamos angustia emocional o no estamos bien. Es un reconocimiento sincero de que nuestros comportamientos pueden alinearse temporalmente con tendencias narcisistas durante esos períodos.

En las primeras etapas del desarrollo infantil, especialmente durante los años formativos, es importante que un niño experimente una sensación de ser el centro del mundo para desarrollar un ego saludable. Este proceso es esencial para su crecimiento psicológico, emocional, y en general. A continuación, se presentan algunas razones por las cuales esto es importante:

Construcción de la identidad propia: Durante la primera infancia, los niños están en proceso de formar su sentido de sí mismos. Al experimentarse como el centro de su mundo, desarrollan una base para empezar a crear su identidad. Esto les permite comprender y diferenciarse de los demás, fomentando un sentido saludable de individualidad.
Autonomía e independencia: Sentirse importante y centrado en uno mismo, permite a los niños desarrollar un sentido de autonomía e independencia. Los anima a explorar su entorno, expresar sus necesidades ó deseos, y a desarrollar un sentido de agencia. Esto fomenta su desarrollo emocional y cognitivo, ya que aprenden a navegar en el mundo que les rodea.
Seguridad emocional: Cuando los niños pequeños sienten que son el centro de atención y reciben cuidado y atención receptiva, desarrollan un sentido de seguridad emocional. Esto sienta las bases para un desarrollo emocional saludable, la confianza y la capacidad de formar vínculos seguros con los demás.
Límites saludables y autocuidado: Al enfocarse inicialmente en sí mismos, los niños aprenden acerca de sus propias necesidades y preferencias. Esta comprensión les ayuda a establecer límites saludables y desarrollar prácticas de autocuidado. A medida que crecen, aprenden gradualmente a equilibrar sus propias necesidades con las de los demás, fomentando relaciones saludables y empatía.
Desarrollo de la confianza: Sentirse importante y valorado ayuda a los niños a desarrollar confianza y una imagen positiva de sí mismos. Les proporciona un sentido de valía, fomentando su disposición a explorar sus habilidades y asumir nuevos desafíos con resiliencia y determinación.

El narcisismo saludable es crucial para el desarrollo de un niño. Por ejemplo, el narcisismo saludable de un bebé de un año se evidencia cuando vocaliza sus necesidades llorando para que sus padres atiendan sus requerimientos físicos, como alimentarse. De manera similar, durante la etapa comúnmente conocida como “terrible dos”, los niños pequeños exhiben un narcisismo saludable a través de comportamientos como rabietas, desafío y una nueva afirmación de su autonomía, mientras exploran su creciente sentido de identidad e independencia.

Lamentablemente, durante este período crítico de desarrollo, a menudo se impide a los niños expresar este narcisismo necesario de manera saludable. Muchos de nosotros experimentamos negligencia, ausencia, desconexión, abuso, ira, inseguridad, manipulación o falta de cuidado debido a las limitaciones y traumas de nuestros padres. No se trata de culpar a los padres; hicieron lo mejor que pudieron con su propio nivel de desarrollo y comprensión. Es una realidad que alcanzar la edad adulta sin algún tipo de trauma es casi imposible. Si abrazamos la idea del viaje del alma, incluso podríamos considerar que elegimos intencionalmente a nuestros padres, específicamente por los desafíos que presentaban (el plan del alma), como una oportunidad para trabajar en nuestro karma y evolucionar como almas encarnadas.

A medida que experimentamos traumas en la infancia, nuestro niño interior puede quedar estancado y dejar de desarrollarse. En consecuencia, aunque nuestro cuerpo físico pueda madurar hacia la edad adulta, ciertos aspectos de nuestros pueden siguen siendo similares a un niño necesitado de atención o un niño pequeño enojado de dos años. Cuando se nos desencadena, esta parte de nosotros puede manifestarse a través de arrebatos y rabietas, causando disturbios en nuestro entorno. Todos hemos sido testigos de tales comportamientos inapropiados que parecen irracionales, locos o inmaduros. Sin embargo, si observamos el mismo comportamiento en un niño pequeño, resulta divertido e insignificante. La persona que muestra estos comportamientos no es inherentemente mala; más bien, una joven parte de su ser toma momentáneamente el control de su personalidad. Desafortunadamente, esto puede generar daños significativos e impactar negativamente su vida o carrera.

En el desarrollo saludable de la infancia, los niños aprenden gradualmente a considerar las perspectivas de los demás, desarrollar empatía y navegar las interacciones sociales. Sin embargo, debido a los traumas, ciertos aspectos de nosotros mismos quedan atrapados en etapas tempranas de desarrollo caracterizadas por tendencias narcisistas. Como resultado, un adulto que muestra rasgos narcisistas a menudo refleja a alguien que no se le permitió expresar un narcisismo saludable durante la infancia. Un amigo una vez me aconsejó que cuidara de mis hijos durante sus primeros años para evitar problemas significativos durante su adolescencia. Este consejo resultó ser notablemente preciso. Invertir en el bienestar de nuestros hijos durante la infancia es crucial para fomentar jóvenes adultos responsables y compasivos. Es vital no menospreciar a nuestros hijos, observar atentamente sus emociones, ayudarlos a regular esas emociones y darles significado apropiado a sus experiencias. Los adultos deben crear un entorno seguro para que los niños pequeños puedan exhibir comportamientos egocéntricos apropiados para su edad. Por lo tanto, una de las peores cosas que un padre puede hacer es hacer que un niño se sienta culpable por ser egoísta. Esta dinámica puede llevar a que el niño asuma prematuramente responsabilidades parentales y, posteriormente, muestre comportamientos narcisistas en la vida adulta. Esto ocurre a menudo en familias numerosas donde se espera que los hermanos mayores asuman roles parentales mientras todavía son niños. Aunque aceptar el egocentrismo de los niños puede ser desafiante para los padres, los bebés, los niños pequeños, están diseñados para parecer lindos. Nuestros cerebros están cableados para mostrar una mayor paciencia y tolerancia hacia las personas que poseen estas cualidades, para ayudarnos a apoyar esta parte tan difícil del desarrollo de nuestros hijos.

Ahora, la pregunta crucial surge: ¿Qué debemos hacer con los aspectos de nosotros mismos que han dejado de desarrollarse debido a los traumas y que actualmente están atrapados en etapas inmaduras?

La sanación implica proporcionar a nuestro niño interior atrapado las experiencias opuestas que les faltaron. Para reanudar su crecimiento, necesitan cuidado, una sensación de ser valorados, atención dedicada, ternura y amabilidad, experiencias que pueden haber sido ausentes en sus primeros años. Es común que muchos de nosotros busquemos relaciones íntimas por esta razón, lo que a menudo conduce a resultados desastrosos. En lugar de buscar una pareja de vida para crecer y compartir momentos felices, y contribuir a la felicidad mutua, buscamos inconscientemente una pareja que se asemeje a uno de nuestros padres. Esperamos que esta pareja proporcione el cuidado emocional que nuestro padre original pudo no haber brindado. Sin embargo, este patrón tiende a perpetuar el mismo ciclo de trauma y dolor una y otra vez. Dado que el amor está instintivamente asociado con la supervivencia para un niño, explica por qué podemos mostrar comportamientos destructivos o llenos de odio hacia alguien que alguna vez consideramos nuestra pareja en la vida en lugar de pasar pacíficamente a una separación consciente.

De hecho, nuestro niño interior bloqueado requiere una experiencia de narcisismo saludable para reanudar su crecimiento. Sin embargo, en lugar de exigirlo inconscientemente a una pareja romántica, un enfoque más efectivo implica trabajar con un terapeuta o coach especializado que pueda guiarnos en el proceso de ser padres de nuestro niño interior congelado. Este viaje implica reconocer nuestras emociones, identificar nuestras necesidades y priorizarnos sin culpa ni vergüenza cuando sea apropiado. Puede ser tan simple como disfrutar de nuestra comida favorita, tener una mascota para experimentar el amor incondicional, darnos un día de spa o retiro, comprar una joya deseada o explorar un nuevo país por nuestra cuenta. Sin embargo, a menudo se reduce a actos más simples: elegir descansar cuando estamos cansados, buscar consuelo en la naturaleza, meditar en silencio con benevolencia, comprensión sin juzgar, o escribir en un diario para descubrir más sobre nosotros mismos. Hay infinitas formas de satisfacer las necesidades de nuestro niño interior no desarrollado una vez que desarrollemos nuestra creatividad. A medida que nos involucramos en este proceso, nuestro niño interior comienza a crecer, transformando así todos los aspectos de nuestra vida, especialmente en el área de las relaciones personales. El niño interior es el asiento del alma y tiene la clave de nuestra alegría y felicidad personal.

Permíteme compartir una experiencia reciente con uno de mis clientes que había consumido hongos alucinógenos como parte de un viaje chamánico de sanación. Durante un viaje angustiante, se encontró atrapado en una parte vulnerable de su niño interior. Reconociendo la importancia de la situación, busqué un espacio tranquilo en casa de un amigo, aunque interrumpiera nuestros planes. Me acomodé en la bañera seca para aislarme, dedicando las siguientes tres horas a validar sus sentimientos, crear seguridad y confianza, entablar conversaciones profundas y hacerlo sentir realmente especial. Gracias a la influencia de la droga, logró superar la culpa de ocupar mi tiempo un domingo y atender plenamente las necesidades de su niño interior, que en ese momento requería sentirse como el centro del mundo. Entendí la importancia de finalizar la llamada solo cuando estuviera listo, sin importar cuánto tiempo llevara. En retrospectiva, esta experiencia le brindó una sanación extraordinaria, lo que resultó en un aumento de la empatía y una disminución del egocentrismo. Al abordar las necesidades genuinas de nuestro niño interior, permitimos su crecimiento, lo que conduce al desarrollo de necesidades más altruistas. Para concluir la historia, cuando finalmente salí del baño, mi amigo había esperado pacientemente y disfrutamos de una maravillosa tarde juntos. Él me devolvió el mismo apoyo incondicional que acababa de brindarle. Esto ilustra cómo funciona la ley universal de la ley de atracción.

The healing power of negative emotions

December 3, 2022December 4, 2022 / vaillantgicqueau / 2 Comments

We live in a world where we have made an enemy of negative emotions. We do everything to run away from them. We turn to drugs, addictions, dysfunctional relationships, distractions or compulsive behaviors to avoid feeling negative emotions. What if they are the lead that we can turn into gold if only we knew the alchemical process?

First, there is no mystery why we are behaving this way because we were programmed by our environment to dread negative emotions. As a child, there were some emotions that were not welcomed into our family environment. The type of emotions allowed or punished depends of the family. For example, in my family, anger was not tolerated however sadness was allowed. Then, we go through the process of socialization through school, our workplace and the community we are a part of. Each one has their own set of rules regarding emotions that are acceptable or frown upon. If this was not enough, we act towards ourselves as the most severe judge regarding the emotions we allow ourselves to feel and not feel. Many negative emotions come with stigma and we carry too much shame about ourselves to admit we are feeling them. We make depression mean lost and weak, loneliness mean unlovable, anger mean dangerous so of course, our ego will do anything not to feel them in order protect our imaginary sense of self.

As a result, we have become experts in not feeling negative emotions. Because of the powerless state we live in, we thrive for solutions outside of ourselves while all answers are always from within. The global opioid market is $23 billions while the market of illegal mind altering substances is much higher. All addictions come from the fact we are avoiding to feel difficult emotions. This is well explained by Gabor Mate. According to him “Addiction is not a choice anybody makes, it’s a response to emotional pain”. Many dysfunctional relationship patterns are born because we are irresistibly attracted to partners that can express the emotions we have repressed. I would like to invite you to reflect on your own obsessive behaviors or coping mechanisms you have adopted not to feel. The list is endless for everyone of us.

At the same time, there are valid reasons why the society, and everyone of us have been programmed to be afraid of negative emotions. To be fair, the unconscious expression of negative emotions may be threatening not only to others but also to ourselves. The news are full of reports of homicides that happened in an excess of rage. We hear of people committing suicide when they get too depressed. There are more and more teenagers resolving to cutting when faced with overwhelming emotional pain. For this reason, we are afraid to open the pandora’s box as we get closer to our negative emotions. Actually, the opposite is true. By allowing to feeling our difficult emotions, we release the pressure and therefore reduce their uncontrolled expression.

Feeling emotions is an aspect of being human. A healthy integrated human being reacts to life events with emotions. He experiences anger when his boundaries or sense of values is violated. He experiences sadness when faced with loss. He experiences disappointment when he does not attain his objectives. He feels stressed or anxious when he is under too much pressure and feels overwhelmed. He feels depressed when he has lost meaning and purpose. Negative emotions are like messengers. They act as feedback mechanisms as we go through life. They are guides who help us keep our life in the right direction. They constitute our inner guidance system. There are two prerequisites to be able to use emotions as a life compass: awareness and complete self-honesty. We need to learn to recognize the types of emotions that circulate through our body, and have enough self-confidence to see our flaws without collapsing emotionally.

As the person matures, he understands which environment may be conducive to the free expression of his genuine emotions. Controlled anger may be effective to deal with your teenager that lied to you however anger is unwelcome almost every time in a court of law. So, as a first step, we need to develop awareness in the type of emotions that is arising within our consciousness, and secondly see how much we can safely express them within our current environment. We may feel sad, and if we are in the company of good friends, we know we can cry without feeling judged. Or we may be in a different setting where shedding tears could be interpreted as a sign of weakness or feel threatening to people around us. In this situation, we learn to postpone the conscious expression of negative emotions when we are in a safe place.

I am going to share with you my personal technique of dealing with negative emotions:
1. Recognition
I need to feel I have a heavy emotion that require my attention as it is a call for healing and understanding. It should be painful enough that I cannot easily push it aside through positive focus or immersing myself into an activity. On the opposite, it needs to feel that ignoring this feeling will be damaging to our holistic self. This type of emotions should not happen more than a few times in a month unlike I am going through a particularly difficult time in my life. I see some people doing shadow work so often that they forget to enjoy their lives, and develop a new ego centered around their traumas. This is another extreme to avoid. We have to find the right balance between avoidance and complacency. In case of doubt, trust your body sensations in the present moment to make the determination if you need shadow work or not.
2. Setting a time
If you are finding yourself in a safe place where you can isolate yourself, start your shadow work session right away. However, life is busy and we may not be able to deal with these negative emotions right away. Take care of your key priorities first to put your mind to rest and reduce your stress. Find a safe place where you may not be interrupted. Set-up a time in the near future to work on these emotions. Resist the urge to handle your negative emotions with any external quick-fix in the meantime.
3. Shadow work meditation
If I notice that my mind is restless, I will start first with a physical practice to quiet my mind which is a form of stretching and yoga. This helps me to reconnect with the present moment, my breath, my body in order to ground and raise my frequency. Clearing the mind chatter is critical to be able to listen to our higher intuition. Then I take the position of my favorite asana. From my perspective, the most important is to have a straight back while being comfortable to connect more deeply to our emotions, feelings and thought patterns. This works for me because I have been practicing meditation for many years. However, other centering modalities may be more adequate for you. Journaling makes thoughts more visible and tangible so that you may visualize them to facilitate an inner dialog. Some people prefer a walking meditation in nature. The natural harmony of trees, birds, insects, vegetation is helping them finding this inner center.

4. Be your own therapist
The inner work that now takes place will depend upon your own experience as a healer, coach or simply as an introspective person. However there are a few constants I want to share with you that apply to all shadow work. First, you need to sit with the emotions no matter how painful they are. It involves tearing down the protective walls, allowing to feel the negative emotions without judgment, to eventually accepting them as they are. Raw and uncomfortable as they may be, they act as a rope to bring us back to an aspect of your fragmented self that requires healing. There are many techniques available whether you connect with your body sensations, use creative visualization or validate your raw emotions but the overall goal is to go deeper until you have an emotional release such as tears. If you do not get an emotional release, your process has stayed mental and the healing will be very superficial.

Once the emotional release takes place, the healing process shifted from the mind to the body and therefore becomes therefore far more effective. Use breath, body and psychic awareness to help circulate the energy. Show compassion, detachment, loving kindness towards yourself as you experience energy shifting within your body. At that stage, observe without analysis in full presence and deep compassion. The goal is to feel as much as possible. It is about letting go and facilitating the process just like if you were delivering a baby. You are not making things happen, you are watching things happen.
After this stage is done, it is appropriate for mind and intuition to come back and make sense about what happened. What did you learn? What do you need? Did you recover an old trauma? What aspects of you require nurturing? Why were you feeling this way? What actions do you need to take in your life to shift this pattern? What new perspective do you need to adopt to stop suffering?
For example, you may have felt deep loneliness. It may be reminiscent to your childhood being raised by emotionally unavailable parents. You then realize you need to make connection with friends or an intimate partner a priority in your life and not give all your energy to your work. You are deciding to go out to meet new people.
Alternatively, you may be feeling angry towards someone. It reminds you to a situation as a child where you felt trapped. You are deciding to stop the perceived abuse from this person, and hold your personal boundaries. You are not going to acquiesce any more to actions towards you that you see as harmful and unfair.
Sometimes, it takes time to come a new understanding or a new course of action. This is completely fine. It is critical to sit with the feeling as long as necessary and any conclusion cannot be rushed. They should come effortlessly.

Being your own therapist takes practice. Initially, you may want to solicit the help of an outside therapist, facilitator or coach you resonate with as you go through these difficult cycles. Unfortunately, most people are disconnected from their body, feelings and emotions so they may feel overwhelmed at first to lead this healing process on their own. Do not have any shame in requiring compassionate help from a third party. Whether you use a guide or not for this process, you are still the one doing the work. Even the most advanced and compassionate healers cannot do the required healing work without your participation, trust and courage. As you get more experienced, it feels easier and easier to do shadow work on your own. You develop autonomy and the understanding that everything is within you.

Once you master the process of working with your own negative emotions, there are many benefits that will be added into your life.
1. Improved health
The majority of physical illnesses start with an emotional component. By being more in touch with your emotions, you will be able to do the necessary healing before it affects your physical body. You take notice of the early signs of unbalance and misalignment before they make you sick. You stop catching the seasonal flu and your immune system runs as a much higher level. You recover more quickly from life’s inevitable hardships and upheavals.
2. More clarity and sense of purpose
You are never stuck or feeling down for too long. 90% of your life is about creating, connecting and sharing, enjoying and having fun, taking care of yourself and others in a beneficial way. You get more done. You stop resorting to addiction or distractions to fill your inner void. You bring meaning to everything you do.
3. Magical manifestation
As you connect to your heart’s desire through shadow work, the universe hears your silent cry and may start manifesting what you truly desire above your expectations. The woman of your dreams may come into your life or your dream career may materialize. Your business may start developing at rapid speed. Your life mission becomes effortless. A very deep friendship may emerge. Sky is the limit in terms of manifestations. The key is to be truthful, authentic and connect deeply to what you really really while raising above the selfish needs and desires of the ego.
4. Wisdom
You develop self-knowledge and discernment. You become someone people come to for advice and guidance. You read people easily. You avert danger and perilous situations. You are taking better decisions and actions for everyday life. Every difficulty you face in life brings you more wisdom to live better. You win anyway, whether you were dealt good or bad cards from life.
5. Saving time and money
You find solutions from within, fast and without the need to external paid help. You prevent bad financial deals before they happen. Your inner guidance system is wide awake to make you avoid costly life turns you may regret later on. You feel the potential of opportunities coming your way.
6. Enhanced quality of life
You live life at a much higher level. It is not about getting by or surviving but thriving. You have stopped all life energy leaks such as addictions, dysfunctional relationships or compulsive to live a life that is worth living, full of new adventures and dreams to manifest. You awaken to your true self as you heal yourself through the transmutation of negative emotions.

Work on negative emotions is just as important as being present and disciplining our attention in our journey of awakening and achieving our full potential. While we dread them for they bring us misery, they hold the key to our liberation because of their healing power.

Guilt: the Master Manipulator

November 21, 2020November 21, 2020 / vaillantgicqueau / 2 Comments

We underestimate how guilt is controlling so many aspects of our lives. Before diving deeper into guilt, it is important to understand how it differs from shame. Shame reflects how we feel about ourselves while guilt involves an awareness how our actions may impact someone else. In other words, shame relates to self; guilt to others.

I was once in an intimate relationship where I felt it was time to move on but could not get myself to communicate it to my partner. She was the same person that I used to adore earlier in the relationship and was actually making steps in the right directions. There were things that bothered me in the relationship but I kept going when she was at her worst, but now that she was making drastic positive changes in her life, showed affection and a commitment to turn her life around, I felt that it was time to part ways. Matters of the heart are not rational and we either feel the love or we don’t. Attraction is more based on suppressed feelings, unresolved traumas from childhood with our primary caregivers than compatibility, comfort or the perks that come from the relationship. Love chemistry is more based on repressed and subconscious feelings rather than what is conscious. In this particular instance, I did not feel it was the right time to communicate my intention to break-up. She was going through an intense personal journey to heal destructive patterns that had significantly limited her life for many years, and I did not want to disrupt her process by breaking up with her. Paradoxically, our relationship had acted as a catalyst for her to commit to this new path. So when I visited her, I pretended that everything was normal while still making plans together for the future. When I came back from the visit, I felt terrible. I felt depressed, disconnected, low-energy, deeply triggered and confused. It took me actually two days to figure out what was really going on. I was overwhelmed with guilt. I felt bad about wanting to pull away from the relationship while she was both fragile and finally working on the aspects that I told her were so important to me. I felt I would hurt her badly by triggering her abandonment traumas, and possibly discourage her to continue on her path of recovery. I was experiencing an intense conflict about how I felt romantically about her and what was the right thing to do according my personal code of ethics and value system.

As we have a tendency to attract partners that reflect the unhealthy dynamics we had with our parents as a child, I went on exploring how this trigger was related to the relationship between my mother and my inner child. I saw my desperate and futile attempts as a child to save my mother, to alleviate her pain and to make her happy. This is how roles get reversed and the child becomes parentified. The child has no choice. The child is too young for individuation. He cannot differentiate his feelings from his parents’ feelings. Unfortunately, this parentification is also amplified by the immature parent that derives their sense of self from the control they exercise on the child. Guilt is the most common way to subject the child: «You are being so ungrateful after everything I have done for you», «How do you dare acting this way to hurt your poor mother after all the sacrifices I have made for you», «You are so selfish, only thinking about yourself» or «This is how good boys behave». We can dive even deeper and darker into the subconscious contract between the dysfunctional mother (or father) and their child «I gave you life so you owe me everything», «I gave you life so that I would stop feeling lonely and miserable», «Be a good boy so that I appear like an excellent mum but not to the extent where you may start to make me feel insecure about myself», «You are flawed. I am the only one who is able to love you. Just do what I say and you will be all right and I may not abandon you. And don’t get too close to other people as they will hurt you».

The child cannot afford the loss of connection with his parents because he depends on them for survival. So he complies and abandons himself to guaranty the security of the connection with his parents. Wires have been crossed, and later in life, his path of awareness, healing and maturation will include attracting partners reflecting the same dysfunctional patterns that he was made to believe were loving. The insecure little girl with an absent father will attract partners that are emotionally unavailable. The little boy with an emotional unstable mother will attract borderline girlfriends and so on so forth. Most people believe they are learning unconditional love by having children not realizing how conditional their relationship actually is. They don’t give without expecting anything in return. We are not saints so it is natural to have expectations and even a sense of reciprocity with our children, however what is not OK is to manipulate, pretend we are sacrificers while we just look for our personal interest and gaslight our kids.

Typically, our intimate relationships follow the same patterns of survival, enmeshment and conditionality that we experienced as a child with our own parents. Break-ups are so painful because we project in them the loss of a parent that we simply cannot afford to lose when, as a child, we depend upon them for survival. These relationships are codependent with a high level of entanglement. While there is love, affection and caring, there is also frustration, control, projection, fear and identification. Passion and romance quickly subside to the routine of the new arrangement and life necessities. For the minority of people (probably not more than 2%) that achieved personal autonomy, I would like to suggest a new model for romantic relationships. These individuals are able to rise from mainstream morality to conscience, they are happy alone and in a relationship, they know who they are, they don’t impose their views on others, and they are able to sustain themselves financially through their own efforts. Everything they do is an act of personal preference and freedom. These persons only get involved and stay in intimate relationships that 1. feel good 2. promote their personal growth 3. are reciprocal; or a combination of these 3 factors. The success of these romances is not defined by the duration of these relationship but rather by the shared good times, and the growth that came out of it. They may not be aware intellectually of why they choose to merge or break-up with an individual but they always do it with it with respect, empathy and truthfulness. They choose to live from the heart and as Blaise Pascal used to say «The heart has its reasons which reason knows nothing of…». They understand that the beauty of their union comes partly from the total freedom and complete unpredictability of the relationship. They have enough self-love that they are not tempted to control their beloved. They let them fly freely because they desire the same freedom for themselves. In such relationships, guilt simply does not exist.

you must love in such a way that the person you love feels free

I used to underestimate how much guilt was controlling my life. I left my parents’ home at a young age and made decisions in relationships, career, places to live and circles of friends and acquaintance independently of other people’s decisions. I felt I was immune to being controlled through guilt until my personal life journey brought me to experience the abomination of parental alienation, when your ow children, the flesh of your flesh, are used as weapons of war against you. The amount of guilt I experienced as a result was excruciating. My full body had become toxic from guilt, and I believe I would have gotten very sick as a result if mother Ayahuasca did not cross my path and help me heal. As a child, I suffered deeply from the separation of my parents and the way they handled it, so I made it a point that my children will never experience the same misfortune. Unfortunately, at the end, it may have been worse for them. I felt so utterly powerless to avoid what I was fearing the most. It took many hours of purging and sobbing with loving guidance of mother Ayahuasca to start feeling better again. When, years later, I was finally graced to reconnect with my son after years of absolutely useless court custody battle, a huge weight was lifted off my heart. It was such a liberation.

On a related topic, this is why judges in family court can be so easily manipulated by guilt. They have a difficult job as their decisions impact in critical and often tragic ways other human lives. They make their judgment with few and often erroneous or even manipulated information. Their intuition is often poor because they had to shut off emotionally to deal with the stress of their profession. As a result, they feel terrible about themselves despite the mask of authority they are trying to project. For 4 years, I kept losing court battle after court battle. While a good dad, I was treated like a criminal and my request to visit my own children was dismissed with prejudice. On top of it, I got a judgment against me for a large sum of money to pay to my ex wife’s parents to take care of my children while being prevented to see them! How did my ex wife achieve this? She was able to trigger the guilt of the judge by playing the victim while dropping that tear at the perfect moment in order to make me look like a monster. Family courts are typically pro women because women are generally more apt at manipulating and feigning victim control drama (men perform the same form of psychological manipulation though less frequently and effectively). Historically, men took power away from women and women had fewer opportunities, often related to marriage and child bearing. Women were left with only indirect ways to exercise control so had to develop more covert manipulative techniques to achieve their goals. So, to an extent, men are collectively paying karma for their own collective abuse of power.

While I mostly talk about the toxic form of guilt, guilt can also be healthy when we become aware of the harm we have caused others so that we may remedy it. In this sense, it is a form of empathy. While I made a distinction between guilt and shame, the unhealthy form of guilt is using personal shame as its foundation. We can be easily controlled through guilt because we believe there is something bad, dangerous or inadequate about us. This is often deep subconscious programming that originated from childhood trauma. Shame acts often as the necessary hook for toxic guilt to take control of us.

I exposed the Covid-19 plandemic early April 2020 as a political and not a sanitary crisis. The criminals that have orchestrated this scamdemic are successfully depriving ordinary citizens of their freedom through the power of toxic guilt. While there is no scientific evidence for the use of masks to prevent the spread of coronavirus as they are often compared to putting up a chain-link fence to stop mosquitoes. The coronavirus is 0.1 micrometer in diameter while the holes in woven cloth are visible to the naked eye and may be five to 200 micrometers in diameter. Still the whole world is now wearing masks. Why? Because of toxic guilty used at a massive scale by politicians and mainstream media. If you refuse to wear a mask, you are simply a selfish a**hole that only thinks about himself, you don’t care about the vulnerable and the elderly, and you are a murdered that does not deserve to live. If you dare to even question the usefulness of masks, you are just a bad person. At this time, people don’t even know why they are wearing a mask. They are just doing it because everyone else is doing it and they want to appear as a good person that cares about others while they are just actually facilitating the spread of fascist regimes all over the world. The mask farce was just a rehearsal for the upcoming vaccine that is meant to microchip (or rather nanochip) the whole population for total mind control while 5G networks allow for massive data transfer between citizens and big brother governments. In order to illustrate how people are attempting to control us through toxic guilt, I have gathered some responses from some of my Facebook postings challenging the mainstream narratives.

It always follows the same pattern «If you don’t do what I believe is right, you are a bad person that doesn’t care about others, you are selfish and inconsiderate». These guilt trips are just attempts for control. On my side, I respect the freewill of people that decide to wear a mask, stay in house arrest or get vaccinated for Covid-19 (i.e nanochipped). I have no interest in making them change their mind as I respect their ability to think and make decisions for themselves unlike the government that is treating us as irresponsible children and leaving us no choice. If their masks or vaccines were that effective, why are they are trying to impose them on us? Let me decide what is best for my health. I am choosing a good diet, plenty of exercises, a stress free life, contact with nature, sufficient rest and good relationships. They are choosing masks, vaccines, pharma drugs, lockdowns and plenty of mainstream news. Let’s actually see who will be healthier down the road. They act no differently than religious fanatics ready to impose their views and way of living by force. Similar than WWII, the collective suffering will have to get much worse before a majority of people will start waking up to the reality of what is really going on.

The mainstream media in the western world has never been so controlled since WWII in order to promote the dark agenda of the 1%, and guilt once again is their most effective weapon of control. Let me give you some examples with recent headlines and you will find that all media are now saturated with guilt inducing news to get people to comply. You may google each headline to access the original article. This is not journalism but fascist propaganda based on guilt.

Translation: it is wrong to satisfy your basic human need to celebrate and mingle with your loved ones. Just stay home, watch CNN, be afraid and comply without questioning

Translation: wearing a mask, a symbol of the loss of our freedom of speech and joy (we stop seeing each other smiles), makes you a good citizen that care about the life of others and your country. After all, we have called patriotic the systematic killing of our brothers and sisters since the beginning of times

Translation: forcing foreign (and probably toxic) agents into our body makes us good citizens. After all, our body is just government property

Translation: we are completely powerless as Covid strikes also on the young, healthy and successful. Forget about a healthy lifestyle to strengthen our immune system. Just follow government regulations

Translation: those who are preventing my access to power will be responsible for the death of many people

Translation: challenging government policies is synonymous of child abuse

Translation: partying is now a criminal activity

Translation: stay away from anyone challenging government narratives because they will destroy your life

One of my French relatives wanted to visit me in Central America. I warned him to hurry-up because the second European lockdown was imminent as it was obvious they will disguise our regular flu season into the second wave of Covid-19. He did not take me seriously until the government announced it. Still, he had 48 hours to escape France and I wrote to him specific instructions to make it happen. However he received a guilt trip from his mother that it was not responsible, safe and kind to leave on such short notice. As a result, while a grown-up man, he is now in house arrest with his mother for an undetermined amount of time. His personal vibration made him a match to this experience. What we are living at a collective level is simply mirroring our subconscious powerless and immature inner child. Our governments are behaving towards us like an overbearing, narcissistic, punishing and controlling mother. As long as we keep playing the role of scared, ignorant, insecure children ready to do anything to deserve mummy’s (i.e the state) love, we will continue to enable the instauration of fascist regimes all over the world. As I wrote previously, the narcissist cannot exist without its codependent counterpart so at the end, we get the leadership that we deserve.

Guilt can only thrive in the shadow of personal shame, ignorance and fear. Fortunately, they are based in illusion in the same way that light exposes darkness as immaterial. Combatting darkness will just make it stronger. The best attitude is to simply continue to live your life according your own values and stay our authentic self no matter what. Shadow can do its little dance however it will pass like everything else in our temporal world while our invincible human spirit remains. We are living through the great awakening but before we can shift to higher awareness, the human shadow has to come out and be expelled. The solution for powerlessness is autonomy, the remedy for fear is love, and the antidote for guilt is authentic self-love. This is what we are meant to learn collectively in the next 5 years.

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Using the Covid19 crisis to move from powerlessness to autonomy

April 25, 2020April 25, 2020 / vaillantgicqueau / 1 Comment

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While the whole world was in panic about the coronavirus, I wrote an article to show how the current Covid19 pandemic was used for global mind control, and that many of the measures implemented to fight the pandemic such as strict confinement and lock down were mostly counterproductive. We can be so easily manipulated when we act out of fear. It is just a matter of time that the truth will eventually come out. I am glad that many people are starting to see through the mass of disinformation and propaganda and that some of my views are becoming more mainstream.

As people wake-up, they are first in shock and feel powerless. However, many have asked me what they could do. This is a hopeful phase as we are now looking for solutions to wake-up from the nightmare of our reality. I would like to inspire people to take back their power into their own hands and stop relying on outside forces to take them away from our misery. There is so much we can actually do. It takes work, dedication and intelligence but it can be done. We are so much more powerful than we could ever imagine. It is just a matter of remembering who we truly are. This process of personal liberation is similar to emancipating ourselves from our own family structure. We actually elect governments that are the most similar to the collective experience of our primary caregivers. Generally speaking, the French have very caring, protective but controlling mothers so this is why we have a government with many social benefits but also that dictates every aspect of our lives. Confinement in France has been one of the strictest with the majority of the stores closed and requiring written authorization for leaving the house. In the USA, children are made to be independent and fend for themselves at an early age. It is a country of pioneers and self-made men & women. Despite the fact that the USA has the most fatality in the world, they will reopen business way before France. People in the USA want to be back to business and find again their independence, similar to their childhood experience. In order to leave our birth family to develop as a fully functional autonomous adult, we need to be able to see and accept the flaws of our parents, develop healthy boundaries with them and then dedicate tremendous energy towards creating a life that match our personal aspirations. We may continue to give back and engage or not with the birth family structure depending on how we feel about them. When we are a child, we are completely powerless to our parents. We need to rely on them for about everything. However, once we become adults, we have the power and the ability to change some of the negative programming that came from our upbringing. The same logic can be applied to society as a whole. It is not easy but definitely possible. We do not have to stay the victim of a dysfunctional society. We do not have to engage with its aspects that feel toxic, harmful and counterproductive. There is always a choice. Here is a roadmap for our emancipation.

Disillusionment, the first step towards autonomy

While there is so much to be appreciative in our society, there is also so much to be profoundly disappointed with. Over 70% of people understand the political system is rigged. This is just a puppet show to give people the illusion of democracy while real decisions are made behind closed doors by a few unknown to the public. While healthcare has considerably advanced and is doing miracles every day especially as regards life accidents, it is mostly ineffective or even harmful in the treatment of chronic, psychosomatic and mental health diseases. For a large part, the media should be really renamed propaganda as it is used for mind control rather than encouraging people to think for themselves by sharing actual facts. Our educational system makes our children learn many concepts and knowledge that will be mostly irrelevant to their future life, and some of the most important topics such as financial intelligence, parenting, the development of empathy, intimate relationships, personal development, the protection of the environment are simply not covered at all. From my own personal experience, the justice system should be renamed the injustice system as money and political connections are far more important than truth and justice in the court system. The mission of the police is to enforce the will of the state before protecting its citizens. The world’s richest 20 people have the same wealth as the bottom half 4 billion people on the planet. Two billion people live on less than $1 a day while we have spent over 2.4 trillion dollars on the useless Iraq war that was started on the false pretense of weapons of mass destruction. I am stopping here because I could go on forever. At the end, we have the institutions we deserve as a collective. As an ordinary human being, it is easy to feel powerless when confronted with society problems as a whole. We feel too small to make any impact so we comply and become enablers of the dysfunctions that revolted us in the first place.

What not to do!

There are other reasons other than a virus to force people into strict confinement. Before we can get people into abandoning their fundamental freedoms, accepting to be vaccinated, believing blindly the mainstream narratives, reporting on neighbors for not following the most ludicrous rules, we need to lower their vibration. The consumption of alcohol has skyrocketed since the lock down, people are watching TV significantly more, eating more unhealthy food, exercising less, and are limited to virtual social contact. They are losing their contact with nature which is so critical to bring them back to balance. The most toxic influence is however by far the news that people watch many hours every day. It amplifies people’s fears and paranoia so that people would accept any solution later proposed by the media such as a high-tech vaccine. Human psychology has proven that if the same lies are repeated over and over again, people will accept them as truth through the power of repetition. Actually, the bigger the lie, the better it works! Humanity is currently at a crossroad. We either get deeper into the matrix or we awaken. There will be nothing in the middle. While the first option of dependency takes no effort, significant effort and awareness are required to succeed our escape. We need to become like the salmon swimming upstream the rivers to develop autonomy. “You should wear a mask” is a metaphor to abandoning willingly the first amendment, basically our freedom of speech as our voice is now made inaudible by a mask. All leisure activities (beach, mountains, sports) have come brutally to a stop as there are the privilege of the free. Look no further, you are under house arrest.

There is hope however because we live in quantic universe!

“As above, so below” is an aphorism from advanced spiritual teachings. It tells us that we are all connected, that the drop in the ocean can affect the whole ocean. In chaos theory, the Butterfly Effect teaches us that a butterfly flapping its wings in New Mexico can cause a hurricane in China. It may take a very long time, but the connection is real. The reality is that we do not need to change the world, we just need to change ourselves and strive for happiness. And paradoxically, this is in essence the fastest way to change the world. Epictetus, the philosopher that founded stoicism, realized that there are things we control, and things we don’t control. In order to become happy, we should focus on the things we control, and accept the rest as it happens. We cannot change what already is, but we can choose what to do with the given circumstances. There were times in my life where the whole world was mostly doing good, but I faced personal hardships such as divorce, parental alienation or health issues. There were other times when the whole world was depressed such as now however everything in my life would feel great with a beautiful intimate relationship, a fulfilling career and business success. Which experience do you think I preferred? We have the power of creating our own reality independently of the collective reality of the world. I would like to inspire all of us to focus on the aspects in our life where we feel we have some level of control. This may be very little at first, but the more we educate ourselves, train our will and learn from our life experiences, the more positive impact we will have in our life and with the people around us. I have walked this path and it works! Everything I am about to share with you comes from my own life experience. One of my meditation teachers used to tell me “you cannot win the game but you can exit the game”. In the same way, we cannot fix the matrix but we can escape it. I am now going to give you simple (but not necessarily easy) steps to get there. The key is to develop autonomy within ourselves as all forms of control are built upon dependency.

Body-related autonomy

Health is the foundation of our existence. If we don’t have our health, we don’t have anything so it is critical we invest time and energy every day to take care of our physical body, which is the temple of our soul. The easiest way to take control back of our life is by training our body. What we do with our body is tangible and it is harder to make up stories. You either work out or you don’t. You eat healthy or you don’t. You take time to rest or you don’t. There is limited space for ambiguity or subjective interpretation for anything related to our physical body.

Physical strength exercises

Physical exercises not only reinforce our immune system but they improve our emotional state, boost our self-esteem and personal motivation. We don’t need to go to the gym, pay any membership, get a personal trainer, take any food supplements, drive anywhere to practice an easy-to-follow and powerful exercise program. We can become incredibly strong by following exercises that only use the weight of our own body. This is the principle of calisthenics. I recommend to any beginner on the topic to read “Convict Conditioning” by Paul Wade who developed a program to achieve superhuman strength. If Paul was able to do it within the confines of most guarded penitentiaries in the USA then we can do it too from the confines of our home. This exercise program is completely free. You just pay with your own efforts. Chris Heria is a calisthenics YouTube star who offers many valuable exercises too. An intense 20 minutes a day, 5 days a week program is all you need.

Breathing exercises and cold training

The Wim Hof method is known to boost our immune system, increase our energy level and help us reach peak states of performance.

Diet

A plant based diet decreases inflammation in the body. Limiting food intake to one meal a day will save you time, money while increasing your energy level and helping you reach your ideal weight. Performing your physical exercises at the end of your daily fast will increase your internal production of growth hormones tenfold, making you feel younger with more vitality. Fasting can do you more good than any medication treatment as this is the natural way to detoxify the body. Drink water that you purify using an advanced filter and natural juices. Eat a large variety food that is alive, and lots of fruits and vegetables. You will also save money this way.

Breatharianism

Thousands of people are able to live on this planet without any intake of solid food. We call them breatharians. The best documentary on the topic is “In the beginning, there was light”. While it sounds impossible, I have changed my opinion on the subject after doing 22 days drinking only water under the supervision of a breatharian who had not eaten for 7 years.

As extraordinary as it may seem, it appears that the human body has the capability to increase its frequency to perform at very high level with only air, water and a dedicated spiritual practice. This is one of the highest levels of autonomy to achieve. I will soon write a blog about it as this is a fascinating topic.

Change your mind, change your life

The self-improvement and personal development fields have millions of books to help you upgrade your thinking to improve your life. Here are some examples of the current mainstream powerless thoughts that keep people to lower levels of existence and what could be the empowered form of these thoughts

“There is a dangerous virus out there that strikes randomly and could kill me and my family. We are at war against an invisible enemy.” to “Viruses are our friends. They create conditions to boost my immune system to catalyze my healing. As long as I have a strong immune system, no virus can affect my health negatively”

“I rely on my doctor and my medication when I get sick” to “I am responsible for my own health. Unless there is an emergency, I avoid all medication as I understand that good healthy food is the best medicine. I commit to body awareness to become my own personal doctor”

“I feel empty and worthless without my job” to “I don’t need a job. I can create my own job by creating a business that best leverages my talents, ability and creativity”

“The state, my government and the experts know better what is good for me. I just need to follow their instructions and everything will be all right” to “No one cares more about my personal well-being than myself. I make my own decisions after carefully listening to many viewpoints because I understand I will be the one bearing the consequences for my actions not the people with their good opinions”

“I know there is something wrong but it is better I shut up as I could get hurt by the people in power, or at the very least criticized and judged by my family and friends.” to “I need to speak out and act when something is wrong otherwise I am an enabler and a passive participant to society’s dysfunctions”

Taking control of our mind includes taking full responsibility for our life and dismiss all narratives that support powerlessness. What we believe have enormous impact on our life. We have everything within ourselves and we are powerful creators. Similar to the body, the mind is a good servant but a poor master. Let’s use it to our advantage.

The quality of my life is first the quality of my relationships

I have a Russian friend who was born in Argentina. After the military coup in Argentina, the authorities started looking for him as he voiced his opposition to this brutal regime. He managed to stay alive as some of his friends risked their lives by hiding him until he was able to emigrate to the United States. Through that experience, he learned that relationships and the kindness of others were much more important than money. Actually, considering our current national debt and 12 years of quantitative easing, hyperinflation seems more and more likely. In this situation, similar to what happened to Germany in the 1930s, paper money would become worthless, and relationships & communities would become the only way to meet our basic needs. Helping others is critical for self-love. The most people we help, the more goodwill we get even if the acts of kindness may not come from the same people we have helped. It builds positive karma. The reverse is also true, as we are all connected in this quantic universe. We are the drops of the ocean which are the ocean too. What goes around comes around.

When I enter a relationship, I start by giving hoping to inspire the other person for some reciprocity. If it is not there, I do not insist and keep searching for more fulfilling and reciprocal relationships. We want to create relationships that are heart-centered rather than transactional. We do not create expectations that put the other person in a box. Once we have autonomy, we would rather be alone than being with toxic people. Actually, from this space, we can attract many amazing relationships as we are not dependent upon relationship for our core happiness. External loving relationships are simply the effortless reflection of our own self-love.

Emotional alignment is critical to our physical well-being. From my experience, most diseases have an emotional component. This is why it is so critical to embrace and express consciously all of our emotions, especially the negative ones. Free flowing emotions are critical to a strong immune system. This is why children generally don’t have chronic diseases.

The politics of confinement and social distancing have been extremely damaging to people’s mental health. It has increased even further the isolation that was already so rampant in our disconnected society. I am convinced that social distancing is creating more damage than benefits. I predict a massive climb in depressions, suicides, PTSD and stress-related diseases. As we face together this difficult crisis, we need more social closeness, not social distancing! Of course, the more disconnected we are from one another, the easier it is to control us. So the policy of social distancing may have a political agenda. Touch is important to us. We need to shake hands, to hug and kiss to show our affection to each other. This is an important part of being human. And I will continue to show these external signs of warmth and tenderness to anyone who is comfortable with it.

Autonomy with money

Lower your spending

When I lived in Silicon Valley, I used to make a lot of money but spent even more! I was fully in the rat race working 6 days a week, on average 11 hours a day, never having enough time for my family, friends and personal hobbies. Actually, there is a lot of places in the world where we can live on very little money. The key in developing financial autonomy is first to reduce our spending. A lot of fun and fulfilling activities do not require any money. We can cut the expenses on many things that are not good for us (expensive meat dishes, liquors, cigarettes, video games, gambling, porn, …). Some of the best things in life are mostly free: being in nature, quality time with friends or a lover (hopefully!), physical exercises, listening to music, meditation and introspection, or watching interesting videos. If you have the financial means, it is fine to spend money on the things that you love but make sure they are good for you too. If you are able to lower your spending, you will have less financial stress in your life and it will be easier to survive the most difficult financial crises.

Financial dependency doesn’t feel good

Many leaders such as Pope Francis are now talking to implement a universal basic wage. While this is a lovely idea to help people through hard times, it has some important negative repercussions. Personal freedom comes from autonomy, but control comes with dependency. If you rely on the state for survival whether it is through a universal basic wage or disability, then you are not going to take the risk to challenge the mainstream narrative. The state owns you as it gives you money to survive. Additionally, it feels horrible for our self-esteem to rely on the state. It makes us feel incompetent, useless and a burden to society. Being an employee is better. However an employee will feel restricted in his freedom of speech. An employee will be too afraid to be judged by colleagues and management so employees will follow the mainstream narratives to ensure job security. Instead, we need to learn to make our own money through entrepreneurship if we are truly committed to autonomy. Except for some rare professions, the working class has gotten poorer and poorer over the last 30 years. The median salary in France which is considered a rich and developed country is 1800 euros/month or less than $2,000/month. Considering the cost of living in France, it means the average French household needs to keep a very tight budget to make ends meet. Over the last 30 years, salaries for the most part have increased marginally in developed countries while the cost of living has increased drastically. Being an employee is becoming less and less attractive every year.

Entrepreneurship

Becoming an entrepreneur is difficult. It requires creativity, hard-work, perseverance and excellent interpersonal skills. However, it is well worth it. It is a great feeling to own a business, we grow tremendously through this process and there is a great sense of accomplishment that comes with it. This is one of the best way to unleash our full potential and to do something really satisfying. As an entrepreneur, we focus on creating value on the market instead of pleasing a subjective boss. When we own a business, there is no more need to compartment our personal and professional lives. Both can now be integrated so that we can stay the same authentic person whether we are at home or at the office. There are so many ways of becoming an entrepreneur and I believe in taking a step-by-step low-risk approach. Using my personal experience of building 5 companies from the ground up, I have helped many entrepreneurs over the years to succeed and avoid the most common pitfalls. Once the shutdown is over, it is going to be very important to help all the small businesses that are now on the verge of bankruptcy because of the imposed confinement. Rather than buying through mega corporations, it is critical we buy from local businesses even if it is going to be a bit more expensive. The local restaurants, hotels, AirBnBs, the farmers’ markets, coffee shops, local banks and credit unions, retail shops, therapists or anyone offering personal service are going to need our help. We need to make the commitment to help small businesses. By doing so, we are helping the 99% to strive. This financial autonomy will help people reclaim their power and not give up on their freedom of speech. Let’s spend money on the people we know when possible or at the very least on our extended community. It is time to go small and buy from people we can have a personal relationship with. We need to make every effort that our money goes back to hard-working families instead of pension funds that own large corporations that in turn control politicians who control us.

Only invest in things you can control!

I stopped investing in the stock market many years ago. It is nothing else than a gigantic casino where our hard earned money can disappear overnight without any control. In 2000, I started playing with stocks. I used about $20,000 of savings to speculate during the dot.com euphoria. I got my portfolio to over $100,000 until it all crashed and I was left with only $1,000 or 1% of my peak value! In the USA, we need to set-up our own retirement fund called a 401(k) or an IRA. They automatically make you invest in the stock market. There are ways to avoid investing in the stock market. You can request to keep your 401(k) contributions to a money market account, and then roll it out into a self-directed IRA. You can then buy real estate, gold, land, company shares or make promissory notes with your self-directed account. All of this is tax free. When there is a will, there is a way. Real estate offers a much higher level of control than an investment in the stock market will ever give us. We can live in our real estate, choose the location, remodel it to our taste, rent it long-term or short-term with AirBnB, adjust prices to increase occupancy, hire or fire property managers and cleaning personnel. It also offers protection against inflation, many tax benefits and potentially some cash-flow for retirement. We may also invest in a small business where we have an operational role, or make a loan that has some guaranteed collateral. From my perspective, jewelry or art are a better investment than stocks because you can at least enjoy them even if you may not make a profit. Also, when you invest in the stock market, you are likely to benefit the 1% not the 99%.

Monetary strategy

The dollar is king as it is used for most trading exchanges in the world, and its value is based on the subjective belief in the US government’s promises, in the stability of the US government, monetary supply and its military power. This is why a dollar collapse is not out of the question. The euro is the second most common currency far behind the dollar. Nations have been printing an enormous quantity of money since 2008 and the current crisis is making things worse. Most nations carry vast unsustainable debt. This combination is making hyper-inflation more and more likely in the years to come. Over the century, gold has been used as a collateral for currencies. Actually, the USA followed the Gold Standard until 1971. As a rule of thumb, gold is a good protection against inflation. Over the past several years, many cryptocurrencies have emerged. They offer advantage over traditional currencies such as privacy and limited inventory like gold. They are however highly speculative and the powers in place could easily shut them down if they feel threatened by them. The most famous cryptocurrency is bitcoin. Considering the current global instability, I would recommend a diversification strategy of holding US dollars, euros, gold and some cryptocurrencies for those who can afford it. A low locked interest rate for your real estate loans is also a good protection against hyperinflation in the long-run.

Start influencing politics rather than being controlled by politics

I don’t do politics, because it gives the false illusion of control. From my perspective, believing in politics is indicative to the utter powerlessness of the collective consciousness. Most countries have a two party system and at the end, it is typically the same politics whether you vote right or left. Politicians are however driven to get elected so will follow what the majority wants. Unfortunately, the majority is controlled by the media or Hollywood which controls the information. This means the elections are rigged unless people take back control of the flow of information and this is possible through social media. Trump got elected because he had a team that follows all the trends happening on social media and he kept appealing to them with a language that resonates with them. I called on civil disobedience to break strict confinement on April 7th before anyone at a time it was highly unpopular. Two weeks later, civil protests to break strict confinement have now become a trend that is even endorsed by POTUS. You can be an influencer without belonging to any political party. Many people have labelled me far right for this reason. I keep myself independent of any political party and I vote on a topic by topic basis rather than through a party line. Politicians are supposed to be civil servants and this is why we elect them. Let’s reclaim our power and let’s express our opinions openly and clearly so that they may have more incentives to listen to us rather than the lobbies financing their political campaigns. Let’s keep our politicians accountable for their actions. From my perspective, it is a scandal that Dick Cheney and George W. Bush were never put on trial for their invasion of Iraq under false pretense. Let’s not hesitate to apply non violent civil disobedience when our governments take measures against our fundamental rights. It is high time we brought a new generation of politicians that will serve the 99% rather than the 1%.

Meditation

Meditation is the act of inner listening, reconnecting to our core and centering into our heart. Meditation allows us to connect to higher truth through intuition, and perceive manipulation when it occurs. It is completely free. This is why meditation is a key to personal autonomy. It helps us raise above fear and control. It connects us back to our eternal and invincible spirit. It shields us from the mainstream media as it allows us to live from within rather than becoming a robot programmed from outside influences. Through meditation, we acquire self-knowledge and we cease to be so easily controlled. Meditation allows us to know the truth at an intuitive level without imposing it onto others. Only insecure people try to impose their subjective truth on others. Many of the GANP (“Good and Normal People”) try to impose their views on others to validate their limited beliefs because they are so disconnected from their core. As a result, they cannot feel what is actually true and good for them. They need to rely on external influences to guide their lives.

Choose a country that is in alignment with your values

The world is a big place and it offers many cultures and different ways of being. For example, Nicaragua has refused any lock-down because of the coronavirus. So if we wished to continue living normally, we had the option to move to Nicaragua before strict confinement was put in place. Practically speaking, an expatriation takes a long time and all the preparations have to be done far in advance of any crisis. For those who can afford it, it is best to have citizenship or residency in several very different countries and know the language in each one to have options in case of a global crisis like the one we are facing today. This takes a lot of efforts but it can be well worth it especially in case of a global conflict. The Jews who anticipated the rise of the Nazi state and emigrated early to the United States got their lives saved. Unfortunately, a war is not out of the question. Over the past century, the elites have been using wars to boost the economy as a way to get even richer, often financing both sides of the conflict. A war brings a vast amount of destruction which creates the need for reconstruction, and the people or organizations that are able to finance it can make enormous profit. Wars create extreme situations that allow to push political agendas that would not be possible otherwise. When people are afraid for their survival and their safety, they are ready to accept many conditions that would be otherwise unacceptable. This is why our politicians keep using these terms: war on drugs, war on terror or war on the invisible enemy. However, people want peace not war as it destroys everything they cherish the most in their lives. Why do you think the first consequence of this crisis was border closure? This measure prevents us from moving to a country with more freedom if we are dissatisfied with our government.

Stop looking for a guru or savior. Become your own master

Many of us do not love ourselves enough to see the light from within so we have a tendency to put other people on a pedestal whether it is a singer, a politician or a spiritual teacher. This is natural and there are some positive aspects in doing this. Admiring someone will help us to learn from them, and bring focus on the inner qualities that we have projected outside. Actually, when we are really fond of someone, it is an indication that we need to manifest within ourselves the qualities that we see in them. However, if we content ourselves from the external projection, we dis-empower ourselves, and we just create even more dependency. My last wife is a YouTube star. I got to meet so many people obsessed with her. Some would tattoo their bodies with her name, many would despair from months even stop eating waiting from a message from her, others would max out their credit cards to attend one of her private workshops, and many people from her own community would cut themselves from any personal relationship or activity to have a chance to keep living with her. This is not healthy. We are all made of light and shadow so when we get obsessed with someone, we bring focus not only on their qualities but also on their flaws. This is why discrimination is so important. Some influencers may be exceptional in some areas of their lives but be a complete mess in other areas.

The new civil disobedience is about keeping living your life freely!

Mahatma Gandhi led his country into freedom through nonviolent resistance. Through his actions, he changed the face of political protest and freed his country from colonialism. However, the world has changed and we need to bring a new form of non violent resistance that takes into consideration that the majority of people are very much influenced by mainstream media and are very fearful in challenging any form of authority. The yellow vest movement in France failed because it was infiltrated by looters and marginalized as a threat to public safety. The best form of civil disobedience is to keep living our lives fully according our values and the fire that are within our heart. Let’s ignore social distancing and keep hugging and kissing the friends with the people that are comfortable with it (we will never impose our beliefs on others). Touch is such a big part of being human. Let’s not wear masks but have empathy for people that believe they need to wear them. Let’s keep going to beautiful places of nature, and avoid getting caught. Let’s support any initiative that support people’s recovery of their fundamental freedom without being politicized. Let’s find ways to keep practicing our favorite sports. And if we are caught and get a fine, let’s use the law to contest these fines. Let’s continue to connect with each other in person. If restaurants are closed, let’s cook for one another. Let’s continue to make love and live life to the fullest. Let’s continue to strive to become the best version of ourselves independently of the powers in place that want to make us small. Let’s keep being creative, learning and growing. Let’s live fearlessly and humbly at the same time. Let’s keep expressing what we know to be our truth without imposing it on others.

The ultimate goal is true and genuine self-love, which is synonymous with awakening. Let’s learn to love consciously and see the love that we project outside as the beautiful reflection of the love that lies within your heart. Bill Gates is not going to save you with his vaccines. Donald Trump is not going to save you from the NWO. Joe Biden is not going to save you from Trump. Christ is not going to come back to save you. BUT YOU WILL. It is all in your hands once you remember your true nature and how powerful you actually are.

Mind Control and the Current Times

April 5, 2020April 22, 2020 / vaillantgicqueau / 6 Comments

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This blog was inspired by some harsh comments I received on Facebook. Though I understand that people are afraid of the exponential growth of the pandemic, I made a point that the mortality rate of Covid-19 was still way under the flu, cancer, car accidents, suicides, addictions, cancer or hunger mortality rates. This data can be easily verified.

An individual who is a competent professional, a family man and highly regarded in his community called my post stupid and reckless. When I disagree with someone, either I ignore them because I see there is no point in convincing someone who has already made up his mind or I attempt to have a rational dialog with them but I do not belittle them. Amendment 1 of the US constitution is freedom of speech. So why are the so-called “good and normal people” (GANP) becoming so hysterical and zealously trying to get everyone to conform to their opinion? Another GANP was calling murderers a couple that simply went hiking to the mountains while everyone knows that nature and physical exercise are excellent for the immune system. While I commented “Live and let live”, she started insulting me, removed my comment, and unfriended me on facebook. Will people who do not blindly follow the current mass hysteria be soon judged for voluntary homicide? What is fascinating is that the worst enforcement is not done by corrupt governments but by the GANP, all these hard-working people with “good reputation”, families and jobs. The GANP are actually enablers of most of the society’s dysfunctions as they carry mindlessly instructions that often come from a corrupt elite. To be able to understand this apparent contradiction, let’s dive deeper into mind control.

First, we have seen this before. After the shock of 9/11, the media were brainwashing us all day long that Saddam Hussein had weapons of mass destruction and we had to invade Iraq and remove him from power to guarantee the safety of good Americans. To frighten us even more, they added all the Anthrax attacks. Incidentally, anthrax was a biological weapon created by Russians in a lab back in the 1970s. In 2003, people who did not fall for the official narrative were called anti-patriotic. France opposed the USA at the United Nations to invade Irak so the Bush administration decided to rename French fries Freedom fries as retaliation 🙂 I had some French friends who lived in Texas who got their house covered with graffiti by patriotic GANP. Since, it has been well documented that the Bush administration lied to the American public to invade Irak in order to control their oil resources. However in 2015, still half of Republicans believed that Saddam Hussein had weapons of mass destruction. Politicians understand that perception is reality rather than truth, and this is why most media are controlled in order to disseminate propaganda to serve their agenda. In the run-up to the Iraq War, Halliburton was awarded a $7 billion contract for which only Halliburton was allowed to bid, the company that Dick Cheney received a $36 million severance package from when he became George W Bush Jr Vice President in 2000. Countless lives and 2.4 trillions dollars of taxpayers’ money were lost on this war, but the people responsible for this disaster continue to be covered with distinctions and honors instead of being put on trial for crimes against humanity.

My own life experience makes me qualified to speak about the subject of mind control. My parents had severe attachment traumas. My father was basically an orphan for the first 10 years of his life and my mother was raised in the foster child system. As a result, I lacked belonging. This made me a match to joining a cult when I was 20-year-old for 3 years. When I was 26, I became involved with a woman with a tight family structure that functioned in many ways like a small cult. I was too busy at work to pay attention to what was really happening as I was compensating my lack of self-love by providing them with the status they needed to compensate for their own self-hatred. But when the separation occurred after 15 years together, they alienated me against my own children, which was by far the most difficult hardship I had to integrate in my life. Parental alienation is one of the worst forms of mind control as it puts hatred where there should be unconditional love. When I turned 42, I lived a passionate love story and got married with a very popular New Age guru who was raised in some of the most malevolent, sophisticated and powerful cults of the world. Many people are viewing her as a dangerous cult leader too however the reality is far more complex. All of this made me a mind control survivor.

Through these experiences, I got to understand that people’s truth is quite subjective. While objective truths exist, they are mostly not accessible to the common man. The fact is that men and women will just consider truth what the people they love or respect consider truthful. Truth is therefore based on the social link so, by essence, it is completely subjective. I got to observe this when I was in the Fellowship of Friends (FOF) in my early twenties. Actually, many people who were in the cult were remarkably intelligent and had high IQ. There were many entrepreneurs, business owners, artists or professionals. Despite the fact that many of us were quite intelligent, we would blindly follow and believe the absurdities of the guru Robert Earl Burton (REB) whose sexual, financial and emotional abuse have now been fully exposed. So what type of idiocies would we believe? That he was more conscious than Jesus Christ, that he was best buddy with Leonardo Da Vinci (this is why we often left an empty seat next to REB), that he would have sex with members to awaken them, that we were the chosen ones to survive humanity downfall and repopulate the earth, etc… Actually, and this is a fact well-known among mind control experts, intelligent people are often easier to manipulate because they have a bigger ego, are more disconnected and less grounded. They are head-centered rather than heart-centered, and can easily let go of common sense when confronted with dogma.

I got to observe that effective mind control always happens with the same several steps:

Create the bond
Repetition
Isolation
Punition & Reward

Let me show you how this 4 step process works with examples extracted from my life experience.

In FOF, the bond was created by making connections with people who felt initially remarkably open-minded, warm, supportive and intelligent. At first, it felt like the family I never had so it fulfilled my deep desire for belonging. Then the same dogma, beliefs would be constantly spread by the members. Isolation was then created by boosting our ego (we are better than other people as we are the chosen ones) or by adopting a language or a set of beliefs that is not compatible with regular people. Once we were committed to the cult and more disconnected to the outside world, then more pressure could be applied. Good zealous members following mindlessly the corrupt leadership would be rewarded while anyone challenging the current power structure would receive fines or face ostracization. As most cults, FOF strictly forbad contact with former members so leaving the cult meant starting a life from scratch and losing all your friends and connections overnight. This is how most cults retain their members as belonging is such a strong need for all of us, and when the connection with the birth family is weak, it means facing complete loneliness.

With the mother of my children, the bond was created by a romantic relationship and the unhealthy love dynamic between codependent and narcissistic people. The repetition and brainwashing was mostly done by my mother-in-law who kept repeating how great and loving her family was, how they were the only good grandparents, the only ones who cared about us and our children, how their daughter was the best and how I was lost before I found her and her family, etc… Of course, at the same time, she would not mention all the family skeletons that hid in the closet. My parents were first alienated as deemed unworthy as she wanted to be the only grandmother by eliminating competing grandparents. She praised narcissistic love as the only true love. If I were to challenge the narrative, I would subject myself to endless arguments and wrath. Though I took care financially of them for many years and improved their lives in so many ways, when their daughter and I mutually decided to split, I was shun by the whole family. Their daughter then rewrote the narrative that I had abandoned her to play the victim and win the children over that would be used as weapons of war against me.

For my children, the bond was created naturally by birth. They were subjected by the same constant brainwashing of my mother-in-law. They were groomed to relate to only specific people from the community however this can only go so far as children who go to school will meet people from all walks of life. The consequence of deviating from the family line was shown clearly to them by making an example with their own father: complete abandonment, constant criticism, relentless attacks and harassment. It was made clear to them that they would not want to follow my footsteps.

My last wife’s cult abuser pretended to be her real father to create this bond and it took her years of therapy before realizing he had been lying to her all along. She was made to attend some of the most horrendous rituals where the cult’s dogma would be reinforced. If she started to attach to anyone outside the cult like a boyfriend, there would face unbearable consequences such as the killing of her dog. Her cult trainer would also ensure that she felt disconnected from her brother and parents. Also, disobeying the satanic cult was out of the question as she was frequently exposed to torture, gore or even death that resulted from deviating cult orders.

While she had done amazing considering her horrific background, she was not completely healed and fell at times for the same manipulative techniques that she suffered as a child. It is a principle that the suffering that is not integrated gets passed on. The bond was naturally created by a powerful passionate love story between both of us. As a prolific writer and a very intelligent woman who had to be always right, she would need to control the narrative. Her community composed of codependent people with limited life experience and cut off from their own family would also mindlessly repeat everything that she was saying. People with different ideas would be cut off and pushed away. They would lose connection with her and her followers while she kept repeating in her teaching that connection was the most important thing in the world. After we divorced, when I came back to the Costa Rica retreat center that I had founded to pick-up my belongings, I had a zealous community member treat me like a criminal. And this was the very same member I had invited to our wedding two years prior and gave personally an opportunity to join our community.

What we are witnessing now with Covid-19 is mind-control at a massive, global scale. The bond is created by the fact that we are a social species, the respect we have for authority, experts, science and our dependence on the media. I was in France when I witnessed the transition from normal everyday life to total confinement in just 3 weeks. First, the media started speaking about the coronavirus non-stop to instill fear and prepare public opinion for compliance on the orders to come. All people with a different opinion from mainstream media would then be isolated, ridiculed, or marginalized as conspiracy theorists or even criminals endangering public health. Social contact became prohibited on the basis of safety. People disobeying the confinement would be fined 135 euros ($150) while repeated offenders could go to jail. The worst punishment is however the aggressive judgment aggressively from the GANP.

Most people are educated and rewarded to become good executants, soldiers and workers but not to think for themselves. Independent thinking is more and more scarce in a society where we are constantly flooded with new information. We are made to believe that we are free from dogma and live in a democracy as we have supposedly left behind religion and dictatorship to the benefit of science and reason, however in many ways, science has become the new cult. People blindly believe what is coming supposedly from science without verifying with a critical mind the hypotheses, mental processes and conclusions. Science has many interesting theories, but these theories need to be challenged. This is the principle of taking a scientific approach to a problem. If we just trust science blindly just because it comes from scientific experts with impressive degrees, then we are following the same pattern of a cult. I had 2 master degrees by age 22 and I have one of the best engineering diplomas from France so people cannot dismiss me on the basis of poor scientific education. Instead, the GANP are expressing their disappointment with me for not following mainstream beliefs considering my respected scientific background.

Actually, it is very hard to know the truth when we are just fed information that we cannot verify and this is why we are so easily manipulated. As you can see, I had to survive extreme mind control environments in my life. As a result, I created my own methods to assess the truth or more accurately my truth as unlike the GANP, I have no plan to impose my limited beliefs on others. The thoughts I express here are mine and I just hope this sharing will encourage others to think for themselves, and look for their own truth. Self-reliance, inner strength and resilience have come to me as part of this process. I will now apply the same principles of independent thinking to the current pandemic and share with you my personal insights.

First, I want to trust that I have directly experienced with my senses that include sight, feeling, intuition, hearing, touch, personal wisdom, cognitive abilities rather than information from a third party. Of course, it can be argued that we are subjective and this is why I will never impose my views on others. However, I know this direct experience is always the highest truth I have access to.

I am a social person and I know a huge number of people at a personal level. To this day, I do not have a single first degree connection affected by Covid-19. I had a friend who had a bad flu for a couple of weeks after a break-up. Things continued to get worse and she ended up in the hospital. She was tested for Covid-19 and the result came back negative but she was diagnosed with pneumonia. My 78-year-old French father has been sick for several weeks too. He asked to be tested and he was denied the test because they had a limited number of tests and would rather use them on younger people. One of my close friends in Utah had a bad flu for a couple of days but did not have the money to be tested or see a doctor and he recovered within a few days. But, so far, none of the people I know personally have been tested positive for Covid-19. However I have met a few people who knew personally some people who have been tested positive. A friend’s family member that was over 80 year old supposedly died from coronavirus in Louisiana with 2 other people in a nursing home. So in truth, I know very little at a personal level about this disease and it has had no direct impact on me and my loved ones. However, it has already had dramatic indirect impact: loss of social contact, loss of revenue, diminished assets, confinement, inability to travel, cancelled events, removal of civil liberties, etc… So from my own little world, Covid-19 is mostly simply an abstract concept that dramatically affected my life due to the decisions people made about it or more precisely the fear of it. In truth, I cannot disprove it is a hoax in complete certainty and I cannot disprove the opposite as well. I have no direct experience with it, only what I have read about it. So I am keeping an open-mind about it until I have direct experience such as contracting the disease myself. I have taken no additional precautions over the past months besides keeping a healthy lifestyle while I have continued to be in contact with a large variety of people.

If I cannot have a direct experience with the subject, I do facts checking and try to rely on my cognitive abilities. To me, it is far as reliable but this is the best I can do given the circumstances. However, with the absence of direct experience, I take everything with a grain of salt and in terms of probabilities. In a nutshell, here is what I can assert so far with a 80% probability:

There is an infectious respiratory disease called Covid-19 and it was reported that it has killed over 60,000 people worldwide. It is more contagious and more fatal than the flu. People are concerned about the exponential growth of the disease. So far, Covid19 shows a mortality rate about 10 times higher than the flu
Covid-19 severe cases are concentrated with people who have a compromised immune system. 99% of healthy people that get the coronavirus heal relatively quickly from it. The mortality rate of people infected with Covid19 with no pre-existing conditions is less than 1%
A number of personalities have died of the coronavirus. Almost all of them were old and suffering with other serious diseases
There is confusion in the numbers as it appears people are included in Covid19 mortality number even if they die from something else as long as they tested positive for the virus. The amount of flu or pneumonia related death dropped significantly during the same period of time which would indicate some bias
There are a number of different theories about the origin of the virus. Some argue it came from animals and others from a biological weapon lab in Wuhan (whether intentionally or accidentally)
It was reported that the healthcare system of most countries affected is saturated due to the rapid growth of the disease. It can be noted however that many countries’ hospitals were already overwhelmed and under-resourced before the pandemic. Citizen reporters are sharing with us on the opposite movie clips of empty hospitals. Unless I visit one of these hospitals myself, I have to acknowledge that I really do not know how this pandemic has affected healthcare systems across the globe
Chloroquine has been portrayed as a viable effective treatment when combined with antibiotics in the early stage of the development of the disease. The mayor of Nice Christian Estrosi and other public figures who underwent the treatment had a rapid recovery.

There are however a number of decisions that authorities have taken very rapidly that I am taking the liberty to challenge.

Is the extreme confinement that has been ordered in Italy, Spain and France really effective?

The facts would actually show the opposite.

Countries such as Italy, Spain and France with the most confinement continue to have the highest mortality rates. I understand that people would argue anyway that things would be much worse without confinement. In any case, I would like to see better and not worse outcomes in this case. Sweden and Japan are not enforcing confinement and are doing much better than the countries above
One of the most highly respected experts in respiratory disease Dr Raoult is arguing for another method. He is advocating to perform testing at a massive scale and only isolating the people who are vulnerable and the ones who are tested positive. He is also recommending reducing the time these people are contagious through a medical treatment. South Korea which has taken this approach shows mortality rates 100 times lower than the countries mentioned above
Confinement leads to social isolation, depression, idleness, financial stress, lack of physical exercise and contact with nature which we know weaken the immune system and actually make people more vulnerable to the virus. Dr Bruce Lipton speaks brilliantly about this
Social distancing and masks are not that effective against the propagation of the virus
Social distancing is creating a society where we are even more disconnected from each other which negatively impacts our immune system. People are now unable to attend spiritual service, entertainment or social events. While I understand the logic behind social distancing, it comes with a high cost to our emotional health
Professor Knut Wittkowski, a respected epidemiologist with 35 years experience, feels strongly that confinement is counter productive, and goes against what mainstream media and our politicians have been advocating. As he says, he is not paid by the government and believes in science rather than propaganda. By keeping our children home, we are preventing herd immunity so we are exposing ourselves to a second wave of the coronovirus in the fall. He states that this pandemic is not that very different that flu pandemics we get on a yearly basis

We have had much worse pandemics in the past.

The Black Death was the first major European outbreak of plague and the second plague pandemic. The Black Death is estimated to have killed 30% to 60% of Europe’s population. In total, the plague may have reduced the world’s population from an estimated 475 million to 350–375 million in the 14th century. The influenza pandemic of 1918-1919 killed more people than the Great War, known today as World War I (WWI), at somewhere between 20 and 40 million people while the population at that time was estimated at 1.8 billion. If Covid19 creates as much damage as the Spanish flu with our current world population, it means that the coronavirus should kill about 150 million people. We have got over 60,000 deaths (about 0.03% of the corresponding deaths of the Spanish flu) so far with Covid19 and even if the disease continues to spread exponentially, it is hard to believe we will even come close to the 1918 influenza pandemic numbers fortunately!

Let’s now examine some so-called conspiracy theories that are circulating over the Internet. I recommend taking a closer look at David Icke’s materials for the people who are interested in diving deeper into the topic as he has done some very extensive research in the last 30 years.

Is 5G linked in any way with Covid19?

Many people have suggested that there are higher concentrations of Covid19 cases in areas where 5G has been deployed. While this could very well be a coincidence, I am well aware of the fact that governments’ secret programs have developed very sophisticated mind control technology through electromagnetic waves over the past 50 years, one of them being HAARP. Most of the results of this research have been kept hidden from the public. I researched this topic while I was married to an individual who had been subjected to the most brutal mind control technologies as a child. A human being is nothing else than a complex electromagnetic field. We all know how much our environment can affect us. We feel very differently in an impoverished polluted environment than when we are surrounded with beautiful nature. The fact that a corrupt elite could use this existing mind control wave technology to fulfill their agenda is more than likely. Secret government programs such as Operation Paperclip or Project MKUltra have been well-documented and are not conspiracy theories anymore. There is ample information on the Internet about the correlation of 5G with the coronavirus. Some experts are linking the adoption of new wave technology with past pandemics such as the 1918 influenza or the Hong Kong flu. They are also stating that viruses are reactions of the poisoned cell that, in defense against the poison itself, secretes the viruses to allow the cell to survive. If this is the case, confinement and social distance is completely useless so we would have brought an economic collapse for no reason. We live in a digital soup and the radio-frequencies coming from all of our devices is clearly affecting us. It is a fact that there are many more cases in countries that have deployed 5G technologies. Fortunately, the human body is amazingly adaptive and most of us will be able to develop immunity to this type of radiation as we continue to raise our vibration. The technologies we have developed have improved our life dramatically but they can also lead us to enslavement. Rudolf Steiner the founder of the Waldorf education, biodynamics and anthroposophy stated as early as 1917 that man needed to increase his spiritual power to adapt to the increased electrification of the earth. I understand this type of knowledge is not for everyone. People need to study it and make up their own mind.

Child trafficking

Through my 3 year relationship with a woman who was raised in a satanic cult, I got to understand the sophisticated mind control technology currently available to these secret societies. From my perspective, the best books on the topic have been written by Svali, a former trainer of the Illuminati as it matched almost perfectly with the personal experiences of my former spouse. Through her direct account, I got to understand that one percent of the population is mind-controlled from birth, and placed in key places of society. Many politicians, pop stars, judges, top athletes, celebrities, journalists, TV and media presenters, actors, business and financial moguls are mind-controlled slaves. They may have everything on the outside: wealth, fame, beauty, talent but be the most miserable person behind the curtains as they struggle with severe PTSD coming from the traumatic programming of their childhood. According to my ex-wife, but also whistleblowers such Los Angeles FBI chief Ted Gunderson or Robert David Steele, hundreds of thousands of children are exploited every year in the US alone for the benefit of these secret societies. Children are tested for special abilities through brutal training and testing. The ones that succeed become mind-controlled slaves who will be inserted in key places of society while the others will be used in pedophile rings or sacrificed in satanic rituals. For these shadow organizations, children are treated with even less humanity than pigs in a slaughterhouse. People stay mostly unaware of this terrible truth as most children come from “breeders” (cult members programmed to give birth to children to be used by the cult), orphanages or the foster care system. The whole world is shutting down because we have supposedly over 60,000 coronavirus deaths of people with an already compromised immune system, while we are oblivious to the vicious extermination and exploitation of millions of children across the globe every year. This truth is so disturbing that most people will dismiss it as a conspiracy theory. I was no different until I started a personal relationship with one of these satanic cult survivors.

Martial law, house arrest and group gathering prohibition

The pandemic has created conditions that any warmongers would have dreamed of. Curfew is imposed, and people are forbidden to meet. By extension, demonstrations are not allowed any more and fearful citizens are rallying behind their corrupt leadership. People in many countries are limited to one visit per week outside their home for basic necessities. Citizens are required to carry certificates if they go outside their home at the risk of getting important fines and even of getting arrested in case of repeated offense. Most people are happily complying with the sudden disappearance of personal freedom because they are made to believe that they are saving lives this way. All this is done without much data. Actually the countries with the strictest confinement rules are showing the most deaths at this point. Japan and Sweden are doing much better than Italy, France or Spain. We are now at war against an invisible enemy that justifies the removal of our civil liberties. This reminds me of the US government war on drugs by Richard Nixon whose aim was really to remove the competition and give a monopoly for the US shadow government to smuggle drugs into the USA to finance its black budget. This war on drugs achieved very little and on the contrary boosted the jail population to about 10 million people in the US by 2008 helping many unscrupulous individuals to get rich and profiting from the misery of others.

Destruction of small businesses

Employees are far more controllable than entrepreneurs. They need to comply with a top down hierarchical structure to keep their means of subsistence. While this is not always the case, strict compliance to a role is favored over creativity in large corporations or institutions. People lose their individuality to fulfill a corporate role. Most employees experience the fear of losing their job or the frustration of feeling controlled by a supervisor. Entrepreneurs feel more fulfilled and creative though their personal freedom comes with the price of hard-work and accountability. By shutting down all restaurants, lodges, stores, or any business dependent upon human interaction, the small businesses are the most impacted while the large corporations are here to profit. Amazon hired 100,000 more employees to meet with the increased demand due to the pandemic while small businesses are forced to shut down with almost no compensation. By enforcing strict confinement, our governments are destroying millions of small businesses while providing nothing in return. This can be equated to a forest fire that eventually will profit to the big trees, i.e. the large corporations. The large corporations are controlled by these same 1% or secret societies so it provides considerable advantage for the corrupt elite to enslave the masses by making them dependent financially. Dependent people are less likely to contest authority.

The stimulus package will impoverish the middle class even more

People naively think that the government stimulus package will save them. What would you think of a household that is already $230,000 in debt but only making $30,000 a year? Would you lend them another $20,000? Surely not if you were a bank. Well, this is the state of the US government. The US already has a $23 trillion dollar deficit but total tax revenue in any given year hardly exceeds $3 trillion dollars. It means that any US taxpayer owes the government $200,000 so the taxes that US citizens pay are really just paying interest on the money borrowed by the US government to the federal reserve, which is actually a private institution owned by invisible financial moguls. When the US government creates a stimulus package of $2.2 trillion dollars, it actually takes $20,000 from the pocket of every US tax payer. While Trump is insisting that the stimulus checks should have his name on them, this money is not coming from him but from all of us! This is not free money. All of this money printing will weaken the value of the dollar and will eventually decrease the purchasing power of all Americans. Unless small businesses are allowed to reopen soon, most of this money printing will end up in the pockets of large corporations and financial institutions. This will contribute even more to the disappearance of the middle class and we will be only be left with a privileged but controlled 1% and 99% of working poor and destitute people. The same logic can be applied to most European countries.

Vaccines and RFID

The media has already instilled a lot of fear in people to prepare them to accept any solution that will be presented to them. Along the lines of the movie Contagion starring Matt Damon, Jude Law, Kate Winslet, Gwyneth Paltrow and Marion Cotillard, all the people become desperate for a vaccine that they see as their only means for survival as per the propaganda. The media is already brainwashing the people into viewing vaccination as the holy grail. The concept of vaccination is a big debate in our society and I encourage people to make up their own mind about it. Mandatory vaccination is however a significant infringement on our most fundamental freedom. On a personal level, I do not trust the science behind vaccination and I will do everything in my power to avoid the future coronavirus vaccine. We now have the technology to insert RFID chips during vaccination and I simply do not trust the people in power to do anything without a hidden agenda. The governing powers are arguing that people without the vaccine are dangers to society as they could contaminate others. This reasoning is flawed as if their vaccine was that effective, vaccinated people would be immune to the disease so could not be contaminated. Starting with Bill Gates and Anthony Faucy, the elite that is promoting vaccination should be vaccinated first to put their money where their mouth is. Chip implant will make us no different than the pets or livestock that are already RFID’d.

Bill Gates

In one of Silicon Valley I founded, I had a CTO for 7 years that worked closely with Bill Gates. His boss reported directly to Bill Gates and my CTO used to have frequent interactions with Bill Gates. According to him, Bill Gates would often get into rages and use foul language with his employees. However, the public image of Bill Gates is very different. The media is portraying him as a stable and cool-headed individual, an innovator and a philanthropist. However things do not add up. Why would someone put so much energy to project an image of himself that he is not? Steve Jobs may have been a jerk but never tried to be someone that he is not. Microsoft had a poor reputation in the industry before, stealing ideas from others and practicing unethical business practices to crush the competition. After retiring from Microsoft, Bill Gates created a group of billionaires dedicated to spend their fortune to better humanity. However, his fortune (now over $100B) keeps increasing instead of decreasing while he vaccines the world away! How is that possible? He was close to Jeffrey Epstein who was conveniently suicided after being indicted for leading a prostitution and pedophile ring. He came from a wealthy family and his father had important ties with some of the most powerful American families. He warned the public years before about the pandemic to come in very exact terms. Is he simply a visionary or did he contribute to the problem in the first place? Now, he is omnipresent on the news as the media try to portray him as our new savior. He is pushing an agenda of mass vaccination and very strict confinement. It feels like he has groomed for a new and important role in the NWO for a long-time.

Cashless society

Conveniently, central banks and big tech companies are trying to push the agenda of a cashless society by stating that physical bank notes can be a carrier of the coronavirus. While there are benefits to a cashless society, there is too much at risk considering the level of depravity and corruption of the people in power. Using artificial intelligence, they could then instantaneously freeze the assets of anyone opposing their views on the basis of national security. Money is power, and there is already too much power into the wrong hands.

The New World Order (NWO)

Technology has reached a level of sophistication that it is now possible to create an Orwellian state. Artificial Intelligence and social media can be used to precisely identify the political views and interests of any citizen. Most of us are astonished at the accuracy of the online ads we receive on a daily basis. 5G networks make it possible to transmit a much larger amount of data for analysis and citizen tracking. More and more money circulation is electronic and can be easily followed. Is the coronavirus pandemic used to implement the last stages of a new technocracy? Will all people refusing to accept the NWO become marginalized in this new society?

The topics above are quite controversial and I have mentioned them to provoke people’s critical thinking. I will now address issues that cannot be contested from my perspective

When the remedy of the problem becomes far worse than the problem itself!

Economic collapse

With over 1 billion people confined in their own home, we are creating an economic collapse that will be the worst one of our lifetime. This is nothing else than a planned demolition of economies all over the world. Confinement is a luxury of the rich. When confinement is applied in developing countries such as India, Philippines or many African countries, it condemns to starvation large sections of the population that are incapacitated to earn any income. Desperate people take desperate actions. Civil unrest follows which can then justify brutal actions from authoritarian regimes. We may even create the conditions for a global conflict. I do not think I am taking any risk in saying that the controlled demolition of the worldwide economy will create more death than the pandemic itself.

Fear compromises the immune system

Most countries’ media are now instilling fear in people about the threat of the coronavirus 24/7. Because of this propaganda, most people are getting obsessed with being infected with the virus. As soon as they do not feel well, they immediately imagine the worst and dying a horrible death from Covid19. Dr Bruce Lipton is speaking eloquently on how the fear of the coronavirus has created much more damage than the disease itself. In the medical field, we need to account for the placebo effect when testing for drug efficacy because we understand that health starts with the mind. At least 5% of all diseases are estimated to be psychosomatic. People are not only getting worried for their health but they are now getting overly stressed financially because of the economic collapse triggered by strict confinement. House arrest combined very limited physical and social activities is creating conditions that considerably weakens the immune system of the population.

How the current pandemics reflects the complete powerlessness of the human collective consciousness

People have forgotten their true nature and how powerful they actually are. They see life as random and tragedies happening for no reason. They have forgotten that we live in a divinely orchestrated universe. After over 30 years of exploration and personal experiences, I can say without a doubt that the body cannot become sick unless there is dysfunction in our mental or emotional bodies. Our immune system is our best ally and not external drugs or vaccines. Prevention is always better than cure. I do recommend taking a promising treatment such as Dr Raoult’s chloroquine in severe cases but you will see adverse effects with any drug treatment. It is about assessing if the benefits of the treatment are higher than the risk. We increase our immune system vitality through physical exercises, good sleep, healthy diet, being in nature, exposure to sunlight, meditation, shadow work when difficult emotions emerge, being creative and social contact. As long as we keep a high vibrational state, we cannot be a match to any virus. Paul Micheal Glaser was the famous cop Starsky in the 70’s household TV series Starky & Hutch. He continued to have sexual intercourse with his wife Elizabeth even after he knew she was diagnosed with AIDS. He never contracted the disease. He had so much love for his wife that he never believed that she could give him anything that could harm him. Social distancing with loved ones is actually damaging to our immune system because we are a social species. We need to connect, to touch and to love. To love and to be loved will continue to be our most fundamental need even before food. We have much more power over our health and vitality than we could ever imagine. Many cancer survivors say that cancer is the best thing that happened to them because it forced them to re-evaluate their life and switch to a healthy lifestyle. Life is not random, and if we catch the coronavirus, let it be our teacher like any other hardship that has affected our life. Whether the coronavirus was man-made or an act of nature to reflect our harmful actions, it is at the end the same. We have become a match to that experience for a reason. By taking a holistic and introspective approach, we can gain from this global tragedy. In anything negative, there is always a positive intent and it is up to us to create meaning from this experience to grow in wisdom and self-awareness. Respiratory diseases are connected to the dysfunction of the heart chakra and I invite all of you to meditate upon this. I would just add that a society based on the exploitation of earth resources, animals and people goes fundamentally against unity consciousness.

There are worse things than death

We can see people’s true character when they are under pressure. I have always liked Wayne Dyer’s analogy that you know what a fruit is made of when it is squeezed. So when we are squeezed and pushed to our limits, what comes out of us? Love or selfishness? Anger or kindness? Depression or fighting spirit? During my spiritual explorations over the last 30 years, I got to realize that self-love and spiritual enlightenment is one and the same. For this reason, I have committed not to take any actions that will impede my ability to love myself, such as profiting from other people’s distress, lying to myself, lacking personal integrity or intentionally hurting another human being. Dying an honorable man is more important to me than surviving as a scelerat. We are on earth for a very short time anyway. Let’s make it worthwhile. The rush towards buying toilet paper, foods and weapons are indicative that most people are willing to lose their soul out of the fear of survival. Once we connect to our true nature, this type of short-cuts cease to be appealing.

Our hyper reactivity of the coronavirus pandemic is indicative of our selfishness.

We freak out about catching the coronavirus and we show no concern for the millions of children dying of starvation, for the raging wars in Syria, the flooding in Bangladesh or the earthquake in Haiti while they have caused so much more human casualty. But, when we are made to believe that anyone of us can get Covid19 and die a horrible death, only then so we start paying attention. This shows the lack of empathy of our society towards each other, and how self-centered we actually are.

Some GANP did not hesitate to say I should die or get severely sick from Covid-19 to dare contesting the mainstream media narrative. Death is the great mystery. This personality and this body eventually dies and if it is my time, I will accept it but not without a fight as I love life. I am not willing to stay alive at all costs however. I believe in the aspect of me that is immortal, life itself that is everywhere, eternal, always mutating and changing. Life always finds balance and unity. I have had spiritual experiences that have convinced me that love is the greatest force of the universe. Hardship and life challenges make us more humble, trusting and stronger. I simply refuse to live life from fear and control. There is always a choice. We can wake up to our true nature or alternatively become a piece of machinery in the gigantic matrix based on profiteering and the illusion of separateness. We can believe in unity consciousness or exploitation. The choice is ours. No one can take away your freedom unless you allow them to do so. Even if your external freedom is seriously infringed, there is always a way to keep your internal freedom and to stay true to your core values.

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